How great is your husband/wife?

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My husband is wonderful. We have been married 38 years and dated seven before then. I still get a thrill when I look at him and wonder how I got so blessed.
 
SO many posts in praise of husbands. Such a contrast to what is trendy out there in “the world”. Husband-bashing and emotional-castration seem to be the order of the day, as well as the competing for this mythical thing called “power” in the household. I’m sure that posters like the last two ladies already know this, but I’ll share a bit of “mens secrets” for those whom this may help: Men need to be needed. We value ourselves according to what we achieve. If you compete with a man, or try to out-do him, or worse if you belittle him, then you only have yourself to blaim if he’s not the man you want him to be. If you want a knight in shining armour, then BELIEVE in him. And TELL him and SHOW how essential he is to you, and he will rise to meet your greatest expectations. 👍
 
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SO many posts in praise of husbands. Such a contrast to what is trendy out there in “the world”. Husband-bashing and emotional-castration seem to be the order of the day, as well as the competing for this mythical thing called “power” in the household. I’m sure that posters like the last two ladies already know this, but I’ll share a bit of “mens secrets” for those whom this may help: Men need to be needed. We value ourselves according to what we achieve. If you compete with a man, or try to out-do him, or worse if you belittle him, then you only have yourself to blaim if he’s not the man you want him to be. If you want a knight in shining armour, then BELIEVE in him. And TELL him and SHOW how essential he is to you, and he will rise to meet your greatest expectations. 👍
What you say is SO true! Dr. Laura says that men are pretty ‘simple’ creatures. They need just 3 things from their wives to be happy and content:
  1. Respect
  2. Good Food
  3. Good Lovin’ 😃
    And when they have these things - they will conquer the world for you!
    Trust me - it’s TRUE!!
Why it is p.c. to bash men today I do not know.
I am sick of going to buy a greeting card and the rows are just FULL of cards that put men down and attempt to elevate women (usually in arrogant and disgusting ways).
I just roll my eyes and dig through to find a decent one.
It should NOT be this way.

It used to be that “Father Knows Best” - now, we get Homer Simpson the simpleton.

But - I think the tide is beginning to turn. Slowly - but surely.
Thank God! 👍
 
I just love my husband so much.

I’ve been on bedrest for so long and not able to care for the house, cook very often or really even prepare for the baby. We have some difficult extended family situations and really only each other to rely upon. He is working his full-time engineering job and doing consulting on the side, which makes him extremely busy. He still manages to keep the house clean, groceries bought, both of us fed and the nursery ready in case we deliver at any time. He does this with so much love and self-sacrifice that I almost get teary just watching him do the dishes! (It’s hormones, don’t worry.)

This weekend he deep-cleaned the house. Shampooed the carpets, shampooed and re-steamed the sofas, mopped the kitchen and both bathrooms as well as the laundry room, cleaned both showers/toilets/sinks of the bathrooms, organized his office, vaccummed the whole house, dusted the living room, cleaned out our closet and the last bit of storage stuff left in the baby’s room. He did several loads of laundry and still maintained the dishes and kitchen. He also put together several baby items that needed assembly.

I know he doesn’t ‘love’ to clean but he DOES love to take care of me. It makes me feel very safe and cared for when he steps up where I can’t fill in, even if it means so much personal sacrifice. There have been other times in our marriage when I was sick and injured due to very debilitating car accidents and he similarly took care of me, provided financially and attended to the house and meals.

I also love the way he cares for me emotionally. He reads me very well and always encourages me to talk, talk, talk to him about how I am feeling or what is going on with me. He has really learned how to communicate and how to facillitate open discussion between the two of us. He knows when to listen and when to offer solutions and when we need to compromise. We don’t ever attack each other’s characters with ugly words or non-helpful comments and instead speak constructively about the topic at hand. We also know each other’s love languages and I think it really helps in both of us feeling valued and loved, as it influences our actions toward the other.

It’s been very fun to see him get excited for the baby. He talks to my belly all the time and sometimes we’ll just be sitting there talking and he’ll say, “ahhh I can’t wait to meet our baby girl!” He loves to discuss our family goals and spirituality and what we want to do with the children we’re entrusted. He’s dragged me to different stores just so we can look at swing sets and playhouses even though our little angel isn’t even born yet… Watching him play with our neice (who calls him Unka, for Uncle) is so much fun, as I know he’ll be amazing with our baby!

My husband has a serious side but he also has a very wicked sense of humor that makes every day a joyful one. I love his positivity and optimism and the way he finds the good and humorous in every situation. We have fun together and best of all, we laugh together. God really blessed me when He led me to my hubby!
 
Wow… I can only hope I am living up to what you women are posting. My wife and I have been married for 14 years and have one wonderful, beautiful boy who just turned 9. My wife is a good supporter and does a great job with a lot of things around the home. She is an awesome teacher and has won a lot of awards for her good work in that area. We make each other laugh a lot, and both find that family is very important to each of us. We spend a lot of time together as a family, and with our extended families. Anyway, I find that most of the wonderful things we do share are often overshadowed by a feeling that there is very little time for us. With our son, and aging grandparents, and parents, and others that require our love and attention it seems as though we have lost a lot of the youthful playfulness that we enjoyed so much in our relationship. I absolutely am crazy for our son and my wife. After reading this thread I have decided to work even harder to be an even better father/husband. Thanks for the inspirational thoughts you have all shared. Bless you,
B’s D
 
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epicrecipe:
My wife helps me become a better person.
I like that… I think that is true. However, I think that having kids makes you become an EVEN BETTER person. At least in my case. I know my wife says I am her best friend, and that she can’t imagine life without me… but there are so many things I think I can do better… and this thread has made me realize that.
Wow… what an eye opener. An the first place I/we have to start is to make this Lent season a very meaningful one, not just an exercise in “going to mass”…
B’sD
 
My husband is a very strong spiritual example. He’s taught me alot about prayer, faith, and unconditional love the past 8 yrs. we’ve been married;even while I was recovering from my stroke last yr.

We’ve been going to church together since we first met and made it a point to keep Christ in the center of our relationship at all times . One thing I remember that really touched me was while we were dating, he gave me a leather bound Bible and a crucifix necklace which he had blessed. I wore the necklace on our wedding day and the Bible is used constantly for prayer/meditation.

He is not afraid to stand up for what he believes in, even if his peers disagree.

Yes, we do have our little quirks since noone or no marriage is perfect, but we look beyond that and aim toward helping each other get into heaven.
 
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