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How do I leave my local Catholic Church Parish? This does not necessarily mean I am leaving the Catholic Church, only my local Church Parish.
Is there a letter I send?
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You move.

Parish membership is determined by your address, looking at where you are on a map and seeing which parish’s territory you live in.

Some parishes (especially in the United States) want people fill out paperwork to “register”, but this practice carries no legal significance and is not even that common in most of the world.
 
You don’t need to move. Simply start attending other parishes find one you like then join that one. Tell them at your old parish to take you off their membership. You only need tell the secretary.
 
It depends on what the OP is trying to accomplish. If he just wants to stop receiving mail from a particular parish, then he could simply ask the parish to remove him from their mailing list.

However, even if he asks his territorial parish to remove him from their membership, he still retains all the rights (e.g. the right to a funeral mass) and obligations (e.g. the obligation to get permission from the parish’s pastor before marrying) associated with living within the parish boundaries.

So, for example, if he felt that his pastor was wrongly denying him permission to marry, this situation could be resolved by moving. I think it could also be worked around by appealing to the bishop (although, given the OP’s recent threads, I doubt this is the situation he finds himself in).
 
How do I leave my local Catholic Church Parish? This does not necessarily mean I am leaving the Catholic Church, only my local Church Parish.
Is there a letter I send?
Thanks
You can attend any parish you wish. Registration is not required but if you feel that you would like to register at a new parish you may. Most parishes will perform the sacraments for you if you are registered with them. Your parish of record will always be the one that you live in the boundaries of.

I would encourage sending a letter (very nicely worded and respectful) detailing why you feel the need to attend elsewhere. This can be helpful feedback for pastors as long as it is done respectfully and with charity.
 
You move.

Parish membership is determined by your address, looking at where you are on a map and seeing which parish’s territory you live in.

Some parishes (especially in the United States) want people fill out paperwork to “register”, but this practice carries no legal significance and is not even that common in most of the world.
Notify the office. It is extremely important to keep up with the data base in your Diocese.
If you register in another place, your membership can/will not be noted in the National database until you are off the register of your present parish.
This impacts
  1. the cost of envelopes for your parish
  2. the ability of your Pastor to verify or not verify your eligibility for sponsorship for Sacraments ( he may not know you by sight…he may have to rely on the database and say “well, he’s not even registered here! I can’t speak for him, his pastor should!”
  3. tracking of your contributions for your tax records
  4. whether or not you get notices via phone, mail, or Archdiocesan mailings as counted as within a particular parish. The parishes are “taxed” by their Diocese based upon the numbers of their membership. Your past parish may be unfairly taxed for your presence if you don’t notify them. How would they know you left? They may be charged for the Diocesan publications for your household as well.
  5. People have a tendency to ask for favors and special consideration based on their membership. (like: my neighbor is in the hospital Father, can you go see her?)
    You are far more likely to get more sympathy if they know you are active in the parish and can see you on the rolls.
  6. people come to me all the time and say “My child was Baptized in Kalamazoo, can you get proof of Baptism for me, she wants to get married in a nearby parish.” Before I make that long distance call to assist them, I look it up.
    Maybe some people think there is no legal significance, but as a practical matter. YES.
    I work in a parish. This info is used often. Quite often.
Plus, it’s common courtesy.
 
How do I leave my local Catholic Church Parish? This does not necessarily mean I am leaving the Catholic Church, only my local Church Parish.
Is there a letter I send?
Thanks
The best thing to do is to have your geographic pastor (assuming you are currently attending your geographically assigned parish) address a letter to the pastor of your chosen parish that it’s OK for you to change parishes.

For example, this kind of process is required in the Archdiocese of Philadelphia. Parishioners in the AD of Philadelphia must receive the the Sacraments of Initiation in their home parishes. And one must have their canonical pastors permission to marry. So permission to officially change parishes must be official.

However, in some smaller parishes, they don’t enforce their canonical boundaries (or at least the parishes take care of the paperwork behind the scenes with no questions asked.)

Even if you don’t need the letter in your diocese, it’s good to have in case a future Bishop decides to enforce the canonical boundaries due to resource issues.

Now, if you are not worried about funerals, parish cemeteries, communion for “shut-ins”, visitation at hospitals, being elected or appointed to the pastoral committee or parish board of trustees, weddings, baptisms, first communions, and/or confirmations… just simply go to whatever parish you wish to attend. You can always attend mass and confession at any Catholic Church.

But the other sacraments and services are typically and canonically limited to geographic parishioners due to resource management. And because a pastor is responsible for ALL souls in his territorial (or personal) parish (even the non-Catholics), just like a Bishop is responsible for ALL souls in his diocese.

I pray that this is helpful.

God Bless!
 
The best thing to do is to have your geographic pastor (assuming you are currently attending your geographically assigned parish) address a letter to the pastor of your chosen parish that it’s OK for you to change parishes.

For example, this kind of process is required in the Archdiocese of Philadelphia. Parishioners in the AD of Philadelphia must receive the the Sacraments of Initiation in their home parishes. And one must have their canonical pastors permission to marry. So permission to officially change parishes must be official.

However, in some smaller parishes, they don’t enforce their canonical boundaries (or at least the parishes take care of the paperwork behind the scenes with no questions asked.)

Even if you don’t need the letter in your diocese, it’s good to have in case a future Bishop decides to enforce the canonical boundaries due to resource issues.

Now, if you are not worried about funerals, parish cemeteries, communion for “shut-ins”, visitation at hospitals, being elected or appointed to the pastoral committee or parish board of trustees, weddings, baptisms, first communions, and/or confirmations… just simply go to whatever parish you wish to attend. You can always attend mass and confession at any Catholic Church.

But the other sacraments and services are typically and canonically limited to geographic parishioners due to resource management. And because a pastor is responsible for ALL souls in his territorial (or personal) parish (even the non-Catholics), just like a Bishop is responsible for ALL souls in his diocese.

I pray that this is helpful.

God Bless!
Yes. Well stated! Thank you !
 
You don’t need to move. Simply start attending other parishes find one you like then join that one. Tell them at your old parish to take you off their membership. You only need tell the secretary.
No, Ack is correct. You move. Registration does not determine what parish you belong to. It’s determined by where you live, or in some cases, your ethnicity.

This is important in some areas, such as marriage where permissions need to be issued. Other areas include dispensations which are reserved to one’s pastor. Such an authority lies with the priest of the parish in which you live, not where you are registered.

The only way to canonically switch parishes is to move.
 
No, Ack is correct. You move. Registration does not determine what parish you belong to. It’s determined by where you live, or in some cases, your ethnicity.

This is important in some areas, such as marriage where permissions need to be issued. Other areas include dispensations which are reserved to one’s pastor. Such an authority lies with the priest of the parish in which you live, not where you are registered.

The only way to canonically switch parishes is to move.
This does not really apply across the board. Depends on your Diocese.
When in doubt, all and inquire at the office or the Chancery.
 
I believe that requirement was removed. We do belong to our geographical parishb but for a few years did not. We attended a parish that celebrated a Tridentine Mass as well as the English. All we needed to do was to subit a letter of resignation to our former parish and another letter to the new one,

When we did go back, we just re registered.

One reason is when for example you’re hospitalized it’s more convenient for your geographic parish priests or Eucharistic ministers to visit when you are close by. The other parish wasn’t that close and had only an older pastor, while we were lucky enough to have two priests.

It’s also easier to attend parish activities and get to know people better when you live nearby, especially when bad weather intervenes.

However, if you’re more comfortable in another parish nearby, I’d register there.m some have more youth activities than others, and if you have children that’s important.
 
You move.

Parish membership is determined by your address, looking at where you are on a map and seeing which parish’s territory you live in.

Some parishes (especially in the United States) want people fill out paperwork to “register”, but this practice carries no legal significance and is not even that common in most of the world.
Actually, moving is not strictly necessary. While you’re correct that technically a given address “falls” within a particular parish, it’s not necessarily a “requirement” that you attend that parish. When we lived in the U.S. when I was little, my parents attended their “home parish” at first. That lasted until they found out the parish was run like General Motors. They started attending another parish outside of town. We attended there until we returned to Canada some years later. The priest at this parish became a family friend.
 
I believe that requirement was removed. We do belong to our geographical parishb but for a few years did not. We attended a parish that celebrated a Tridentine Mass as well as the English. All we needed to do was to subit a letter of resignation to our former parish and another letter to the new one,

When we did go back, we just re registered.

One reason is when for example you’re hospitalized it’s more convenient for your geographic parish priests or Eucharistic ministers to visit when you are close by. The other parish wasn’t that close and had only an older pastor, while we were lucky enough to have two priests.

It’s also easier to attend parish activities and get to know people better when you live nearby, especially when bad weather intervenes.

However, if you’re more comfortable in another parish nearby, I’d register there.m some have more youth activities than others, and if you have children that’s important.
It’s really more than preference and fellowship. The parish priest has certain powers not possessed by other priests, such as the power to dispense from vows or obligations. If your parish is the one where you live, then one can register anywhere as much as he likes, but registration does not make him a canonical member of his parish. Residence does. Now, as pianistclaire mentioned, there may be exceptions as laid down by the Conference, but to my knowledge, there has been no exception made to the definition of parish member laid down in Canon Law.

Mass attendance is usually not an issue. The issues start to arise when you need the power of the pastor, e.g. dispensations, or if something comes up that requires the awareness or even approval of the parish priest (e.g. marriages).

I’m an example, however, of the pot calling the kettle black, because as of present time, I am not involved in my territorial parish of which I am canonically a member. I attend and am registered with the parish that offers the Extraordinary Form. This may cause me problems if I need a dispensation down the road and I haven’t formed a relationship with my territorial pastor, as he doesn’t even know I exist. I should probably rectify that situation in any case, as it would be, at the very least, odd to approach my pastor out of the blue, “Hi Father. You don’t know me, but I live here, but am registered with another parish. Can I have a dispensation from Mass this Sunday?”
 
This is interesting, because your diocese seems to track these things much more closely than mine (I assume you’re in the United States, as I am).

Our diocese estimates the size of each parish by counting the number of people attending Mass at every parish on a certain day of the year. Tax recordkeeping and mailings are done by individual parishes rather than the diocese. The diocese’s yearly fundraising appeal has its own mailing list, rather than using the records collected by the parishes.

At my parish, the only real effect of registering is getting pre-printed envelopes. I think only around 30% of the regular Mass-goers at my parish are registered (and the remaining 70% includes some frequent donors who donate by check).

What is the “national database” that you’re referring to? I can see how sacramental record-keeping would be far easier with a national database, but I didn’t think there was such a thing.
Notify the office. It is extremely important to keep up with the data base in your Diocese.
If you register in another place, your membership can/will not be noted in the National database until you are off the register of your present parish.
This impacts
  1. the cost of envelopes for your parish
  2. the ability of your Pastor to verify or not verify your eligibility for sponsorship for Sacraments ( he may not know you by sight…he may have to rely on the database and say “well, he’s not even registered here! I can’t speak for him, his pastor should!”
  3. tracking of your contributions for your tax records
  4. whether or not you get notices via phone, mail, or Archdiocesan mailings as counted as within a particular parish. The parishes are “taxed” by their Diocese based upon the numbers of their membership. Your past parish may be unfairly taxed for your presence if you don’t notify them. How would they know you left? They may be charged for the Diocesan publications for your household as well.
  5. People have a tendency to ask for favors and special consideration based on their membership. (like: my neighbor is in the hospital Father, can you go see her?)
    You are far more likely to get more sympathy if they know you are active in the parish and can see you on the rolls.
  6. people come to me all the time and say “My child was Baptized in Kalamazoo, can you get proof of Baptism for me, she wants to get married in a nearby parish.” Before I make that long distance call to assist them, I look it up.
    Maybe some people think there is no legal significance, but as a practical matter. YES.
    I work in a parish. This info is used often. Quite often.
Plus, it’s common courtesy.
 
Mass attendance is usually not an issue. The issues start to arise when you need the power of the pastor, e.g. dispensations, or if something comes up that requires the awareness or even approval of the parish priest (e.g. marriages).
I wonder if there is particular law in the United States extending some powers of the pastor to other priests, because attending Mass outside of one’s parish is so widespread here. I’m thinking of something like when Pope Benedict allowed priests at WYD 2011 to remove latae sententiae excommunications resulting from abortions, which normally can only be removed by the bishop. From what I understand, many (most?) bishops in the US have given their priests the authority to reverse such excommunications routinely.

I doubt most parish priests know offhand who lives within their parish and who doesn’t, and the issue of jurisdiction is serious enough that it could invalidate any dispensations and sacraments that are performed improperly. (Perhaps Canon 144 would make a dispensation valid even if a pastor wrongly assumed that a person lived within parish boundaries – I am not a canonist so I’ll have to pass here.)

(Edit: I see you are not in the United States. I wonder if Canada is similar to the United States here; more specifically, if parish “registration” is common in Canada, and if Canadian bishops allow their priests to reverse the aforementioned excommunications.)
 
This is interesting, because your diocese seems to track these things much more closely than mine (I assume you’re in the United States, as I am).

Our diocese estimates the size of each parish by counting the number of people attending Mass at every parish on a certain day of the year. Tax recordkeeping and mailings are done by individual parishes rather than the diocese. The diocese’s yearly fundraising appeal has its own mailing list, rather than using the records collected by the parishes.

At my parish, the only real effect of registering is getting pre-printed envelopes. I think only around 30% of the regular Mass-goers at my parish are registered (and the remaining 70% includes some frequent donors who donate by check).

What is the “national database” that you’re referring to? I can see how sacramental record-keeping would be far easier with a national database, but I didn’t think there was such a thing.
It’s also worth noting that parish and regional catholic schools often offer tuition discounts official, registered members of their parish or pastoral area. Registering in your parish is often how you are eligible for those discounts.

Plus registering is how the parish can provide you with papers for tax deductions for people who itemize their taxes.

Also, there are some pastors who will only allow children to baptized if the parents are registered in the Church and have been coming to mass for X months. The reason why some pastors do this is because if the pastor doesn’t know you, he may use registration and seeing you at mass as a way to make him feel comfortable that your child will be raised in the Faith. Even in dioceses where they manage the who transfer of parishioners behind the scenes.
 
This is interesting, because your diocese seems to track these things much more closely than mine (I assume you’re in the United States, as I am).

Our diocese estimates the size of each parish by counting the number of people attending Mass at every parish on a certain day of the year. Tax recordkeeping and mailings are done by individual parishes rather than the diocese. The diocese’s yearly fundraising appeal has its own mailing list, rather than using the records collected by the parishes.

At my parish, the only real effect of registering is getting pre-printed envelopes. I think only around 30% of the regular Mass-goers at my parish are registered (and the remaining 70% includes some frequent donors who donate by check).

What is the “national database” that you’re referring to? I can see how sacramental record-keeping would be far easier with a national database, but I didn’t think there was such a thing.
Archdiocese of Atlanta.
We use ParishSoft, which has records from all 50 states in it. It does every time I’ve looked, anyway.
The parish has to tell the Diocese how many parishioners they have on the rolls. We can’t “fudge” it. Yes, the Archdiocese has a mailing list, but they do get info from the parishes. For example, the Archdiocesan paper, the mouthpiece of the Archbishop goes to most every household. they are aware of what zip codes fall within our territory. If someone lives in our zip, but worships in another, we may still be charged fro their subscription.
As you correctly state, it comes into play more when dealing with Sacramental prep and verification for Catholic schools and so forth.
We do have people who believe they are registered at 3 different parishes because they like to hop around. But I’ll bet they are not officially on those 3 rolls…just one. And one day, they will be surprised. Hopefully, not unpleasantly.
 
I wonder if there is particular law in the United States extending some powers of the pastor to other priests, because attending Mass outside of one’s parish is so widespread here. I’m thinking of something like when Pope Benedict allowed priests at WYD 2011 to remove latae sententiae excommunications resulting from abortions, which normally can only be removed by the bishop. From what I understand, many (most?) bishops in the US have given their priests the authority to reverse such excommunications routinely.

I doubt most parish priests know offhand who lives within their parish and who doesn’t, and the issue of jurisdiction is serious enough that it could invalidate any dispensations and sacraments that are performed improperly. (Perhaps Canon 144 would make a dispensation valid even if a pastor wrongly assumed that a person lived within parish boundaries – I am not a canonist so I’ll have to pass here.)

(Edit: I see you are not in the United States. I wonder if Canada is similar to the United States here; more specifically, if parish “registration” is common in Canada, and if Canadian bishops allow their priests to reverse the aforementioned excommunications.)
Yes, it is, pretty much U.S.-style. However, I’m not aware of any particular law that ties registration with canonical parish membership here either.

I think, though, in the case of excommunications, any confessor can lift the penalty from any repentant penitent, as is the usual case in the U.S. But that’s different from things like dispensations and marriage requirements.
 
I think maybe you should call your archdiocese and ask them if it is possible to leave officially the parish you are in and what the impact would be if you registered elsewhere and never went to the local parish.
In my own situation, it wouldn’t matter if I went to one or the other parish in my city because I live on the borderline between them and the Chancellor of the archdiocese said the boundary maps aren’t too clear in this particular area (my well traveled street isn’t even on the map they have) and so I could just pick one of the parishes.
 
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