Not the same.
Oh shut it. My dad has never gotten drunk or done anything that equals physical or emotional abuse. She acts like one because she is under the delusion that nobody loves her when the opposite is true. I tell her I love her and she still mistreats me. She’s been mistreating me ever since I was a kid and she was a stay at home mum; how on earth can I have been at fault? Is it my fault that she is extremely jealous? Is it my fault that she wants my father to cut off absolutely all contact with all members of his family, even the ones she actually likes? Is it my fault that despite having to juggle school and helping at home I still get constantly shouted at? Is it a bad thing that I want to run away from pressure after pressure, problem after problem getting shouted at me all the time?
yes it is. You’re acting as if it is my own fault, as if entering the soldier life is going to fix things. I have more important goals than getting a job I will be unhappy in.
Unfortunately, as long as I can remember but it did get considerably worse when I entered puberty and recently it’s gotten to a point that I can’t stand it. I think her abusive behaviour towards me and other things are what have caused in me this intense social awkwardness and depression.
Well, I am sorry if I have misjudged the situation…but you will learn that it’s only wise to recognize that there are two sides to every story and every relationship. And families are a dynamic system.
Well be sceptical, it’s not like your advice is special dude. I go to school to have a job I will be satisfied in. I’m not going to make my life more miserable than it is. She is stressed out but she refuses our support and constantly shoots herself in the foot. How can we be supportive if she herself is psychotic?
Will do.
Getting into the military is not a simple issue of just getting work or as an escape from a difficult family situation. It is definitely not for everyone.
Thank you, and and thank you for saying it. I recognise that I may have been a tad too harsh but for crying out loud, guilt tripping me over not wanting to join the military is ridiculous, audacious and downright cruel. It’s the last thing anyone needs and it’s a nuiscance.Getting into the military is not a simple issue of just getting work or as an escape from a difficult family situation. It is definitely not for everyone.
And I sure wouldn’t want my sons to join up unless they felt it was their vocation or really wanted to do that.
My nephew joined up, fought in Afghanistan, and now that the soldiers don’t have a lot to do, Facebook posts indicate a lot of partying and drinking.
There are all kinds of pressures in the services. The OP may not have the right nature.
Why should he be criticized if he recognizes that and doesn’t wish to join?
He hasn’t found authority as in his family, well modeled.
We can’t foist a vocation that they don’t have onto someone else, just because we think it’s the solution!
In time he can leave home. Prayers for his mother and him, for his Dad and sister. Special prayers for the Dad because he can’t leave as easily.
Of course the mother is stressed, but we mothers are supposed to be nurturing, not destructive.
In any case, prayers for all
Good. You won’t be helping anyone with that attitude dude. You can’t push your opinions on me or anyone else, it’s selfish not to mention disgusting frankly.
It was just a suggestion. Not “foisted” in any way.Getting into the military is not a simple issue of just getting work or as an escape from a difficult family situation. It is definitely not for everyone.
And I sure wouldn’t want my sons to join up unless they felt it was their vocation or really wanted to do that.
My nephew joined up, fought in Afghanistan, and now that the soldiers don’t have a lot to do, Facebook posts indicate a lot of partying and drinking.
There are all kinds of pressures in the services. The OP may not have the right nature.
Why should he be criticized if he recognizes that and doesn’t wish to join?
He hasn’t found authority as in his family, well modeled.
We can’t foist a vocation that they don’t have onto someone else, just because we think it’s the solution!
In time he can leave home. Prayers for his mother and him, for his Dad and sister. Special prayers for the Dad because he can’t leave as easily.
Of course the mother is stressed, but we mothers are supposed to be nurturing, not destructive.
In any case, prayers for all
You’d only suggested one job, the army, the above was the criticism for rejecting your suggestion. It perhaps wasn’t recognized as such by yourself, but that’s how such comments logically register.
She is stressed out because, from your description, I would be extremely confident in saying she has a personality disorder. She doesn’t sound like the victim here at all. There are generally two sides to the story but when you live with someone with personality disorder there is literally nothing you can do to help, unless you can make yourself enjoy being yelled at for hours for no reason.
Wrong again…I did suggest (both before and after the suggestion about the military) that he needed to get some kind of job.You’d only suggested one job, the army, the above was the criticism for rejecting your suggestion. It perhaps wasn’t recognized as such by yourself, but that’s how such comments logically register.
Anyway this discussion has probably gone as far as it can.
God bless.
Well school will be almost over for the summer in 14-20 of June. I can still reapply for the next level in September(school starts October). I want to take a job contrary to what somebody else said, because I actually want to able to support myself, get a home, get away from it all and fund my own interests without all the emotional blackmail.
Yes, it should end, it should have ended when I told you that I didn’t take your ‘advice’ as good.
Yes of course. Better to get a job that allows you to permanently move away from her, and not one that wold leave you financially vulnerable in the future.