How does one keep themselves from exploding like an atomic bomb over internet atheists?

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I mean, really, hate the sin and love the sinner but I feel like hurting someone every time I see these folks online.s.
then you need to get some spiritual and psychological help to learn to difuse this reaction. Hating the sin is not an issue here because you are in no position to know the condition of the soul of the person who has posted what is objectionable to you. Learn to react to the content, not to the poster (a helpful rule for this forum as well) and react on an intellectual, rather than emotional level.

If visiting such sites causes you this much distress, stay away from them until you are better able to respond without such an extreme reaction. They are doing you no good and much harm, and you will not be able to contribute anything helpful in response on those sites when you are in the grip of such feelings.
 
then you need to get some spiritual and psychological help to learn to difuse this reaction. Hating the sin is not an issue here because you are in no position to know the condition of the soul of the person who has posted what is objectionable to you. Learn to react to the content, not to the poster (a helpful rule for this forum as well) and react on an intellectual, rather than emotional level.

If visiting such sites causes you this much distress, stay away from them until you are better able to respond without such an extreme reaction. They are doing you no good and much harm, and you will not be able to contribute anything helpful in response on those sites when you are in the grip of such feelings.
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I really like the way you wrote that. 🙂

And like I mentioned (to others now, not necessarily the OP) I am interested in learning to become better along these lines, and would certainly consider going to one of these sites and supporting others here who want me to go with them. I like to share in other people’s “hells” because it helps me appreciate life and what other people have to deal with. It also helps me if I am called to minister to someone in distress. (In this case, I actually see it more as an opportunity for early purgatory, rather than hell. 😉 )

Share with me your sorrow, and I’ll share with you my joy.

Alan
 
Don’t engage in a discussion with them.
Good, practical advice. Just let it be, don’t engage and don’t even hunt these type of threads/forums/people up… if it’s making you that angry, you need to back off. That type of rage is not healthy for the soul or body.
 
Good, practical advice. Just let it be, don’t engage and don’t even hunt these type of threads/forums/people up… if it’s making you that angry, you need to back off. That type of rage is not healthy for the soul or body.
If a person has a disability they are working through, such as the OP, I concur. But when does it become time that we step out of our comfort zones and actually do something with our Christianity that puts it to the test? Some of can go into a cloister and avoid conflict, but not all of us; we’re different members of the Body of Christ and we have different functions and strengths.

Surely there has to be someone who has read this thread who is thinking, “you know what? AlanFromWichita has an idea – don’t give up on the goal of being calm amid the storm. One doesn’t build spiritual muscle without some resistance – maybe I can use this to my spiritual benefit.”

I have an idea. Watch a soap opera in another language; I was watching a Spanish one the other day. Amuse yourself at how they make noises of gibberish toward each other and then show an emotional reaction. You can imagine all the things the people might have said, but it’s funny how nothing that is said bothers you but it does affect the actors on screen. Then think, “with my God-given brain, is it actually a curse that I can understand people, because if I didn’t they wouldn’t get me upset? Is maintaining ignorance actually better than developing patience?”

I know what I’m talking about. Ten years ago I lost my sanity, and my 20 year lucrative career in engineering (I have MS degree in electrical eng), my money, nearly lost the house, and raised six children in poverty because I wasn’t able to deal with aggravating fools – but these weren’t on web sites. These were in the committees of the parish, the neighbors, politics at work that were beyond stupid and once they got rid of me they spent $7 million undoing something I told them not to do in the first place but did they listen? Noooo … and I got not a penny for “I told you so” fee. Now after a long a difficult journey, I am healed of my own mental illness, having gone through quite a “dark night” and guess what? Other people being idiots no longer drives me crazy. I’m offering advice on how to toughen yourselves up so that others may not have to become psychotic for being caught off guard by these scumbags and their way of talking about things.

Alan
 
Whenever I am tempted to seek out forums chock full of barking atheists seeking to tear any one down who believes in anything but empirical data, I go outside for a walk in the woods, shake my head, and move on.
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Sigh. Nobody wants to be the Light amid darkness. 🤷

Guess I’ll go myself. Like in the song “Impossible Dream,” I like to march into hell for a heavenly cause.

:knight2:

Or maybe I fancy myself Don Quixote.

Alan
 
It’s horrifying and it just pisses me off so badly. I want to love them, I really do, but I find myself 1) taking it all personally 2) feeling helpless and powerless before them and 3) fighting the impulse to commit a couple mortal sins in thought if you know what I mean. It seems hopeless, I don’t think there’s any guarantee that God will stop any of this.
I think you know *exactly *how *they *feel, then!! Perhaps you could focus on the ironic fact that you and those atheists find yourselves in the same frustrating spot!?!?

I’m finding in my little venture over the past year or so that there’s really surprisingly little that separates the *average *atheist from Catholicism. I often place my thoughts on this into a visual form in my mind using Venn diagrams. I get two classes within which to position four groups: 1) the typical American protestant, 2) the typical American atheist, 3) my imaginary “typical” Buddhist, and 4) Catholicism according to *my *reading of the Catechism. I always end up placing the protestants into one class on their own, and the atheists, Buddhists, and Catholics together in the second class. To put it another way, I think the argument between atheism and Catholicism is one of language rather than one of Truth. My own atheism applies specifically to the god of the typical American Protestant–but that’s the only god I ever knew growing up. Amazingly, Catholics, notwithstanding the fact that they make up some 20-plus percent of Americans (more than 60 million of them in the US!!), didn’t manage to correct me, and I still don’t know why.
 
Doesn’t anybody at all get what I’m suggesting? Is my microphone not working or something?

Alan
I get what you’re saying but your suggestion doesn’t work for everybody. The OP obviously gets extremely upset because of these debates. That is not healthy. Maybe he will get to the stage where he can coexist with idiots, as you put it, but perhaps that time is not now.

Also, many people have pointed out that there is a difference between those atheists who are seeking and/or are genuinely curious about religious faith in a respectful way, and those who just want to bait and humiliate us. In my experience, there is no genuine discussion with baiters. They have their agenda and their opinions and are not interested in what we have to say. That is why there is no reason for the OP to engage with them, given how upset he gets.
 
I think you know *exactly *how *they *feel, then!! Perhaps you could focus on the ironic fact that you and those atheists find yourselves in the same frustrating spot!?!?
Amen. One of my sons experimented with a jaunt away from Catholicism and into atheism. He had issues with the Church, but when his atheist friends were unfairly criticizing her and putting down religion in general in his presence, he told them, "you need to realize that atheism is just as much a religion as any other denomination. It takes just as much faith to claim there is no God beyond our understanding, then that there is a God. (“anyone who is not against us is for us.”)
I’m finding in my little venture over the past year or so …
I am fascinated by this and tentatively endorse it, pending a few questions I have get answered the right way. I would love to get into this in more detail and hear more about your theories. We can discuss on a public thread, but it might be more efficient at least at first if we go by PM and I have some ideas where we might take if from there. What do you think? Please PM me or answer here. 🙂
To put it another way, I think the argument between atheism and Catholicism is one of language rather than one of Truth. My own atheism applies specifically to the god of the typical American Protestant–but that’s the only god I ever knew growing up.
Bingo! I have come to the exact same conclusion. A huge amount of the differences between all of us can be explained as language-based.

But more importantly, I think you are right in that there is a huge overlap in different religions and philosophies, including atheism. Except the sociopaths, atheists have an opinion of right and wrong behavior toward other people that can match Catholic teachings better than what some Catholics think.

And as you say, the differences themselves can be more literal than substantial. It’s like the differences have accidental forms of verbal conflict, while they have no particular meaning substantially.

For example, a thirsty person needs water and an atheist, or Buddhist, Catholic, or Samaritan gives her water. Which one will be rewarded in heaven?

Opposite example: one kid is getting beaten up by two other boys, while a crowd of 20 stands in a circle around them, watching them batter him and doing nothing to provide or call for help, or even offering verbal encouragement and some clapping their hands and chanting, “fight! fight!” – and the 20 include boys and girls both, and represent religions from Catholicism to atheism to satanism to Buddhism, now which ones will be treated how, in heaven?

My point is that the Bible says the law of love is written on our hearts. (Rom 2:15, 2 Cor 3:2-3)
What we call any particular provision of the law does not change the reality of its rightness or wrongness. Call it karma, commandments, faith, logic, or whatever – all roads lead to the same conclusions about the behavior of these kids.

[A movie I recently saw that speaks to this is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zS0lcG4l0H4”]Lord, Save Us from Your Followers: Why is the Gospel of Love Dividing America? Warning: this movie has segments that may easily offend if you are easily upset by criticism of professed Christians. So watch it at your own emotional risk; I warned you. I think the movie is very inspiring and constructive, and I think it could help an atheist see what Christianity can be. And the guy is not a Catholic, but there are Catholic theologians interviewed in the movie.]

In other words, I believe every group in my examples above will be treated the same way by God because they have shown their faith or its lack through their works. Faith in an ultimate Truth so obvious to any human being with any empathy whatsoever, that we know it whether we believe it was told to us by God’s church or not. We may have different religious beliefs, but we were all made in the image of the same God and as human beings have much more in common than our religions divide.

That goes for punishment as well as reward. I say that Christian or not, every one of those 20 kids in the circle knew that one of them needs to take action, but chose not to be that person for whatever reason – fear of getting hurt, unhealthy desire to see people hurt each other so they can watch, etc. To me they are all just as guilty even if they are not hypocritical in that they profess no Higher Power to convict them.

Actually, non-denominational Christians, Protestants, Wiccans, and a Pantheist all played roles in helping me find my way back to Church when I was on haitus for a few years, and then helping me find my sanity. I don’t believe what they believe but they were there for me when I needed help when there were no Catholics around. I’m home now but it’s nice those outsiders helped escort me to the door. The King’s horses and men come in different colors and breeds.

An atheist can be Christlike and even observe Christ’s teachings, without believe He even exists. This is part of the conclusions I got when I took an engineering approach to the problem of agnosticism.

Alan
 
I think you know *exactly *how *they *feel, then!! Perhaps you could focus on the ironic fact that you and those atheists find yourselves in the same frustrating spot!?!?
Amen. One of my sons experimented with a jaunt away from Catholicism and into atheism. He had issues with the Church, but when his atheist friends were unfairly criticizing her and putting down religion in general in his presence, he told them, "you need to realize that atheism is just as much a religion as any other denomination. It takes just as much faith to claim there is no God beyond our understanding, then that there is a God. (“anyone who is not against us is for us.”)
I’m finding in my little venture over the past year or so …
I am fascinated by this and tentatively endorse it, pending a few questions I have get answered the right way. I would love to get into this in more detail and hear more about your theories. We can discuss on a public thread, but it might be more efficient at least at first if we go by PM and I have some ideas where we might take if from there. What do you think? Please PM me or answer here. 🙂
To put it another way, I think the argument between atheism and Catholicism is one of language rather than one of Truth. My own atheism applies specifically to the god of the typical American Protestant–but that’s the only god I ever knew growing up.
Bingo! I have come to the exact same conclusion. A huge amount of the differences between all of us can be explained as language-based.

But more importantly, I think you are right in that there is a huge overlap in different religions and philosophies, including atheism. Except the sociopaths, atheists have an opinion of right and wrong behavior toward other people that can match Catholic teachings better than what some Catholics think.

And as you say, the differences themselves can be more literal than substantial. It’s like the differences have accidental forms of verbal conflict, while they have no particular meaning substantially.

For example, a thirsty person needs water and an atheist, or Buddhist, Catholic, or Samaritan gives her water. Which one will be rewarded in heaven?

Opposite example: one kid is getting beaten up by two other boys, while a crowd of 20 stands in a circle around them, watching them batter him and doing nothing to provide or call for help, or even offering verbal encouragement and some clapping their hands and chanting, “fight! fight!” – and the 20 include boys and girls both, and represent religions from Catholicism to atheism to satanism to Buddhism, now which ones will be treated how, in heaven?

My point is that the Bible says the law of love is written on our hearts. (Rom 2:15, 2 Cor 3:2-3)
What we call any particular provision of the law does not change the reality of its rightness or wrongness. Call it karma, commandments, faith, logic, or whatever – all roads lead to the same conclusions about the behavior of these kids.

[A movie I recently saw that speaks to this is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zS0lcG4l0H4”]Lord, Save Us from Your Followers: Why is the Gospel of Love Dividing America? Warning: this movie has segments that may easily offend if you are easily upset by criticism of professed Christians. So watch it at your own emotional risk; I warned you. I think the movie is very inspiring and constructive, and I think it could help an atheist see what Christianity can be. And the guy is not a Catholic, but there are Catholic theologians interviewed in the movie.]

In other words, I believe every group in my examples above will be treated the same way by God because they have shown their faith or its lack through their works. Faith in an ultimate Truth so obvious to any human being with any empathy whatsoever, that we know it whether we believe it was told to us by God’s church or not. We may have different religious beliefs, but we were all made in the image of the same God and as human beings have much more in common than our religions divide.

That goes for punishment as well as reward. I say that Christian or not, every one of those 20 kids in the circle knew that one of them needs to take action, but chose not to be that person for whatever reason – fear of getting hurt, unhealthy desire to see people hurt each other so they can watch, etc. To me they are all just as guilty even if they are not hypocritical in that they profess no Higher Power to convict them.

Actually, non-denominational Christians, Protestants, Wiccans, and a Pantheist all played roles in helping me find my way back to Church when I was on haitus for a few years, and then helping me find my sanity. I don’t believe what they believe but they were there for me when I needed help when there were no Catholics around. I’m home now but it’s nice those outsiders helped escort me to the door. The King’s horses and men come in different colors and breeds.

An atheist can be Christlike and even observe Christ’s teachings, without believe He even exists. This is one of the conclusions I got when I took an engineering approach to the problem of agnosticism.

Alan
 
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