How do I love this neighbor?

[twosweetgirls]

I was just wondering how things have been since you had the chat with your neighbor who wanted waaaaaay more of a personal relationship with you.

Update, if you can! I’ve been thinking of you.

 

[gwenred]

Haven’t heard anything from her. Time will tell, though!

 

[kbharbert]

Hey, I’m still fairly new to these boards, and y’all seem to have quite a bit of common sense along with a desire to live a Christian life,so I would appreciate some advice on a situation I am in.

**being ‘nice’ doesn’t mean you have to have her hooked to your hip.
you could use the next ‘relationship’ conversation to become very serious and just ASK her where it is she wants your friendship to go.
ASK if she’s interested in a ‘friendship’ or a romantic relationship and go from there.
yes…it will be QUITE un-nerving and embarrassing but…that bit of embarrassment NOW will save you LOADS of problems down the road.
**

 

[gwenred]

“ASK if she’s interested in a ‘friendship’ or a romantic relationship and go from there.
yes…it will be QUITE un-nerving and embarrassing but…that bit of embarrassment NOW will save you LOADS of problems down the road.”

Hopefully the issue is now past, but if it should come up again, I think you are absolutely right! Perhaps if I had been able to be that upfront about it the first time it happened, I would not have been as desperate as I was feeling when I posted this. Thanks for the response!

 

[kbharbert]

Thanks for the response!

**you’re welcome.
i’m really good at advise…following it is another story.
we are dealing with a new neighbor that is kinda odd.
first son got a dressing down for mowing what is OUR property but which she told the man giving her an estimate to mow hers was HER property. i figured it was a simple misunderstanding on the lawnmower guys part.
a couple of weeks later she flagged down the 7 year old and sent him home with a frozen turkey. when my daughter went to thank her, she said that the lady seemed nice enough and said to daughter that she just thought we could use her surplus. fine i thought. next time i bake some bread or something, i’ll send HER some to be friendly.
2 weeks later she puts up a sign that doesn’t allow anyone to turn in her driveway unless (the sign says) they buy a load of gravel for it. since no one has spun any gravel off it it seems sort of odd of her and it will make it kind of hard on US because of the way we need to park; even harder come winter when we need a run for the hill that is our street but…it’s her driveway so okay. we don’t turn there anymore.
now she’s planted some sort of plant startings right ON one of the property lines. it’s an area where son and the 7 and 4 year old have ALWAYS taken their bikes through to reach the road because on OUR side there’s more hill and it’s pretty bike unfriendly.
add to all of that this is a dead end road and even though the kids ride their bikes on it daily, this woman and her relatives speed up and down it without paying any attention.
hubby works out of state but has agreed to speak to her when he gets home in a week or so.
frankly, i am NOT the one to do it.
i’d forget ALL about being nice and charitable in short order. **