I like to complain at home over trivia things. What do you suggest as far as being more joyful for lent and less a whiner? What things should I do in lent to make me more joyful? What things should I not do? Does seeking to be more joyful dishonor lent? Above all, what is the best way to stop/minimize my complaints?
incorporate deliberate prayers of thanksgiving for those very things that are causing your complaints
your kids have messed up the house, again, after you just cleaned
thank God for the children, the roof over your heads, and all the stuff they are throwing around
a driver cuts you off in traffic
thank God no one had an accident or got hurt, that you have transportation available, and a quick prayer for that driver, that whatever problem was distracting him is resolved
you don’t like the food
thank God for the food, and eat it anyway
and so on.
the Rule of St. Benedict is as harsh on grumbling and complaining as it is on any other offense, and names it as one of the biggest barriers to sanctity, humility and spiritual progress.
a complaint is basically a claim to entitlement:
this is my house, I will run it my way
this road belongs to me, get out of my way
I have a right to good food, prepared my way, served in my time
once we accept that we are entitled to nothing, all is gift, thanksgiving becomes easier.