That’s the age I went from “hey, kid!” to “Miss.”
Well, the d-less fast-shouted pronunciation does sound a bit like springing to attention. I always pronounce the d.
Good Southern school, by the way, regarding your earlier posts. :tiphat:
@Just wondering: Good point about showing someone he’s worthy of a meal to you. However, I don’t think it has the connotation of the same respect which has to be earned, do you? After all, if a woman is in a man’s company for any reason when it comes to getting a meal, the man should pay. Unless perhaps it’s a daily lunch break at work.
Naturally, while a woman could keep accepting invitations, it would be a nice thing to extend one in reciprocation some time, or in some situations even offer to split the bill. Where I live, the woman will practically always offer to split or pay for herself, then if the other is kindly turned down, she either insists or not. If she doesn’t let you pay for her, she’s considerate. If she lets you pay for her, it means she doesn’t mind you paying for her, which says quite a lot. It’s even hard to say which one possibility is better.
I think they are great but it should go both ways! and sometimes I think it can go to far. For instance the man ALWAYS being expected to pay for a date. And also I think someone mentioned tipping your hat at a woman when she walks in a room and or standing up.
Actually, a man rises to a man too, same with the hat. A woman would also stand up sometimes, even to man, to show some special respect.
But yes, it does go both ways. This doesn’t necessarily mean saying an individual “thank you” for every single gesture of courtesy, but there are many ways in which a woman can reciprocate. In fact, it should be self-inspired rather than reciprocal, anyway. There’s nothing wrong with a woman getting out of her way to be kind or respectful to a man. It does not degrade her in any way. The opposite, actually.
Naturally, in a relaxed setting where people move around all the time, such as an office where people go out of their rooms a lot to fetch prints, send a fax or get a coffee, it may not be a great idea to keep standing up like that every time.
My best guy friends are all very chivalrous towards me. I haven’t been on a date in over a year, yet when with them, I’ve never had to buy a coffee, open a door, pay for dinner, walk back to my dorm alone at 2 AM. They are so sweet and protective of us girls, it makes them very endearing.
That is the right way. It’s a bit bland when it only affects romantic interests. Were she your bitterest enemy, you still pull her chair and you still have to be ready to catch her if she slips.
I have always wanted a man to pull out my chair for me. Never has happend.
That is shameful.
@Belgarion: It is very kind to ask
for rather than asking to, especially if the other party would have to give you a lot of credit, but be careful and don’t start feeling inferior to women as if it were degrading for them to ask us actually, should they like our company. Naturally, they could also ask us for a meeting rather than asking to.
His point is, yes, guys should be chivalrous but it should be a two way street. Why should the man have to do everything?
