How involved in your upbringing were your godparents?

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Allegra said:
As I understand it, only one of the Godparents has to be Catholic. The other can be what’s called a “Christian witness”. I don’t judge though, because there is literally no one in our immediate circle that meets all the qualifications of an ideal Catholic Godparent. For our first child, we had to settle for my husband’s sister and my brother, who were Baptised in the Church but appear for all purposes to be non-practicing. His sister hadn’t even Baptised her own child! But that’s literally the best we could do. Our prospective Catholic Godparent barrel is bone dry. I don’t know what we’re going to do for our next child. 🤷
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run_for_fun said:
I understand. We would be in the same boat if we had another child, and we are going to be in a similar situation soon with my son choosing a confirmation sponsor. It causes me anxiety and stress.
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I was and still am in the same boat, I have been okay though. I am the ONLY Catholic in my family (well, excluding my children). I do not know any Catholic friends more than aquaintances. This delayed my son’s baptism because I was too afraid to ask strangers and didn’t really understand the process. I spoke with the priest finally and one of the deacons and his wife stood as godparents for my son. Since I am asking that same deacon to perform my daughters baptism (as we got a new priest two weeks ago and I’m too socially anxious to have him do the baptism, and I don’t want to wait) I’ve had to ask another couple in our church to be godparents. Luckily they are a great example of good catholics, they are at mass every sunday, involved in serving in many areas, as long as I have attended the church. Anyway, it has caused a great deal of anxiety to ask complete strangers to take on that role, and it still causes me a great deal of stress. However, I told myself I would not delay my daugher’s baptism like I did my son’s.
 
You can’t have the same godparent for more than one child?
 
Thank you for the info, Memaw.

I never thought about it until it came up here, but we would also have trouble finding several good godparents, and I hope we will have more than one child.
I could find someone who met formal criteria on paper, but the “practicing Catholic” part is usually not that easy.
 
Ms_Manners said:
Thank you for the info, Memaw.

I never thought about it until it came up here, but we would also have trouble finding several good godparents, and I hope we will have more than one child.
I could find someone who met formal criteria on paper, but the “practicing Catholic” part is usually not that easy.
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I forgot to mention that I was Godmother to 3 siblings at the same time. All Baptized together, and Fr. knew it and never said anything. God Bless, Memaw
 
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You can’t have the same godparent for more than one child?
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I have a friend who is the go-to Godfather for most of his family. He’s apparently the only respectable, practicing Catholic they know.

As far the guidelines for who can be a godparent go, I was told that you can ask for a dispensation for the age requirement, especially when the prospective godparent is a family member and you really don’t have any other worthy candidates. I thought there was still an age cutoff (11 or 13?) but it’s been a few years since I asked.
 
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