How great is your husband/wife?

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I could write a three page, or longer post raving about all the good qualities of my husband and maybe a sort paragraph describing the negative qualities.

I don’t feel the need to do either at the moment. We have been married for 11 yrs, dated since highschool and we know each other and love each other and are mature in our relationship. That doesn’t mean we never have problems, though they are rare.

I have no pressing complaints at the moment, and don’t feel the need to write the three page essay detailing how great the man is, especially to counteract posts where people are sad and having problems. It isn’t in me to want to “rub” it in their faces. I am not the bragging type.

Normally, I would have no problem creating a thread about how great he is, but don’t feel the need to do it in response to another member’s sad threads about difficulties with their husbands…
 
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jules11:
I have posted on these forums several times about my husband’s less than wonderful qualities. I have partaken in spouse bashing a time or two. The thread wanted us to share good things about our spouses. If you think I have a perfect marriage, you are mistaken. I consider any negative talk about a spouse or anyone else to be “bashing” for lack of a better term. I am sorry if I offended you or anyone else with my insensitive statement. I found this thread to be uplifting because it forced me to focus on the positive things about my husband rather than to focus on the negative which is what most of us, me included, usually do.

Does your husband have any positive qualities at all? I am sure that everybody could work to find at least one thing positive about their spouse even if it is that he looks cute when he is sleeping 😃
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“Bashing” is a strong word, but I guess you couldn’t think of a better word. Most people can find good things about their husband, unfortunately that is what keeps some women (or men) in an abusive relationship. I’m not saying that anyone here is in an abusive relationship, but women whom I have known that remained in abusive marriages, spend alot of time focusing on the “good” qualities at the expense of their wellbeing and safety. So while it is a good thing to think of positive traits, it is also good to have a sense of balance in reality.
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Can’t help but notice,… almost all of these posts are praise for the husbands… but I think I know why:

1 - They have many of the traits that make men great… including great wives who can recognize them.

2 - Not many wives are getting notice… cuz my wife is the best of the whole bunch… so only I can honestly BRAG…

what is the limit on post length… it probably won’t all fit
 
when I am at a retreat, youth rally, or other all day affair for CCD or youth group, I get home to find the bed turned down for my nap, a pitcher of ice tea ready, the kitchen clean, laundry folded and the house quiet. What a sweetie. Sometimes, like tonite, there is a low-carb fudgesicle in the freezer as well.
 
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Normally, I would have no problem creating a thread about how great he is, but don’t feel the need to do it in response to another member’s sad threads about difficulties with their husbands…
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That wasn’t the intent of this thread. It just occured to me that many of us will say negative things but it is also important to mention positive things as well. There must be balance.

I apologize if I have offended anyone with the timing of the post however, there would never be a “good” time for a post like this because it seems like many of our Catholic brothers and sisters struggle in their marriages.

As someone so rightly put it earlier…it isn’t that we have perfect marriages but it is helpful to recognize the positive aspects of our spouses. There is no intention of rubbing others’ noses in it.
 
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I could write a three page, or longer post raving about all the good qualities of my husband and maybe a sort paragraph describing the negative qualities.

I don’t feel the need to do either at the moment. We have been married for 11 yrs, dated since highschool and we know each other and love each other and are mature in our relationship. That doesn’t mean we never have problems, though they are rare.

I have no pressing complaints at the moment, and don’t feel the need to write the three page essay detailing how great the man is, especially to counteract posts where people are sad and having problems. It isn’t in me to want to “rub” it in their faces. I am not the bragging type.

Normally, I would have no problem creating a thread about how great he is, but don’t feel the need to do it in response to another member’s sad threads about difficulties with their husbands…
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Thankyou… you understand
 
My father died in Vietnam when I was five weeks old. I can remember feeling envy of the relationships of my girlfriends with their fathers. I wanted so badly to be a daddy’s girl. But I would never suggest that a woman should hesitate to brag on a loving relationship with her father for fear of causing me pain. In fact, as I have gotten older I have learned to feel pleasure in other’s good fortune, even when it contradicts what is happening in my own life. Life is harsh sometimes and we simply must deal with this. I think that the same goes for this thread. Nothing here is meant personally against anyone. It is simply a thread to to discuss how great our spouses are.

Certainly I will pray for those who are having pain in their relationships. I have a lot of sympathy for people in unhappy marriages or suffering from any other heartbreak. But I don’t think that this thread is aimed against anyone.
 
What a pleasure to see so many happy marriages—not perfect, but contented. 👍
 
I can’t imagine life without my wife. She is perfect in every way. And we have a beautiful baby with hopefully many more on the way.

Praise be the Lord Jesus Christ
 
This coming Sunday marks our 25th wedding anniversary. We have been a couple for 30 years total. My husband is “complicated” (his word to describe himself) but I love him dearly. I always have and I always will. He has always been good to me and he loves me (and I love him) no matter what. He has always been supportive of me which makes it easy to reciprocate. Yes we get angry with each other, but the good far outweighs the bad and I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

Tamie W
 
My hubby is the greatest person I know. We get along so well. We are buying our first house. In April we move in. He has been so loving and we have worked together to find the perfect house. Now we are so close and we are very excited. The boys are excited too. This is big step in a positive direction. We are moving into a house that is about 200 ft. from our church( yea). 😃 I realize people have problems but, one should not publicly bash their spouse. Especially to strangers. I have made it a point as part of our growing relationship to not bash him to family as well.

Myrna
 
I’m not married, but I love my girlfriend Monica dearly. We’ve shared good times and bad. The love we make is fairly give and take, but I still love her for her personality. I met her at work, and after about a month, I mustered the courage to ask her on a date…we’ve been together for several months. I cherish her dearly. You might even say I’m blessed. 😃
 
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jules11:
I have posted on these forums several times about my husband’s less than wonderful qualities. I have partaken in spouse bashing a time or two. The thread wanted us to share good things about our spouses. If you think I have a perfect marriage, you are mistaken. I consider any negative talk about a spouse or anyone else to be “bashing” for lack of a better term. I am sorry if I offended you or anyone else with my insensitive statement. I found this thread to be uplifting because it forced me to focus on the positive things about my husband rather than to focus on the negative which is what most of us, me included, usually do.

Does your husband have any positive qualities at all? I am sure that everybody could work to find at least one thing positive about their spouse even if it is that he looks cute when he is sleeping 😃
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Those who wish to have a good marriage but don’t, your first assigment is to post something positive into this thread. Don’t worry; to say something good about a spouse does not take away the martyr points one gets from everybody knowing that it really isn’t as keen below the surface. 😉

My wonderful wife, Saint Julie, used to have a rough time even at parish meetings when women were constantly complaining about their husbands. It wasn’t working out issues, either, it was just plain putting them down.

She has since developed ways of dealing with it. For example, she’ll listen to others’ story and say, “you know I’ve had that problem too but it turned out I was mistaken about his intents” or other “helpful” advice that threw a cold towel on it.

Julie is all about taking on the responsibility for the relationship as much as she can. That means that my meager efforts will find an ally in her rather than an anxiety-ridden system of high expectations and demands.

I have so much good to say about Julie I can’t stand it. Even her worse faults, to me, are transparent reminders of hurts she’s suffered in the past that I can help her work on by being patient with her – if I ever could be 10% as patient with her as she is with me, then I know I will have shown her something quite significant. :love:

Alan
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My wife is the most wonderful human being. We just had our second anniversary on the 14th of Feb. Second marriage for me, and first for her. Definitely the most giving person I’ve ever met. Always thinking of others. Treats my sons wonderfully, and at the same time keeps them on their toes. She’s incapable of receiving anything without wanting to share it with others. And never stops smiling. Such a zest for life. I guess the most special thing about her is how loved she makes me feel. In the early days of our relationship, I caught her looking at me with a look that I’d never seen before. I KNEW she loved me, because it was there in her eyes. She still looks at me like that, and that look still takes my breath away. A precious gift that I thank God for every day.
 
My husband is a good person and he comes from a very good loving family background and was raised to respect and to stay married. I think that because he was raised in a good enviroment, with good examples, 🙂 he was able to be a good spouse to me. He is responsible, works real hard for us and is a good father. He shows me he loves me by always being there for me and letting me grow to be what God wants me to be. I love him and I thank and pray to God everyday for my family.
 
Interesting points have been made here. I think a previous poster put it well when they mentioned that we do not have “perfect” relationships (in the sense of “its all roses, never have a disagreement”). But it is very important to recognize the little things that our men (or women) do in our lives that say “I love you”, “I’m here for you”. My mom made me read “Proper Care and Feeding of a Husband” by Dr. Laura Schleschinger (sp) prior to my marriage, and alot of her advice hit home. It seems very common for women who get together with their girlfriends to start bringing up all of their husbands faults and shortcomings, almost trying to best each other with the worst.

It’s always refreshing to speak with women who raise their husbands up (or at least speak of them respectfully. I’m not implying that other posters are attempting to bash their husband/wives when posting, but this post is a good reminder to us to attend to what we write and how we speak about our spouses.

And now I’m almost out of room…my husband is a wonderful loving man who is continuously working to better himself, encouraging me to do the same.

God bless,
k
 
It is good to stand out from the rest. Just because someone bashes their husband doesn’t mean you have to. I never bash because he is my best friend and best friends should be loyal. 😉
 
Not married yet, but I will say this for my future husband: If there is any man alive today who is capable of coming close to St. Paul’s command that husbands love their wives as Christ loved the Church, itis the one I am marrying.

'Nuff said. 🙂
 
My husband and I have been married for over 23 years.
I pray God blesses us with twice that many more! 😃

He is my best friend.
My protector.
Loyal.
Faithful Catholic.
Fun!
Funny!
Playful
Full of integrity.
Good-looking
Sweet
Caring
VERY smart
Sexy
Hard-working
Strong
Spiritual

Gosh - I could go on and on!
Now - for you ladies wishing that your husband were all those things and sad because your marriages are not fulfilling and happy - please know that ours was not always either.
Married life goes through stages.
Ups, downs and in-betweens.
The important thing is to PRAY CONSTANTLY.
Through good times and bad.
Trust that God will make it better.
He is faithful and HE WILL DO IT.
It might not seem like it.
It might seem that He does not hear you or that “yeah, well I am willing to change but what about my HUSBAND!.. It takes two!”
Yes - and it is also true that often times (myself included) we wives neglect to take a truthful inventory of OURSELVES and see how we might be contributing to the lack of joy in our marriages.
I know from my own experience.
Just trust.
Keep praying and have an ‘expectant faith’ that God will bless you and your spouse with a miracle.
That you will once again return to those starry-eyed days of first being in-love! 👍 IT CAN HAPPEN!

Finally, does anyone know where I can order a custom-made bumper sticker?
I want one that says, “I LOVE BEING MARRIED”
What a wonderful witness to marriage! 👍
 
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