How Should I Protect Myself/Us?

[llei]

Hello Everyone,

My husband and I will be traveling back to his country, we will stay with his mother. Every time I go back it stresses me out, there is this horrible negative energy that lingers in her house and around her. Even my husband gets very stressed out when he is there, we seem to argue when we are there and everything bad happens when we are there it seems. Last time we stayed there for multiple months (5 months ago), I lost a significant amount of weight and started losing my hair due to stress. I am still attempting to gain the weight back to this day.

We go back to see my husbands son, and part of the issue too is that my husbands son’s mother does everything in her power to make sure that we do not have a good time together. She does this through manipulation and coaching her son.

I need to find a way to protect myself, protect my marriage, and protect my husband and step-son.

Thank you in advance.

 

[Lou2U]

Do you have to stay with his mother? Is there any way you could afford a hotel, or not stay for such an extended period? Maybe you could focus on doing things together which have a “time limit” - going for a walk, or seeing a film together? Something that isn’t sitting with each other for hours on end. If you can, spend as much time with your stepson away from your MIL. Is it possible you could invite him to spend time where you live, away from your MIL?

I’m sorry. It sounds like such a hard situation, and I only wish I could think of some better solutions.

Lou

 

[mommy_k]

What does your husband think of this?

You can surround yourself with prayer, as well as having sacramentals to aid your prayers such as a Rosary, Holy water, a St.Benedicts medal and so on.

I would not stay for too long if it affects your health.

 

[llei]

Do you have to stay with his mother? Is there any way you could afford a hotel, or not stay for such an extended period? Maybe you could focus on doing things together which have a “time limit” - going for a walk, or seeing a film together? Something that isn’t sitting with each other for hours on end. If you can, spend as much time with your stepson away from your MIL. Is it possible you could invite him to spend time where you live, away from your MIL?

I’m sorry. It sounds like such a hard situation, and I only wish I could think of some better solutions.

Lou

Yes, unfortunately because its so expensive for us to go down there. This time luckily we are only staying for 2 weeks so it wont be as bad.

It is not possible for us to spend time where we live with stepson right now, since we live out of the country. We still have to go through the whole court process for this, because his mother would never allow it. I think that is a good idea, we will try to spend more time with my stepson out of MIL’s house.

Thank you for your understanding, it is a hard situation.

What does your husband think of this?

You can surround yourself with prayer, as well as having sacramentals to aid your prayers such as a Rosary, Holy water, a St.Benedicts medal and so on.

I would not stay for too long if it affects your health.

He’s not happy about it, he despises being in his country. He despises being at his mom’s house, he attempts to clear his son’s brain of any lies when his son comes over that his son’s mother feeds him.

Thank you for your suggestions.