How long did you guys wait to get married, after meeting your loved one?

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Just being a curious cat and all šŸ˜ƒ --how long did you and your spouse wait before getting married, and why? (From the time you met/became official to the time of the weddingā€¦)

Just seems like all my friends and my friendsā€™ friends are getting married or are already marriedā€”so I wondered if there were those who waited 4+ years, as opposed to those who waited 2-3 years.
 
we waited right at 3 years, but that was just for the time it took to get through undergrad. if not for that it would have been just enough of a wait to get through the marriage prep at the church.
 
Met my husband in Oct. of 1967 and we married Aug. 1972. Why did it take so long? We just were too young. My husband thought I didnā€™t want to date him. He moved to another state. Didnā€™t see him for two years. My best friend urged me to contact him. Held my hand as I called. It took another year before we married. It was Christmas and my brother-in-law thought it was funny to get me a little tipsy(bless his heart) my hubby told me we werenā€™t ready for marriage. I told him he may not be ready but I was waiting. He turned as white as the snow. Thought I blew it. Then at Easter he took me out and all night he told me what a horrible wife I would make. I was crying inside figuring that it was goodbye when he asked me to marry him. He really was scared of being turned down.
 
So far, at least, I have waited 59 years, and still no prospective spouse in sight.

There will not be time for me, I think, to wait another 59 years.

It has been decades, since I had a Catholic girlfriend, and they are getting harder to find.
 
We met Oct. 8, 1972 and married Oct.24, 1975.

When we met I was at loose ends, having completed a year of university but sure that, since I really didnā€™t know what I wanted to do, it was stupid to spend more money on that.

He was in a job he really didnā€™t care for.

I got a job in an electrical parts plant, making transformers. A job so boring Iā€™d sometimes spend my coffee break in the bathroom crying in frustration.

By the summer heā€™d joined the military and Iā€™d been accepted in Nursing School. We got engaged before he left for boot camp but spent most of the next 2 1/2 year apart. I think the longest we saw each other in that time period was the 5 days just before our wedding.
 
I couldnā€™t vote. There was no option for me.

Less than a year! (9 mo)

Weā€™ve been married for almost 18 years now.
 
I canā€™t vote yet - Iā€™m not married. But Iā€™m really, really hoping that when I do get married, I can vote in the first category - one to two years! Although, come to think of it, I think we met in March 2007. But we didnā€™t start dating until September 2007 - we can still make it! Iā€™ve always wanted a summer wedding. šŸ˜ƒ

Not that it matters. šŸ¤· Married is married, no matter when it happensā€¦ but I hope itā€™s soon!
 
met in junior year HS, dated in senior year HS, married sophomore year of college. should have married sooner.
 
Dated 4 1/2 yrs before getting engaged (started when we were 17 and 19) , add 2yr engagement- so total 6 1/2 years together before we were married. Not my ideal but just the way things worked given our personal situations.
 
After meeting? 1.5 years
After dating? 1 year

We were engaged 6 months after we started dating. Of my friends that got married after 25, this seems to be more the norm. If youā€™re older, been around the block, came back to Jesus, and met your spouse at Church, things perhaps go faster than if youā€™re high school or college sweethearts.
 
holly_potter said:
Just being a curious cat and all šŸ˜ƒ --how long did you and your spouse wait before getting married, and why? (From the time you met/became official to the time of the weddingā€¦)

Just seems like all my friends and my friendsā€™ friends are getting married or are already marriedā€”so I wondered if there were those who waited 4+ years, as opposed to those who waited 2-3 years.
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My husband and I knew eachother for 6 months before marriage. I know it sounds crazy to a lot of people that we got married so quickly, but itā€™s something we both knew we wanted and knew was right for us so we didnā€™t see the sense in pointless waiting. Weā€™ve been happily married for two years so far, no second thoughts. šŸ™‚
 
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My husband and I knew eachother for 6 months before marriage. I know it sounds crazy to a lot of people that we got married so quickly, but itā€™s something we both knew we wanted and knew was right for us so we didnā€™t see the sense in pointless waiting. Weā€™ve been happily married for two years so far, no second thoughts. šŸ™‚
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This reminds me of friends of my mother. The couple was on a blind date with a couple who decided to elope that night. They all decided to get married that night. Thats right the couple who just had met on a blind date decided to marry and it lasted until the man died forty years later:D
 
My husband & I knew each other over 4 years before we started dating and were really good friends. We only dated 7 months before we got married. We basically decided to get married, then started dating.

We will celebrate our 10th anniversary next year. šŸ˜ƒ
 
We met about 3 years before we started datingā€¦
Dated for about 1.5 yearsā€¦ then engaged for 1 year prior to marriage. šŸ™‚
 
Letā€™s seeā€¦ we met in 1991. We started dating Sept. 1993 were in engaged Nov. 1993, yes, we dated for just two months! I was a senior in high school! Were married June of 1995. I was 19, he was 22. Wouldnā€™t change a thing!
 
This is certainly not typical, butā€¦

-known each other for 15 years

-dated for 12 years

-ā€œengagedā€ for one month!
(after the 12 years, of course šŸ™‚ )

My two cents on how long to wait to get married is: take as long as you need. Patience is an awesome virtue to cultivate!

*Stella
 
Less than one year.

Met in Sept., engaged in March, married in August.

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I dated my sweetie for just 8 months, and then we were engaged for 6 months more. That doesnā€™t sound like much, but we believed that this was appropriate for our situation. We were slightly on the older side for marriage; we were coworkers and lived near each other, so we had plenty of opportunity to get to know each other; we were in perfect agreement about things like finances and how to raise the children, so there wasnā€™t much to iron out. Plus we really, really wanted a fall wedding because the weather would be good during our honeymoon in Disney World!! Weā€™ve been married for two years and have loved every minute of it.
 
We met in Dec. of '99 and married in Dec. of 2000. We didnā€™t actually go on a date until the end of January, so really a year between meeting and marrying.
 
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