“It takes as long as it takes” is not an answer nor is it even remotely helpful. I was looking for an actual answer which you must not have. You are right about the importance but unfortunately there are many other commitments on Sunday to get to such as sports. Another consideration is having four children under eight sit on a wooden bench quietly for a hour and a half. I will take under advisement addressing the priest but it is the combination of a low monotone compounded with his thick accent.
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Well, excepting when a second Mass follows and there are practical issues in getting the parking lot emptied in time for those attending the second Mass to find parking themselves, or the priest having to travel to another parish for that second Mass of his day, the actual answer
is that it takes as long as it takes.
Small children are allowed to do quiet activities during Mass. They do not have to sit on a wooden bench the entire time.
This is not to say that you might not prefer a parish where the Masses are shorter, having found them to not suffer in liturgical quality. Important things being equal, you may legitimately prefer one priest’s Masses over another for any number of personal reasons, including whether it takes place within a time frame that matches your children’s attention span better.
I’d caution you, though, about teaching your children the habit of fitting Mass around your other interests, rather than the other way around. I would go so far as to make it a point to have no commitments for the time immediately after Mass, with rather rare exceptions, on the blunt assertion that Mass gets as much time as it needs and that you cannot make promises which you are not certain of being able to keep. If that means going regularly to an earlier Mass than you’d like, well, so be it.
Do not get me started on the insatiable time demands of youth sports. I’ll just say that if our worship and religious education programs made demands of even a fraction of what coaches routinely do, and at the ages they do, the howls would reach Rome without artificial amplification. I think we can guess what St. Paul would have to say about that. (1 Cor. 9:24-27)