How many interests/hobbies do you share with your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend?

[BlestOne]

I’d have to say most… but we have tried almost all of each others hobbies… Like I work in computers and gaming software… I hate playing computer role playing games… he loves them. So I help him if he has problems getting his computer set up for them, but I don’t play. I love beading, crafts, sewing, etc… he will help me if I ask him, but he doesn’t like it too much. The things we share, reading, bible study, riding bikes, rollerblading (although he would choose biking any day) and politics… (him more than me). I have played D&D but really didn’t enjoy it as a regular thing… he plays every week. I do most of the cooking, but he makes killer tacos.

The biggest thing we don’t share is my absolute loathing of cartoons… he HAS to watch them.

We all love comic books though… me, him and all the kids.

 

[rayne89]

There are a few things we both like as far as hobbies/interests. We both like camping, going to the movies (although hubby is a horror movie buff and I am definitely not), hubby loves video games and I like some of them as in I’m not anti-video game. We both like playing cards. Taking naps. We share the same favorite flavor of soda pop -Peach Crush.

Some stuff I learned to like -such as playing the card game Magic.

I scrapbook, do crafts, writing, doing stuff on the computer, reading -those things he’s not into. And I love lima beans he detests them.

There’s stuff we both like that I just can’t do anymore because of my heart issues -rollercoasters/theme parks, bike riding, at this point I’m even having trouble with long walks (major bummer).

He loves seafood and I think anything except canned tuna fish and frozen fishsticks is gross. He likes swimming and I don’t even know how. He loves hot weather and I hate hot weather.

I guess there’s more than a few interests we share. We’re both really laid back people. I can’t say there’s a hobby/interest that either of us has that causes conflict. (I have learned not to read the descriptions of the horror movies he watches because I can’t understand how he enjoys such things.)

After being married almost 17 years it’s kind of scary of how much a like we’ve become. Similar mannerisms, vocabulary, responses. We are very “comfortable” together.:hug1:

 

[Ramalama]

Stamp collecting - No
Wood working - Yes
Ancient coin cleaning - No
On-line role playing games - Sometimes

 

[kayla]

I stated “nothing.” My wife and I share the kids, and not much else. My wife enjoys chain smoking and listening to the AM radio. I enjoy and do: camping, hiking and/or going on walks, hunting, good movies, good books, working on our house, fixing our cars, growing apple trees, bird watching, prayer and going to Church. She doesn’t do anything that would take her away from a place where she can chain smoke and listen to that AM radio. I can’t bear to even look at her sometimes, but I’m a Catholic man, and I married her. :crying:/quote

sorry Matas,
sounds like you can’t get your wife to enjoy the same intrests as you! I also love to camp, hike, walk, good books, movies, bird watching, and going to church.
I’ll pray that your wife gives up her chain smoking and joins you in your adventures

 

[lcalise]

I am very grateful that my husband and I share a lot of common interests: religion, politics, cooking, exercise, snuggling

I am also very grateful for the things that we don’t have in common: For me, art, literature and expressing emotions. For him, cars, mechanical stuff and being level-headed.

I guess it just makes us more complete people together.

 

[Guitar]

We share nearly all our hobbies and interests, and many of those have started for both of us within the relationship and some pre-existed the relationship and we picked them up from each other.

There have been “issues”, however. I’ve been a musician with my own diverse interests all my life. He didn’t play an instrument till after he met me. When my studies and other stuff finished and I could pursue pre-existing musical goals as well as shared music, there was unpleasantness. He expected the shared music at his level of ability to set my horizons and be the sum total of all my musical activity. There were words about the inconvenience “my hobby” caused (like, being home two hours later than usual one night a week and that was the sum total of the impact, and he’s the cook so he wasn’t left bereft) at the very time I was staying in a job that made me seethe in order to maintain the boat (guess what “his” hobby is?). There were other involvements in musical organisations where I hit burnout but he wanted to continue. He actually told others not to worry about my repeated and increasingly frustrated requests for them to find a replacement … after I found out he was filtering my requests right out, and I bypassed him, that is.

So it is great to have many shared interests but I have had to establish that I will not have someone else choose or control my recreational or semi-professional or volunteer activities or decide my level of commitment.

All is well now. I enjoy doing some things my way thank you very much and he is free and more than welcome to enjoy things I don’t want to do anymore.

 

[pyropam]

When I was younger, I really tried to like the same things that my husband liked. I wanted us to do everything together. I found out later in life that I shouldn’t be doing that.

Each person has different interest, hobbies, and taste.

We usually are attracted to another person because of the way that they are/act. If we try to make them change to like what we like, or we try to change ourselves to like what they like, then we are no longer the person that each one fell in love with.

My husband and I have some things that we both enjoy… we love to “cook” together.

Usually, he watches football (or other sports) while I check whats going on on CAF.

He goes to his hunting club, while I go shopping or sew.

What we found is this… If he and I aren’t doing the same things, then we strenghen our “talking and communicating” with each other. He comes back from a hunting trip and tells me all about it, and I show him what I have sewn. We spend time actually talking!

Ask any family counselor, it is better to have separate hobbies. Absence makes the heart grow fonder!

 

[paradoxy]

We share our taste in music, political (and most other) views, our tastes in food, furniture, and films.

I like the theater, ballet and reading very much, and he’s not all that keen on those.

He likes collective sports (which I find boring), but only watches a game about one a month or so, fishing (which I can respect and appreciate and even try to do at times) and fixing the car (which I have no interest in, but appreciate the fact that he does it.)

 

[Just_wondering]

At the moment, I’d say my boyfriend and I share almost no hobbies. However, we are trying to learn more about each other’s hobbies. He’s a basketball fan, I’ve never been interested in it, but I love watching how he gets excited at the games. He used to play, so he knows a lot of the professional players where we are, and it’s great to watch him cheer and heckle his friends at a game.

I haven’t really included him in any of my hobbies yet, mostly because they’re either solitary hobbies or at times he’s not available. But he’s really supportive of my going out and doing things by myself, as long as I remember that he would feel more comfortable if I don’t go home alone late at night.

I enjoy the conversations we have when we’ve been doing things apart for a while. For example, when he goes out with his family, and tells me how everyone is doing. Or when he designs his dream car on his racing computer game, and he describes it in great detail to me. I also like how he asks me all the right questions about the Master’s course I’m taking, and offers his insight, even though he’s never worked in my field. I like being able to bounce ideas off him, and get new ideas from the process.

I know that when I marry him, I will want to see him and be with him every day. But then again, I will also want to go out with my friends sometimes, when he won’t feel like it. And I’ll want to go cycling, or jogging, or join a club that won’t interest him too much. And when I get home, I’ll be a greater person for it.

I think we will end up with a few activities in common. Certainly, we should have friends in common, so that we can enjoy our time with one another. But it’s also valuable to spend time apart, so that you can put more value on the time you spend together.

 

[WH1988]

We share ALL the interests! Its impressive how my girlfriend and I like exactly the same things. We are both deeply Catholic, perhaps the biggest difference is that she loves the Jesuits while I am a cathecist at Opus Dei (and a great fan of the Work).

We love having naps (with parents at home and with the door open, of course), singing, praying, visiting musems and even studying together!

 

[Meximo]

I had to answer this question albeit the thread was a little old My husband and I have been married a little over 13 years and share very few hobbies. Exercising being one of our hobbies; however he is more into weight lifting and I enjoy running. He’s an artist and if he is creating I’ll knit or read.

I guess cause we do so many things together cooking, cleaning, working, teaching that we enjoy those quiet moments away from each other

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