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Well said, Grace&Glory!
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mflaschner
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I moved out one week before turning 18, lived on my own for the rest of college, and then moved back home this past November with the intention of saving up money before leaving for graduate school this coming September … then work started treating me really well and here I am still living at home [and still saving money!] with no intention of moving out for at least another year. Basically, my mom and I sat down and discussed the arrangement: rent, chores, move-out date, etc. All of these things were specific to us. Sure, I feel a little awkward telling people that I live at home - but a little awkward vs. the money I’m saving and the relationship my mom and I are mending [those teenage years were pretty rough on us!] is worth it.
Long story short: as long as you and your parents have a good relationship, remain flexible, and communicate well you shouldn’t worry about what other people think about your living situation - after all, you’re the one living it!!
Long story short: as long as you and your parents have a good relationship, remain flexible, and communicate well you shouldn’t worry about what other people think about your living situation - after all, you’re the one living it!!
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JustAnotherThou
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As long as you are a full time student and your parents have no problems with you living at home then go for it. Although, talk to you parents about their expectations. Also if you do get a pt job, put some of that money into savings so when you are able to move out you have some money.
A little advice that you didn’t ask for. I think going to school for automotive is GREAT, my son did it and has an awesome career at 21!! Get your Master Certification for Diesel!!! Even if you don’t want to there is much more demand for diesel mechanics and the pay is usually better. If you do well you can also look at getting accepted into the BMW training academy!!! Most students that go to automotive school will skip the diesel program because they see it through teenage eyes not thinking about the real world. Your counselor at school should be able to tell you all about opportunities like that!! By the way, my son got a PT job while he was going to school at a tire place. He worked on Saturdays although it was a good job and looked great on his resume!!! Plus, I know my son is making over twice as much as his friends that didn’t get their diesel certification.
Best of luck!!!
A little advice that you didn’t ask for. I think going to school for automotive is GREAT, my son did it and has an awesome career at 21!! Get your Master Certification for Diesel!!! Even if you don’t want to there is much more demand for diesel mechanics and the pay is usually better. If you do well you can also look at getting accepted into the BMW training academy!!! Most students that go to automotive school will skip the diesel program because they see it through teenage eyes not thinking about the real world. Your counselor at school should be able to tell you all about opportunities like that!! By the way, my son got a PT job while he was going to school at a tire place. He worked on Saturdays although it was a good job and looked great on his resume!!! Plus, I know my son is making over twice as much as his friends that didn’t get their diesel certification.
Best of luck!!!
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Zarathustra89
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Here in Germany you have 30 year olds living with their parents. Same thing in China.
Thus Spoke Zarathustra
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strngrnrth
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The purpose of leaving home is to be tested by the big world so that when you come home you have the courage, strength and maturity to be a help to your paretns and to your children. If you have achieved all that without leaving first, you needn’t move out at all.
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Ghoti
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How old was Jesus when He moved out? Thirty? He was still going places with His mother, like the wedding feast at Cana.
In some cultures, one does not generally move out until one is married.
In some cultures, one does not generally move out until one is married.
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KCT
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This would be acceptable at our house. Good luck in school.
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mariam1976
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I think you should pay something towards rent and towards keeping the fridge stoked as well… pay your own way… but not so much as to get into debt… also since u r staying at home, i dont see how u would need a lot of money for “stuff”… i understand gas…
the reason i say this is that it will teach u to budget and live within ur means… also, u need to realise that ur parents are getting old and need to save up as much as they can for retirement so help them out as much as you can while you can… as once u r married, u will have ur own responsibilities which might hinder u!!
just my :twocents:
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wjp984
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I know a couple classmates in law school that still live with their parents. It’s just cheaper for them and convenient. I still am almost completely financially dependant on my dad so while I may live on my own it is only because my dad pays for it.
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kms123
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IMO It’s no ones business if you live with your parents forever. If it looks weird to someone it’s their problem. However, if someone stays home due to laziness, mooching etc they would not win much admiration or respect.
In your situation staying home to save on expenses would be the best choice. Get through college, save some money, set your goals then move out and establish yourself, build your life/home the way you like. Just respect your parent house rules. : )
The trend I have witnessed is many young adults staying home, not working, not going to school, playing house then coming home with babies/boyfriends to live with them. I have no problem helping out an unwed mother but I would Never let the boy/girl friend move in!
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LilyM
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If the parents won’t accept money there isn’t much he can do (sneak something into his mum’s purse when she isn’t looking maybe? I tried that once and my mum twigged very soon afterwards, so it may not be possibleI think you should pay something towards rent and towards keeping the fridge stoked as well… pay your own way… but not so much as to get into debt… also since u r staying at home, i dont see how u would need a lot of money for “stuff”… i understand gas…
the reason i say this is that it will teach u to budget and live within ur means… also, u need to realise that ur parents are getting old and need to save up as much as they can for retirement so help them out as much as you can while you can… as once u r married, u will have ur own responsibilities which might hinder u!!
just my :twocents:
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graceandglory
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The other trend I see is the sooner you move out of your family’s home, the sooner you get sexually active. How fun to “play house” and “pretend to be married” when you’re not.
Maturity is good. Not being afraid of being alone in the dark can be good too. Learning to be responsible with your bills and your rent and your groceries, those are all good things. Those are things that can be done when you get married, or when your parents die. There is no required time to learn certain things. Some things we just grow accustomed to in America, that doesn’t mean it’s really the best model.
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Ghoti
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Yes there is: Put the money he wants to give aside in a savings account. Sometime, down the road, some disaster (God forbid) might happen-- fire, flood, illness, accident – and your parents might end up in a world of hurt financially, and might no longer be in a position to refuse help. And you’ll be there to the rescue. And they won’t have the worry that it’s “coming out of your pocket”…it would have been put away just for that purpose.If the parents won’t accept money **there isn’t much he can do **(sneak something into his mum’s purse when she isn’t looking maybe? I tried that once and my mum twigged very soon afterwards, so it may not be possible
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