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My brother in law was married in 2009 to a baptized non-Catholic. They went through all of the required classes through our church. In the beginning of 2014, after the death of his father, he had an affair with a long time friend of his wife and himself. He decided to divorce his wife and continue his relationship with this woman. He also decided that he didn’t want to have children with his wife around 3 years into their marriage. I am very good friends with his ex and I am having a very hard time with accepting this new relationship and being civil to my brother in law and his girlfriend. They are now moving in together, along with her 2 children from her non-Catholic Christian marriage which also ended as a result of their affair. As a Catholic, I was always taught that extramarital affairs and divorce was wrong. I was also taught that being in a new relationship after the divorce was wrong because the divorce is only civil and not an official annulment. The divorce itself is really frustrating for me and my husband because our 2 children are very close with my ex-Sister in Law and my Brother in law gets very upset with us for allowing our children to continue to have a relationship with her. I feel like I can’t and shouldn’t have a relationship with him and his girlfriend because it feels like a betrayal to his ex wife. All I feel is anger towards her as the other woman, even though we used to be friends before all of this went down. My husband is also frustrated with me because I don’t want to be around his brother at all. My Mother in law is also upset with me because of this. My ex-Sister in law was not Catholic and she wants to marry again someday. Does she have to get a Catholic annulment for her to remarry? If my brother in law decides to marry his new girlfriend without an annulment, will he be ex-communicated? Please help me to get through this situation! I don’t know what to do and I don’t like being this angry with people.