How has marriage been different than you thought it would be?

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Oh I thought of one. Tv and movies made me think there would be a lot of brushing our teeth together. That hasn’t happened.
 
I think I’m more disappointed about it now than when it happened 18 years ago. I see how it has really impacted our kids now that they are adults and they are able to talk about it. Just think about how many marriages have ended and the impact on the lives. So sad.
 
I guess I never realised how much I could be in love with another human being. I liked her when we met, and I loved her when I asked her to marry me, but it’s really something that just keeps on growing and developing.

Also we kinda thought we’d have a baby by now. But two and a bit years married and we’re beginning to think we may be suffering from infertility. Hopefully it’s nothing serious but you go in thinking it’ll just happen and that isn’t always the way.

Marriage is truly wonderful though. I think you never know how wonderful until you’re there. We have so much joy together and enjoy each other’s company…I love just driving with her in the car and enjoying the fact that she’s with me.
 
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Hopefully it’s nothing serious but you go in thinking it’ll just happen and that isn’t always the way.
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You just never know. My wife and I didn’t conceive until about three months after the doctors said it wasn’t in the cards for us. Blessed surprise.
 
Yeah. We’re going to see a Doctor in April.

He’s actually a Catholic doctor who specialises in ethical forms of infertility treatment.

Lots of Catholics seem to go for IVF without a second thought but that’s not something I’d even consider.
 
AdamP88 said:
Also we kinda thought we’d have a baby by now. But two and a bit years married and we’re beginning to think we may be suffering from infertility. Hopefully it’s nothing serious but you go in thinking it’ll just happen and that isn’t always the way.
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I’m sorry!
 
Married man here, 15 great years so far. So many people including our Catholic parents, priests and mentors told us that marriage is very hard, something you have to fight for. We found that life is hard - one of our children narrowly survived leukemia and that’s a journey I don’t wish on my worst enemy.
But marriage has been nothing but sweet bliss, it has been our haven from the world. We’re a couple but I also think we’re the greatest of friends, and that’s not something we expected when we first got married. I thank the Lord every day for the blessings of marriage.
 
When I married, I didn’t ever think we’d get divorced.
When I converted to Catholicism and our marriage was validated, I truly believed that God would help us overcome anything, with His grace.

I didn’t think I would ever be a single mother, unless I was widowed.
I learned that it takes two people to have a marriage. God can’t will it. One spouse can’t will it. It takes commitment and team effort from all parties involved.

Marriage, and all that happened in it, ultimately gave me the impetus to live and be who I want to be. While I no longer have any love for my ex (and this is a good thing since it keeps me from being manipulated), I still respect the vows I made and do my best out of love for my children and grandchildren.

It makes me sad that marriage is so disrespected by society and individuals in the United States. I wish married couples had more support.
 
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