How do I find a Traditional Catholic Confirmation Sponsor?

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I plan of receiving Confirmation at a legitimate Tridentine Mass.

The trouble is, I don’t know how to go about finding a decent Sponsor.

There was a Priest that I would have loved to be my Sponsor, but I don’t think that he can do it.

Many of the Catholics that I know are either too liberal, too schismatic, or too young.

Does anybody know if it is acceptable to be Confirmed without a Sponsor?

Thank you for your help!:clapping:
 
The key is to meet more people, if none of your relatives or current acquaintances are acceptable.

Join the parish St. Vincent de paul society or become involved in the parish carnival or Night at the races, and start talking to people.

You’ll find someone appropriate I would think as you expand your social circle.
 
I have an opportunity to get Confirmed in Saint Louis, Missouri on October 15.

Would it be too late to sign up for that, do you think?

I also happen to know that Bishop Rifan(www.adapostolica.org) is coming to the US in November. His Excellency will be at Lincoln, Nebraska; Washington, DC; and Providence, Rhode Island. So Bisop Rifan is another possibility.

I have no Parish at present, and I have been going to various Novus Ordo Masses. So I literally have no decent person to be my Sponsor.

It is too late to get involved in any Parish life.

Is it acceptable to get Confirmed without a Sponsor? Because I may have to do that, if I can’t find a good one.

Thank you!
 
Is it acceptable to get Confirmed without a Sponsor? Because I may have to do that, if I can’t find a good one.
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Its certainly possible for someone to get confirmed without a sponsor, but it seems pretty irregular to do so.

At this point in time, it would probably be hard to find anyone whose schedule is open just ten days from now with the ability and willingness to travel to St. Louis on such short notice. Doubly so, considering your apparent high standards for whom you would accept as a sponsor.

Maybe if you talk to the priest, he knows someone who will be on location already and would be willing to take part as a sponsor.
 
Why don’t you try to hit a daily Mass? The more conservative crowd usually hangs out there. I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that I’m sure there’s somebody at your local parish who’s not liberal, schismatic, etc. 👍 Good luck!
 
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bear06:
Why don’t you try to hit a daily Mass? The more conservative crowd usually hangs out there. I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that I’m sure there’s somebody at your local parish who’s not liberal, schismatic, etc. 👍 Good luck!
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I need to find a Confirmation Sponsor who is a Catholic Traditionalist, that is, one who LOVES the Tridentine Mass. The daily Mass that I went to today(in another city) had THREE lay people(two of them women) helping the Priest to distribute Holy Communion. The Priest could probably have done it himself in five minutes or less! There were other abuses, as well for example: the Priest said “We should be happy to be called to this meal!”.

If I have a female Sponsor, I need one who ALWAYS covers her head in Church. Such women are very hard to find.

I truly don’t know who to pick!
 
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Freeway4321:
So… I take it contacting the good Bishop is out of the question?

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I don’t know, does he have an e-mail address? If I were to call his office, I would either have to specifically get long-distance minutes for my cell phone, which has unlimited local minutes.

And I also don’t know whether it is too late to sign up for this particular Confirmation.

And finally, Bishop Rifan is one of my all-time heroes.

I am having a hard time deciding!
 
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GoLatin:
I need to find a Confirmation Sponsor who is a Catholic Traditionalist, that is, one who LOVES the Tridentine Mass. The daily Mass that I went to today(in another city) had THREE lay people(two of them women) helping the Priest to distribute Holy Communion. The Priest could probably have done it himself in five minutes or less! There were other abuses, as well for example: the Priest said “We should be happy to be called to this meal!”.

If I have a female Sponsor, I need one who ALWAYS covers her head in Church. Such women are very hard to find.

I truly don’t know who to pick!
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Why do you need to find someone who loves the Tridentine? Why do you need someone who will cover their head all of the time? It would seem prudent for them to take a “when in Rome” stance for a sacrament performed at a Tridentine Mass.

From the 1913 Catholic Encyclopedia:
The Church prescribes under pain of grievous sin that a sponsor, or godparent, shall stand for the person confirmed. The sponsor should be at least fourteen years of age, of the same sex as the candidate, should have already received the Sacrament of Confirmation, and be well instructed in the Catholic Faith. From this office are excluded the father and mother of the candidate, members of a religious order (unless the candidate be a religious), public sinners, and those who are under public ban of interdict or excommunication. Except in case of necessity the baptismal godparent cannot serve as sponsor for the same person in confirmation
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GoLatin:
I don’t know, does he have an e-mail address? If I were to call his office, I would either have to specifically get long-distance minutes for my cell phone, which has unlimited local minutes.

And I also don’t know whether it is too late to sign up for this particular Confirmation.

And finally, Bishop Rifan is one of my all-time heroes.

I am having a hard time deciding!
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He probably does, but it seems to be too big of a deal to go about it.

If this Bishop Rifan is your “hero” then he’s your man.
 
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bear06:
Why do you need to find someone who loves the Tridentine? Why do you need someone who will cover their head all of the time? It would seem prudent for them to take a “when in Rome” stance for a sacrament performed at a Tridentine Mass.

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Because people who are devoted to the Tridentine Mass simply think differently than other people. It’s a whole different mindset.
 
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GoLatin:
Because people who are devoted to the Tridentine Mass simply think differently than other people. It’s a whole different mindset.
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So basically it’s not really a need, it’s a want. So what is the mindset of those that don’t attend a TLM? It must be a pretty important difference if you don’t feel that you could ever use one of us as a sponsor.
 
First, why this picking and choosing of when to get confirmed and by whom? I mean, if I was given the option of being confirmed at my normal parish with my usual priest or waiting a month and being confirmed by the pope when he visited our parish for a confirmation mass, I think I would postpone for the month. But all this going all over the country to pick and choose who will confirm you where seems odd to me. What does it matter what the faith of the priest is? What matters is YOUR faith.

Similarly, I find it odd that you want to find a sponsor who meets all these criteria to get confirmed within the month. While I can understand your desire to have someone who supports your views to be in the role of sponsor, you are then taking out all the “sponsor” jobs of helping you to grow in your faith and just sticking the person with the ceremonial duty of standing beside you. Why then does it matter who stands there, when you have diminished the role already?

Lastly, there have been several suggestions to help you in your search (contacting various bishops, for example) and you brush those away and instead want to charge forward on your own. What then are you looking for here? Someone to say s/he will sponsor you?
 
I’m glad that at least in some places they have Confirmations and maybe Baptisms in the Traditional mold. Out here in San Diego you have to go through your normal Parish for the sacraments. They don’t have permission from the Bishop here to have them here in the Traditional fashion. Maybe one day.
 
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GoLatin:
I need to find a Confirmation Sponsor who is a Catholic Traditionalist, that is, one who LOVES the Tridentine Mass.
How about if they love the Latin mass, but never attend it because it isn’t said at their parish?
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The daily Mass that I went to today(in another city) had THREE lay people(two of them women) helping the Priest to distribute Holy Communion. The Priest could probably have done it himself in five minutes or less! There were other abuses, as well for example: the Priest said “We should be happy to be called to this meal!”.
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Assuming that’s an abuse, and it sounds like it although I can’t be sure (priests are supposed to read the mass from the missal, not recite it from memory, and that don’t sound like its on the card.,
how does that reflect negatively on those in attendance at the mass?

IMO, you just don’t seem to have a very good attitude, almost a neodonatist attitude, where you think that sacraments aren’t valid except by a totally pure priest.

That just isn’t a very Catholic attitude at all.
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GoLatin:
I need to find a Confirmation Sponsor who is a Catholic Traditionalist, that is, one who LOVES the Tridentine Mass.
How about if they love the Latin mass, but never attend it because it isn’t said at their parish?

Assuming that’s an abuse, and it sounds like it although I can’t be sure (priests are supposed to read
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the mass from the missal, not recite it from memory, and that don’t sound like its on the card.,
how does that reflect negatively on those in attendance at the mass?

IMO, you just don’t seem to have a very good attitude, almost a neodonatist attitude, where you think that sacraments aren’t valid except by a totally pure priest.

That just isn’t a very Catholic attitude at all.

I think that Sacraments are valid even when they are administered by a less than pure Priest, as long as he is validly ordained.

I just simply prefer the Tridentine Mass.
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Forest-Pine:
First, why this picking and choosing of when to get confirmed and by whom? I mean, if I was given the option of being confirmed at my normal parish with my usual priest or waiting a month and being confirmed by the pope when he visited our parish for a confirmation mass, I think I would postpone for the month. But all this going all over the country to pick and choose who will confirm you where seems odd to me. What does it matter what the faith of the priest is? What matters is YOUR faith.

Many people who love the Tridentine Mass travel long distances to it. I see nothing wrong with wanting to travel to a Tridentine Confirmation, as long as it is legitimate. Tridentine Confirmations by a Bishop are much rarer than Tridentine Masses in general, so someone wanting a Tridentine Confirmation should be prepared to travel a distance.

Yes, I agree with you that my faith matters, but it is wonderful when the Priest is holy as well!

Similarly, I find it odd that you want to find a sponsor who meets all these criteria to get confirmed within the month. While I can understand your desire to have someone who supports your views to be in the role of sponsor, you are then taking out all the “sponsor” jobs of helping you to grow in your faith and just sticking the person with the ceremonial duty of standing beside you. Why then does it matter who stands there, when you have diminished the role already?

I want to have someone as my Sponsor that I can agree with, precisely because I want someone to help me grow in my faith. I do not think that I am taking out all of the “sponsor” jobs. Of course I want someone to stand beside me, but I want someone that will give me GOOD advice to help me grow in my faith.

Even if I get Confirmed in a month or two, my Sponsor can still have a relationship with me AFTER the ceremony.

I want someone that I can agree with. I had a terrible debacle with my Baptismal Sponsor, who has some very unusual ideas.

Lastly, there have been several suggestions to help you in your search (contacting various bishops, for example) and you brush those away and instead want to charge forward on your own. What then are you looking for here? Someone to say s/he will sponsor you?
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I have, within the last hour or so, contacted the Archdiocese of St. Louis through their Internet site, inquiring about the Confirmation scheduled for October 15. I have also contacted the Institute of Christ the King, Sovereign Priest, who staffs St. Francis de Sales Oratory. This is where the Confirmation will be held.

I have also e-mailed Bishop Rifan, asking him when he will be in the US. He will be in three different places from November 10-23: Lincoln, Nebraska; Washington, DC; and Providence, Rhode Island.

As for who to pick for a Sponsor, I don’t know yet. Would a Priest be a good choice?
 
Would a priest be a good choice? I suppose it depends on your relationship with the priest. If it was your uncle or a family friend would be different than if it was a man with a parish and duties of his own to attend to half way across the country that you will infrequently be in contact with. You sponsor should (preferably) be someone you can talk with on a regular basis, and ultimately even be with on a regular basis (dinners together, church, etc).
 
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