How do I know if he's the one?

[Littleflower2105]

Hello everyone. I’m jot sure how this works. But I’m a Catholic girl who is needing some advice. So I’ll try to make the long story short. I recently met a man who goes to the same church as I and who sings in choir with me. We’ve known eachoth for a short time, but I just have this feeling. Like god just kinda slapped me in the face with it. I’m an over thiner, and I never just fallfor a guy, I never find a guy cute and just fall head over heels for him. But this man is beyoung cute in my eyes, he’s everything I set for a man. He’s caring, smart, a good strong faith, wants a big family, I remember we just kinda hit it off the first day we et, we talked and laughed, and today he gave me a peaflnecklace he designed and made himself for my birthday. And thats justa a short some up, today after mass I was honestly sad. I won’t see him again till next Sunday, and it made me sad, like I was missing something. So I need help. One, how I tell if he is really interested, and two any good prayers? I’ve never felt so sure about a man in my life, and though I’ve only known him a short while, he’s already dear to me.

 

[adamhovey1988]

You could always ask. Seriously, men like when when you’re direct with them. (Seriously, we HATE guessing), for the second part of your question, you can always say your own little prayer.

 

[joeybaggz]

I’m an over thiner,

thiner? (thinker??)

My advise, slow down a little. A week in relatiion to the rest of your life isn’t much. One thing an older and wiser man than I (at the tiime) suggested to me, I will suggest to you.
Get a piece of letter size paper. Make a T table (draw a vertical line down the center and a horizontal line at the top One the left column write the word Vital; one the right, the words, Nice to have. Then have coffee after Mass, go to a movie (gals can ask guys out in this modern age; duh!!) and find out the things about him that you hear and see in spending time with him.
An aside; I’ve been a jeweler for over 40 years, and pearl necklaces (assuming they are real cultured or at least good freshwater cultured pearls) are not cheap. Not a bad sign, I’d say.
Anyway, it sounds like you have answered some of those “vital” questions. Best of luck and a prayer said for you and him.

 

[Irishmom2]

Only time will tell.

But you can prolong the time by asking him if he would like to grab a cup of coffee after mass.

Don’t rush the relationship.

 

[kcooper]

Take your time and don;t rush things but take a chance and explore what may or may not be there. our initial instincts are not always correct. I had some great first and second dates that led nowhere really, But you never know.