How much Detail do you go into during Confession?

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It depends on the sin. You do not want to be too vague in confession because the priest needs to know what you mean. For example,let’s say someone watched porn but told the priest I did sexual stuff,the priest wont really know what you mean. I made that mistake before and trust me you do not want to be vague!
 
I agree with you, Reverend Father. Somebody who has studied at seminary for years knows more than most lay Catholics. The point I was trying to make was that if a Christian is slightly scrupulous (that is, they take note of each sin they commit), then that may be a positive thing if said person has a habit of sinning.

I certainly like your advice on confession. Our Holy Father told us that the confessional should not feel like a torture chamber! We should feel as though we are accepting God’s will.
 
For me, not much detail at all. Just the sin and not the story. The way I always heard the phrase about the 3 B’s is: be blunt, be brief, be gone. Blunt means don’t use euphisms or dance around the sin, just say the sin. Be brief means the priest doesn’t need extraneous details, just the sin. And then of course, having been absolved, be gone. There’s a line behind you.
 
I use the 10 Commandments as my guide. I learned long ago that every sin one commits is going to fall under one of them. So Confession doesn’t take more than a few minutes. And saying one’s penance only takes a few minutes more.
 
I’ve never mentioned the number of sins.
I’ve never told how often I committed a sin, not even a vague one.
It’s required to give the number when confessing grave sins. Obviously, though, the exact number isn’t required if you don’t know it, but I’ve generally heard that it is best to give what you do remember like “several times” or “at least X times”.
I remember once starting my confession by saying “I’ve messed up everything.” That’s the one time the priest said I was going to have to be a little more specific. 🙂
Follow up by saying, “No, I don’t think you understand. I messed everything up.”
 
Number and kind. If the priest wants more information, he will ask.

For example:
“I lied 3 times, I blasphemed twice, I ate meat on good Friday”
 
Out of respect for the priest’s time and others waiting, I don’t go into a lot of details. I just name the sin; God already knows the details and will forgive us either way.
 
I personally give detail if it changes the nature of the sin or is I believe it is really needed to properly explain things.

For example (not anything I’ve done, but giving a hypothetical), it’s one thing to say you had had sex with someone you aren’t married to. But if that person was 13, I’d think that changes the nature of the sin enough that it should be said.
 
Reason the church states this is because too much information can be an occasion of sin for the priest to hear. Eg: explicit information that is unnecessary.

You can mention more information if you feel the need to though.
 
Yes, but I think it can also be an occasion of excess boredom. Our sns are not as exciting or titillating as we think.
 
I have asked my priest if saying “a lot” works he was fine with it I believe.
 
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