How do I wean in a fast manner?

[Murphster]

Just one last thing. I just want everyone to know that I would never torture my children or myself this way if weaning were not medically necessary. Their pediatrician, my doctor and my OB all say I have to wean due to the medication. I looked on the list that one poster so generously posted (thank you very much!) and my medication is not listed as being safe. This medication is NEVER EVER given to children and that is why there are no extensive studies of the effects on them (which are presumed to be bad effects). I really wish I did not have to wean but please please don’t think I am doing this for some aspirin or something!

One thing that does influence me is that my ex-annulled-husband who terminated his parental rights is now seeking to have visitation with them. He has made some threatening comments about trying to “make” me re-visit the idea of having his rights re-instated. The last thing I want to do is defy the advice of THREE DOCTORS and then go ahead and nurse while taking this LONG TERM (it’s also extended release) medication and then God forbid something happen to my children because of it. That would be something he might definitely use in the future as a reason for him to have access to my angels. He is an attorney and I don’t doubt his ability to go after what he wants if he thinks he has a way to do so. I can just see “child endangerment” or something.

Sorry if I sound rude, I don’t mean to. I hate this more than anything and I wish I didn’t need this medication so I could continue to blissfully nurse them and keep them so happy an bonded to me. It is breaking my heart. I hope tonight gets easier. Thank you all for listening, I wish I knew nursing moms in my real life!

 

[leaner]

I am so sorry – I really do wish I could just reach out and hug ya!!! I can totally see your worries on the ex…amazing how nasty people can get, no? Oy, not a fun situation…you sound incredibly strong, and your girls are so lucky to have a mom who wants to help them understand!!! It is amazing how much they can grasp at such a young age! My angel is screaming, but I wanted to tell you I wish you all the best, and comfort – hot showers with hand expressing, cabbage leaves help for sure! Tylenol, and more hand expressing (just don’t let what’s in there stagnate too long is all) – lots of hugs cuddles and kisses and plenty of skin to skin contact might help with the “disconnect” feeling for them – by skin to skin, I mean laying on your thighs, arms, etc…but skin, not clothing, kwim? I cannot even begin to imagine nursing twins for a whole year!! That in and of itself is amazing – God has sent you this challenge for a reason, and someday perhaps you will be able to see it more clearly (perhaps ex-H would convince some old stuffy judge that you nursed them too long or something equally as odd… ) – but there is a reason, and I don’t think these challenges come to us out of anything but His love. Talk to your girls a lot too – you both need the contact, emotionally and physically. And always feel free to PM me if you feel like venting – it’s hard when you don’t have that support – I’ve been there too (I was overseas when I had my first…just me and a DH several countries away) – no one to ask, vent, gush, cry…it’s really hard when it’s just you

Anywho…you’re no good to the girls if you’re not taking meds to heal yourself – it’s the lesser of the two evils in this case

You done good – bottom line!

 

[spacecadet]

My heart breaks for you. I will be praying for you and your twins tonight. I second prayers to the Blessed Mother. DO NOT FEEL LIKE A BAD mother. Your nursed your girls way longer than most moms would even consider. Just think of all the benefits you gave them; lower risk of breast cancer, ear infections, allergies, obesity, etc… YOU DONE GOOD GIRL!!!. This will be a hard time but it will pass. Please email me anytime if you need to chat.

here’s a hug

here’s another important link for anyone else reading this thread that needs info on medications and breastmilk
neonatal.ttuhsc.edu/lact/
Thomas Hale, Prof of Pediatrics is the expert in this area

 

[kristacecilia]

I just wanted to let you know that I am still praying for you!

I hope the weaning is going well. The book idea was fabulous. Now the little angels will always know what a great time they spend with their mom and how devoted she was to nurse them for so long!

You are an awesome mother! Keep up the great work!