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ringil
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This isn’t a religious/ spiritual situation, just a strange familial dynamic one.
My parents seperated/divorced some years ago and now have new significant others.
I live a few states away from my father and so I don’t see him so often but I talk with him on the phone once or twice a month. My father is a socially immature guy- perhaps in the autistic spectrum. He doesn’t exactly socialize in a normal way with others if this makes any sense. My father and I do not have any “heart-to-heart” talks or any such thing. He doesn’t seem cognitively or emotionally capable of this. Still, I love him and accept him for who he is- we all have faults- especially me.
He also seems to find relationships with women who are very controlling. My mother was this way and now his girlfriend is this way as well. She dosen’t like him to be away from her for any period and so they kind of just stay at home most of the time. They do not go out to eat or any other activity which would take them away from home. Neither of them work. The GF receives disability and money from her parents and my father has money from the estate of his deceased parents They sleep during the day and wake up at night. My dad’s GF also uses pills for anxiety and is likely addicted to them. Her presentation is rather odd and “spastic” in a way, so I suppose these two “odd birds” have found eachother. Who knows- my father may be abusing pills as well. . . hard to say.
The GF is also extremely preoccupied with money is is very very “tight” in that department. I don’t know if she is worried about my dad’s money or if I am trying to do something behind her back or whatever. I believe that my father will likely spend whatever money he has before he dies and if there is any left, then he will leave it to her, so money is not foremost in my mind at least. All of this is simply background and to set the stage, as it were, regarding the central issue I face.
I have noticed when I call my dad that the GF picks up the other line and quietly listens to our conversation. I find this a little. . . awkward. My father and I engage in completely inoccuous conversation, largely because my father isn’t really inclined to talk about anything of real consequence. We usually talk about video games or pets or something entirely surface.
So, needless to say, I don’t like being listened to so what do I do? I wouldn’t say I dislike the GF so much as I really don’t care enough to dislike her. If my father is fine in his limited way, then I’m fine. It’s just a weird situation.
My parents seperated/divorced some years ago and now have new significant others.
I live a few states away from my father and so I don’t see him so often but I talk with him on the phone once or twice a month. My father is a socially immature guy- perhaps in the autistic spectrum. He doesn’t exactly socialize in a normal way with others if this makes any sense. My father and I do not have any “heart-to-heart” talks or any such thing. He doesn’t seem cognitively or emotionally capable of this. Still, I love him and accept him for who he is- we all have faults- especially me.
He also seems to find relationships with women who are very controlling. My mother was this way and now his girlfriend is this way as well. She dosen’t like him to be away from her for any period and so they kind of just stay at home most of the time. They do not go out to eat or any other activity which would take them away from home. Neither of them work. The GF receives disability and money from her parents and my father has money from the estate of his deceased parents They sleep during the day and wake up at night. My dad’s GF also uses pills for anxiety and is likely addicted to them. Her presentation is rather odd and “spastic” in a way, so I suppose these two “odd birds” have found eachother. Who knows- my father may be abusing pills as well. . . hard to say.
The GF is also extremely preoccupied with money is is very very “tight” in that department. I don’t know if she is worried about my dad’s money or if I am trying to do something behind her back or whatever. I believe that my father will likely spend whatever money he has before he dies and if there is any left, then he will leave it to her, so money is not foremost in my mind at least. All of this is simply background and to set the stage, as it were, regarding the central issue I face.
I have noticed when I call my dad that the GF picks up the other line and quietly listens to our conversation. I find this a little. . . awkward. My father and I engage in completely inoccuous conversation, largely because my father isn’t really inclined to talk about anything of real consequence. We usually talk about video games or pets or something entirely surface.
So, needless to say, I don’t like being listened to so what do I do? I wouldn’t say I dislike the GF so much as I really don’t care enough to dislike her. If my father is fine in his limited way, then I’m fine. It’s just a weird situation.