How Do I Get Out of a Vocation I Hate?

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God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
 
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God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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Hi my name is Brandee and I seen this and to be real with you WHAT! I am sorry but do you think that when the saints had hard times they where like the H*** with it? come on now look at how your life will be with out Him in it, and what old ways are going to make your life happy again? I mean if you do go back then I guess you will be saying the H*** with your life as you know it.

If you dont like what I have said am sorry but im just being real with you.
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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First of all, did you choose the eremitic life as a vocation? Were you consecrated as a hermit?

If so, I would refer you back to your spiritual director. If you don’t currently have one, find one fast. No lay person should attempt to live as a hermit without serious spiritual direction.

If not, then it isn’t really a eremitic vocation as much as a current situation. If you can’t seem to break out of it by yourself, you need to try to identify what is keeping you in this state. If it’s spiritual, again a good spiritual director is the way to go. If it is more emotional or personality based, a good Catholic counselor will probably be able to give you some good guidance.

I hope you find the peace you are looking for.
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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I would like to help you understand that God does not force anything on anybody … we all have free will. If you think that this is the path that God is asking you to follow then, by all means, continue to follow this path. For many of us the path that God wants us to follow is not easy, just ask Jesus ! It is so much easier to take the easy path, but most times the easy path does not teach us the lessons that we need to learn. Also keep in mind that the easy path does not lead us to God. Most times that we complain that we do not hear God it is only because we are not listening. You should talk with a spiritual director and get some (name removed by moderator)ut from them. This will help you greatly in your journey.
 
I third getting a spiritual director, make sure they are Orthodox Catholic. As a new Catholic especially you can be vulnerable to confusion. None of us can go through life alone and as Catholics we need fellowship. How old are you? I only ask so I might give you some ideas of how you might meet other Catholics. What area of the country? I’m assuming the US.
 
I can only concur with Corki’s comments.

I have the sense that this eremitical life you live is self imposed and you are not in a recognised religious community.
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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This sounds “not quite right”. You may be attributing things to God that do not come from Him. I really do think you need speak to your spiritual director. If you do not have one or cannot find one, I suggest talking with your confessor.
 
jpk1313,

The more I think of your post I am convinced this is a ‘wind up’.
There is no way you could be a member of a recognised religious community and make ridiculous post like you have.
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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I don’t believe you brother, I think you made all this up because you were bored.

I WISH YOU MANY BLESSINGS AND MAY GOD HAVE MERCY ON YOUR SOUL!!!
 
God does not force anyone into a vocation. That is the first thing that must be understood.

Next, get a spiritual director or if you have one you must talk about this with them.

There really is no advice we can give as we do not truly know your situation.

If you are hermit do you live in a hermitage with other hermits? If so then go to your superior if not may I ask what kind of hermit you are?

Being a hermit has to be one of the hardest vocations of all. In the very early Church as the Monastic life was starting up you could not just become a hermit, you had to enter a monastery and live under the rule for a time and receive training to be hermit before you were allowed to move out of the monastery to the hermitage.
 
ByzCath said:
God does not force anyone into a vocation. That is the first thing that must be understood.

In the very early Church as the Monastic life was starting up you could not just become a hermit, you had to enter a monastery and live under the rule for a time and receive training to be hermit before you were allowed to move out of the monastery to the hermitage.
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The above would be correct from say the 6th Century. Prior to that, the Desert Fathers (the first true hermits) circa Anthony, Pachomius were individuals who received no guidance/training whatsoever,
 
Cowfold said:
The above would be correct from say the 6th Century. Prior to that, the Desert Fathers (the first true hermits) circa Anthony, Pachomius were individuals who received no guidance/training whatsoever,
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True, but when others came to these Desert Fathers to join in the hermit life they required them to learn from them before they allowed it.

There is always going to be a beginning.

My point is, no one is forced to be hermit or to any other vocation by God. God does not remove our free will. God calls us, if we do not chose to answer that Call God still works with us where we are, he does not force us.
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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Don’t worry. It might be the Devil deceiving you and making you think it’s your call.

I went through the same crisis. It’s all right, it doesn’t last…

I think talking about this with a priest in whom you trust might help. :o
 
Hello jpk1313,

I sounds like your main goal in life is to satisfy yourself. If that is what your total agenda entails then I can promise you a life of emptiness and pain. You’re not looking for true love…otherwise you would be going outside of yourself to help others find their happiness.

Even your journey into being a hermit is just something that you did because you ‘wanted to’, isn’t it? That kind of life you must be “called by God” to do. Why? Because only He can give you the graces to accomplish it and grow in it.

My friend, you can start turning your life around by putting other people first, instead of yourself. It is in ‘giving of yourself’ that you gain the most!

I will pray for you. Please pray for me too, would you?

God bless you!
John
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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Get a spiritual director- you should not be living a life as a hermit without one. Your situation would best be dealt with in spiritual direction. In the meantime, keep praying. Look for ways to be involved with your parish, and any church-related groups that extend beyond your parish.
 
Why are members persisting in giving this thread the time of day. It should be fauirly cler to everybody that the initiator is winding people up and probably here just to cause mischief. Ignore him and he’ll go away!
 
jpk1313 said:
God through various life expirences has forced me into the life of the hermit and i was ok for a few years but I have come to just hate it and when I try to break free of it God just seems to slap me back down into this lonly life and I am getting so sick of it that I am seriously thinking of just saying to hell with it all and become an agnostic and going back to my old ways-drinking,drugs,loose women and just doing whatever I want. though I did leave all that junk the first time due to boredom with it and now I’m getting sick of this life style. I just have no real direction in life and god is saying nothing which just adds to the problem. I tend to grasp onto what ever gets my intrest and follow it till I get bored then move onto something else.
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I don’t think the OP is talking about being a consecrated hermit. Here is another post he wrote:
Is it moral to consider dating if someone has the std hpv (genital warts)? I in a moment of profound stupidity picked it up a couple of years ago when I picked up a woman I should not have (and would not have if I did not at the time have 12 beers in me). It is controlable up to a point but i’m just not sure if I should date and end up passing it along. I’m insanly lonely and keeping busy is like treating cancer with chiken soup and asprin. Or should I just go with the flow and just let her choose whether to continue?
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It takes many years to become a consecrated hermit - so I doubt that someone who a couple of years ago was drinking and whoring is now a consecrated hermit. Also, I don’t think most real hermits are struggling with whether they should tell their dates they have genital warts (or spending time posting on Internet websites).
 
The most important thing for you is to have a Spriitual Director, and preferably someone who is monastic. And with him you can address your many questions through guidance and prayer. God’s blessings upon you in your journey. J
 
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