I think that what you’ve mentioned aren’t ‘beliefs’ but are more like your preferences as to how things should be done. Some of your preferences are the same as mine. I love praise music too, and I do think some of it is appropriate to sing at mass. I love the mass at my diocesan charismatic conference because it’s so reverent but also joyful. I prefer to receive communion from the priest. But my bishop has permitted EMHC’s, so I would not change to another line for communion just because of my preference. I don’t mind seeing girls serving at mass but I think we need to encourage boys to do so. But these things are secondary to real beliefs and doctrines.
One of my friends wears a veil at mass and would always prefer to attend a Latin mass if possible. My roommate doesn’t enjoy going to mass, does it mostly out of obligation, but she prays and has great faith in God. Some of my friends belong to the Alliance of the Two Hearts, which is too extremely pious for me but is just right for them.
The thing is, there are many kinds of spiritualities in the Catholic church and you may be drawn to some and not to others. That’s fine. Just remember what’s essential, what the church teaches, and hold fast to that. Have faith in Jesus, the sacraments, and the authority of the church. Think charitably of others and don’t look down on those who disagree with you.
Don’t try to find people who agree with you on every practice. Look for those who love God and practice their faith. Don’t worry about ‘fitting in’. If you’re a faithful Catholic, you fit in just fine.
And whatever the style of mass, the kind of music or the rite, if it’s done according to what the church permits it’s OK. If I go to the EF high mass in Canada with the homily in French or the OF in Spanish at a local parish or mass at the charismatic conference, God is doing the same wonderful thing at each mass. Try to overlook what doesn’t appeal to you and focus on God.
And your preferences aren’t in any way wrong. There’s nothing wrong with how you feel, just don’t focus on them too much. And if you’re in agreement with the two priests you mentioned you’re in good company.
