How long did you know your spouse before marriage?

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We first met in October, started dating in December/January. Got engaged in March and married in August. So in total ten months.
 
My first wife and I met in junior year in high school. We dated a while and then broke up. We got back together about the time we graduated and got engaged. We married 6 mos later and remained married for 41 years until she died.

My second wife and I met online (CatholicMatch). It was long distance so we talked for 3 weeks before we met in person. I proposed the next day and we married 6 mos later. When you are in your sixties, it does not pay to fiddle-fart around. We have been married almost 6 years and going strong.

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Hmm… We’d known each other for two years, though not that well. Then we got to know each other and dated for two years, then we got engaged and got married a year later.

We were not practicing Catholics at the time (all that is resolved now). And we met in high school, so we were fairly young.
 
It seems like there are quite a few people in this thread who married their high school sweetheart, interesting! I only know one married couple who met in high school.
 
19 years before we got engaged, 21 years before we got married. That only really makes sense if I also say that we were 19 years old when we got engaged and 21 when we got married. Our mothers were pregnant at the same time, and our parents became friends at one of those groups for expectant parents, so we’ve known each other all our lives. We always lived nearby, and we went to the same local state schools.

I was never interested in boys, except as friends, until I was 15, when it was like a switch flipped and suddenly I found myself thinking about this boy I’d known all my life in a different way. After our exams at the end of that school year, his parents asked my parents if I could go on their summer holiday with them (they knew that it had been a few years since we’d been able to have a summer holiday). We went as friends and came back as boyfriend and girlfriend. I still suspect that it was always their intention to play Cupid for us!

We secretly made a pact that we’d go to the same university, even if it meant one of us turning down a place somewhere really good if the other one didn’t get in. Thankfully, this was never put to the test! We did at least choose different colleges so we’d have our own lives while living in the same city. As for the proposal, my boyfriend knew that he wanted us to get married as soon as we finished university, but he reckoned that a year wasn’t long enough to plan the wedding and our future careers while also studying for our finals, so he decided to propose at the end of our first year, thus giving us two years to make all the necessary arrangements.

We did everything very young, but under the circumstances I don’t think that was unwise. I know only a few other couples who married at our age or younger: a Muslim couple who had an arranged marriage when they were both, I believe, 19 (the man spent the summer vacation in Pakistan and came home with his wife, who I think is a cousin of some degree); an evangelical Christian couple who married when they were both 20 (basically, so that they could live together in their final year at university); another evangelical Christian couple who married when the woman was 21 and the man was 22; and a Catholic couple who married when the woman was 21 (and still had a year to go of her 4-year classics degree) and the man was at least 25 or so (he had finished a PhD in physics).
 
That’s actually a great story. It’s always hard when parents play matchmaker: sometimes they know better than we do! It’s also hard when you know someone your whole life. My dad wanted me to date a particular young lady whose parents had been friends with my parents, and I and this young lady actually had a great deal in common - but we just weren’t quite right for each other. Then later my dad met my now wife; when we were engaged he professed he couldn’t have picked a better partner for me.
 
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phoage said:
When you are in your sixties, it does not pay to fiddle-fart around.
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Funny you use that phrase, which I like, by the way.

I use a similar phrase called “fizzle-fart” for weather that looks like it’s going to rain but never quite does. So when my wife asks me how’s the weather outside and I say, “It’s fizzle-farting out there”, she knows what I mean, while others tend to look at me with a look of befuddlement.
 
Met my wife at work, she was the new manager’s assistant, since our regular one was on maternity leave.
I knew, she was the one the moment I saw her.
I pestered her for 1 year until she allowed me to ask her out. 3 years of engagement and have been married now for 32 years, 10 months, 17
days.
She kept that position for the duration of our engagement.
There are no coincidences…
Peace!
 
I met my wife through Catholic Answers Forums. We lived in different parts of Europe so our relationship was online at the beginning. I asked her to marry me about six months after meeting in person for the first time. The first time we met I traveled to her native Latvia to meet her family and do a pilgrimage. We’re nearly married four years now.
 
I met my husband 28 years ago. We were both working at a summer job.

We didn’t date right away, actually a few years passed until we did date.

We’ll be married 23 years this year.
 
We met in college and were married 2 years later. Tomorrow is our 55th anniversary.
 
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