Hi Gwen, and welcome to the Church

The EF can be tough to follow the first time. One really must go enough times to learn what the priest is doing. By his gestures, bows, etc., itās not hard to know what is happening on the Altar. And this makes it easy to find your place in the missal is you fall behind or get ahead of the priest. The participation is praying Holy Mass with the priest.
Pope Saint Pius X, the only Pope canonized in the last 450 years or so, tells us so.
A good missal with the rubrics and commentary is needed to do this. And after several times attending, it will become second nature. It took me about 30 lol.
Anyway, I can see why you felt so distanced from the Mass you attended. There is nothing quite like the ancient Rites of the Catholic Churches, and for 40 years, the largest of these has not prayed Hers. It seems foreign to so many of Her own
Deo gratias you have found a good, reverent parish