The process is called “discernment.” You have to seek out what God is calling you to. Sometimes it’s more obvious than others.
We all have a vocation of one sort or another. For most folks, it is the married life. For some special ones, though, it is the religious life. God has a plan for each and every one of us with regard to building His Kingdom. We are most happy when we find and follow that plan.
It is a process that involves prayer and also listening. Just as much as you ask the Lord to speak to you, you must also listen to Him. Time in silent meditation in front of the Blessed Sacrament is very conducive to that.
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