How do you prevent conception for medical reasons?

[jrabs]

I would call it trust.

Well, the Church teaches that such risk taking jeopardizes the soul.

Your opinion is not Church teaching and does nothing to help the OP in steering him toward a good and solid Catholic decision.

 

[rick43235]

I am certain no one here suggested giving it up completely.

This individual did.

…you can abstain if her condition is that serious.

 

[Michael96]

Your opinion is not Church teaching and does nothing to help the OP in steering him toward a good and solid Catholic decision.

I’m wary of any formulaic approach to a specific circumstance. I believe the Church sets out fantastic ideals and then each of us need to take all those teachings and apply them to complicated real life situations (in this case the welfare of his wife must be a very important consideration).

But I’ve said my piece now. God bless you all +

 

[hasikelee]

My wife just suffered through a second late term miscarriage after delivering 4 beautiful healthy children. The doctors have told us that any subsequent pregnancies will end with a miscarriage due to her internal issues (don’t want to go into it on a public forum). There is also a good chance that she might lose her life as a result (she had emergency procedures done both miscarriages)

We have always practiced NFP and nothing else and we know that there is always a chance on conception even when she is not in the fertile stage of her cycle (our first miscarriage was unplanned)

Is there something we can do medically that would prevent a pregancy or we solely at the mercy of God on this one? There would seem to some logic that says that being responsible would include making sure that her life is not at risk.

Can anyone please comment on this? Thanks!

Before you start looking for ways to sterilize/stop conception, find several specialists who will personally assist your wife with her health issues.

My MIL has experienced more miscarriages (late term) and stillborns than she has actual successful deliveries. Every single time they told her she was going to die. It took close to 20 years to find a doctor who correctly diagnosed her and helped her with her health. She had a little boy who will be 2 in June.

I think doctors will push BCpills, then after you get prego and have a baby they will claim you can never have another kid. Every single mother I can think of right now has been told she will die. I’m thinking of all my aunts, friends at work, neighbors, people at church, etc. It’s like some copy and paste line for a doctor.

 

[hasikelee]

I agree - this is a no brainer! Sorry, but after reading much online here with the Catholic Church teaching against condoms, even in marriages with one partner with HIV, in my opinion the Catholic Church loses credibility with not protecting the LIVING. Protect the LIVING – your wife and the mother of your children!

God Bless!

Condoms have a higher failure rate than the methods of fertility monitoring.

 

[kage_ar]

In the Family area of this forum, there is a thread re a device called the Lady Comp. It does look like an device that might assist the OP.

 

[LilyM]

I’m wary of any formulaic approach to a specific circumstance. I believe the Church sets out fantastic ideals and then each of us need to take all those teachings and apply them to complicated real life situations (in this case the welfare of his wife must be a very important consideration).

But I’ve said my piece now. God bless you all +

Jesus said ‘be perfect as your Heavenly Father is perfect’, He said ‘if you believe in me you will do the works that I do and greater still’, He said ‘whoever would be my disciple must take up his cross daily and follow me’.

Don’t recall Him ever saying ‘be realistic’ or ‘near enough is good enough’ or ‘if it seems too hard, you have my permission to quit’

 

[fix]

I’m wary of any formulaic approach to a specific circumstance. I believe the Church sets out fantastic ideals and then each of us need to take all those teachings and apply them to complicated real life situations (in this case the welfare of his wife must be a very important consideration).

But I’ve said my piece now. God bless you all +

Is this not relativism?

 

[Calliso]

How does following Catholic teaching expose the OP’s wife to a life-ending pregnancy?

How does following Catholic teaching allow a marriage to deteriorate into a relationship devoid of intimacy?

Does intimacy=sex (and therefore, no sex=no intimacy)?

There can be intimacy without sex however the lack of sex can effect intimacy. A problem that can occur is that intimacy can tempt one to have sex…especially if one has gone along time without it. It can get to the point where innocent things like a little kissing or even something as simple as holding hands lead one to thoughts of sex. And when you are trying to abstain being tempted at all makes things even harder. So in many cases you might decide to greatly reduce or even eliminate intimacy. And this is not good for marriages. Now not saying that short term abstinance in a marriage is a bad idea…but of the OP will have to abstain for several years it could be very damaging to his marriage. Also once you have been without intimacy for a long time it;s not like you can just snap your fingers and most cases and just get it back.

 

[Calliso]

Sorry, if you think in any case that sticking with your principles is contrary to doing the right thing then either your principles or your concept of the ‘right thing’ are skewed. If your principles ever contradict what is right in any given situation then you have no integrity as a person.

Right for who? for you or the unborn children to whom you’re denying life by artificially contracepting? Right for God who created your bodies (since you didn’t)? Right in what context? the short term or the long term? The physical or spiritual?

So preventing the existance of something that doesn;t exist…is wrong? In that case by abstaining you are denying life to a nonexistant child!

 

[Good_Daughter]

There can be intimacy without sex however the lack of sex can effect intimacy. A problem that can occur is that intimacy can tempt one to have sex…especially if one has gone along time without it. It can get to the point where innocent things like a little kissing or even something as simple as holding hands lead one to thoughts of sex. And when you are trying to abstain being tempted at all makes things even harder. So in many cases you might decide to greatly reduce or even eliminate intimacy. And this is not good for marriages. Now not saying that short term abstinance in a marriage is a bad idea…but of the OP will have to abstain for several years it could be very damaging to his marriage. Also once you have been without intimacy for a long time it;s not like you can just snap your fingers and most cases and just get it back.

I get what you’re saying. Why do you think a couple would have to abstain for such a long period of time?

 

[Calliso]

I get what you’re saying. Why do you think a couple would have to abstain for such a long period of time?

Well in most cases there is no need too. I was mainly talking about situations like the OP. Course I donlt even really know how long they would have to abstain but if she is still a ways from menopause and a doctor can;t find a solution to her medical problem it could be several years. Its hard to say though since we donlt know the exact medical condition.

 

[fix]

So preventing the existance of something that doesn;t exist…is wrong? In that case by abstaining you are denying life to a nonexistant child!

Abstaining is not acting. Contracepting is acting.