How should we respect other's religions?

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Basically this guy in my class is always critical of religion. Anyway I sorta exploded today as he was talking about God being jealous because he wants no other god to be worshipped. He said that in another religion the god doesn’t mind if other gods are worshipped. I lost it and said ‘well (that particular religion) isn’t right’.

Do you think it was wrong that I said that? I’m sick of this guy and his comments. I know we should be respectful towards other religions, but to what extent? Are we allowed to say or think that other religions are ‘wrong’?
 
Basically this guy in my class is always critical of religion. Anyway I sorta exploded today as he was talking about God being jealous because he wants no other god to be worshipped. He said that in another religion the god doesn’t mind if other gods are worshipped. I lost it and said ‘well (that particular religion) isn’t right’.

Do you think it was wrong that I said that? I’m sick of this guy and his comments. I know we should be respectful towards other religions, but to what extent? Are we allowed to say or think that other religions are ‘wrong’?
Is the other person an atheist or from a non-Christian religion?

In your example above I would ask him in what context was his interpretation based on? Is he just parroting verses from the Bible without forethought?

Ask him if he would consider that it may also be interpreted to mean that God is intolerant of disloyalty and does he think that be a quality worth possessing or not? It is not a ‘possessive jealousy’, it’s more that he created us and loves us unconditionally, gave us free will yet we use that gift of free will to lust after the ‘things of this world’ rather than focussing on a deeper relationship with God.

Engage him in a positive manner and keep calm. Ask him questions as to why he thinks this or that is the correct interpretation about the Catholic faith. Make sure you educate yourself as well by reading Apologetics books by Scott Hahn, Karl Keating etc.

Don’t say anything negative about non-Christian religions. Silence is golden and charitable.

TIP ~ I find that if I give someone enough rope and let them rave on about what they THINK they know about Catholicism and just respond with one or two carefully worded questions that I steal from my Hahn, Staples, Keating or Akin books, the person usually ends up either stumped, defensive, aggressive or stops, listens, ponders and asks more questions.

The last reaction is the best outcome because it means you are now engaging in a dialogue rather than being beaten around the head by an ill-informed or uneducated (about the Faith) fool who loves monologues.
 
Well, there is only one God, and He cannot teach His people two different things, for He is infinitely coherent. Clearly, the oneness of God implies that to worship any other God would be to greatly offend Him.

In our case, for instance, we profess that the Hebraism and Islam worship the same God we worship, though in different ways.

With regards to other religions, from the Catechism (here):
842 The Church’s bond with non-Christian religions is in the first place the common origin and end of the human race:
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All nations form but one community. This is so because all stem from the one stock which God created to people the entire earth, and also because all share a common destiny, namely God. His providence, evident goodness, and saving designs extend to all against the day when the elect are gathered together in the holy city. . .331
843 The Catholic Church recognizes in other religions that search, among shadows and images, for the God who is unknown yet near since he gives life and breath and all things and wants all men to be saved. Thus, the Church considers all goodness and truth found in these religions as "a preparation for the Gospel and given by him who enlightens all men that they may at length have life."332
844 In their religious behavior, however, men also display the limits and errors that disfigure the image of God in them
Much more could be (and has been) said. However, ultimately there is only one God, and it is irrational to conceive that He would allow His creation to worship as God anything other than Himself 🤷

Don’t be too upset, though: if he talks a lot about religion, it means that there are strong motions in his soul and that he is shaken in the search for God; not all have the wisdom to react in an open-minded way: some chose to react by becoming obstinate and rejecting the revealed truth. Be very patient, as Christ would be, and do find out more about the Sacred Tradition (as you are for instance doing here, but also by reading the Catechism and some good books on Apologetics) so that you may exercise the teaching authority that belongs only to the Church, becoming in your little way a “new evangelizer” 🙂 Remember, though, that Christianity is characterized by charity and forgiveness. Love is patient and kind, especially towards those who seem to ignore or offend God: for they obviously “do not know what they are doing”.

It may help, for instance, to mention that “religion” is how we relate to the supernatural. If I believe in one, many, or no Gods, that is my religion. Some speak even of a “secular religion”. Often, people use “religion” as in “community of faithful” or “doctrine”, etc. That is an erroneous statement. Nobody can say that he has no religion, for we are all naturally confronted with the supernatural world, as a result of our soul, being spiritual and longing for God, in whose image and likeness she is created.

So back to your original question, I guess we could say that the doctrine is not fully developed or not fully correct. And since you and me do not know everything, you can always refer him to the approximately twenty centuries of Sacred Tradition, which answers basically any question if people just were humble enough to search for answers…
 
The guy’s agnostic. He says he doesn’t believe in anything because he has no proof. He constantly puts me in difficult situations, and I don’t know how to react. For example the other day he said that abstinence was only 99% effective because Mary got pregnant anyway. I’ve told him to stop today, but I’m not sure he will.

I mean, what can I do when he puts me into difficult situations?
 
The guy’s agnostic. He says he doesn’t believe in anything because he has no proof. He constantly puts me in difficult situations, and I don’t know how to react. For example the other day he said that abstinence was only 99% effective because Mary got pregnant anyway. I’ve told him to stop today, but I’m not sure he will.

I mean, what can I do when he puts me into difficult situations?
What kind of class is this? I think you should definitely pray for him. Tell him that he is admitting to believing in the Incarnation of Jesus by his statement about the Blessed Mother. People like that are difficult, but the semester should be over soon should it not? Don’t let them bother you, pity them. They are the lost sheep.
 
What kind of class is this? I think you should definitely pray for him. Tell him that he is admitting to believing in the Incarnation of Jesus by his statement about the Blessed Mother. People like that are difficult, but the semester should be over soon should it not? Don’t let them bother you, pity them. They are the lost sheep.
I’m studying Information Technology. We’re just about finished the first semester, next one starts next year. I do pray for him. He’s not a bad guy, and I consider himself one of my friends. Often I think of these answers like the one you suggested, too late. I’m horrible at thinking on the spot.

Do you recommend I confess that I said that about another religion when I go to confession tomorrow?
 
Basically this guy in my class is always critical of religion. Anyway I sorta exploded today as he was talking about God being jealous because he wants no other god to be worshipped. He said that in another religion the god doesn’t mind if other gods are worshipped. I lost it and said ‘well (that particular religion) isn’t right’.

Do you think it was wrong that I said that? I’m sick of this guy and his comments. I know we should be respectful towards other religions, but to what extent? Are we allowed to say or think that other religions are ‘wrong’?
I think you should be 1 million per cent patient. Answer just his questions which (for him) are genuinely questions.
Just answer. Do not get angry. Do not get nervous. Just answer and let God do His way. On answering you arebuilding your answer database, you perfect the anwers and you are doing God’s job.
“You are wrong” is not a good answer.
I just throw myself into their questions and justify.
I would say, of course God is a jealous God, the Bible says so. He is the Only One, the Powerful One and of course, He won’t allow that some little mean god be called God. (give always an example or story!) It is like if a 10 year old child would call “Mother” to some woman he crosses in the street. Would this be bearable? (Stories are good because they are not logic so you cannot fight against them and they illustrate well.
If possible, I confirm his fears and justify them but some cannot be defended this way.
 
I think you should be 1 million per cent patient. Answer just his questions which (for him) are genuinely questions.
Just answer. Do not get angry. Do not get nervous. Just answer and let God do His way. On answering you arebuilding your answer database, you perfect the anwers and you are doing God’s job.
“You are wrong” is not a good answer.
I just throw myself into their questions and justify.
I would say, of course God is a jealous God, the Bible says so. He is the Only One, the Powerful One and of course, He won’t allow that some little mean god be called God. (give always an example or story!) It is like if a 10 year old child would call “Mother” to some woman he crosses in the street. Would this be bearable? (Stories are good because they are not logic so you cannot fight against them and they illustrate well.
If possible, I confirm his fears and justify them but some cannot be defended this way.
I’m happy to answer his questions. In fact, I told him today that I was. It’s just that he doesn’t actually ‘ask’ questions, he gives me these difficult rhetorical questions or statements. It’s so frustrating. I feel really sorry for him though. It’s really saddening that some people have missed out on the exposure to religion and what it really means to be a Catholic.
 
The guy’s agnostic. He says he doesn’t believe in anything because he has no proof. He constantly puts me in difficult situations, and I don’t know how to react. For example the other day he said that abstinence was only 99% effective because Mary got pregnant anyway. I’ve told him to stop today, but I’m not sure he will.

I mean, what can I do when he puts me into difficult situations?
I had/still have a friend during my University days who was similar. He thought me being a Catholic and a Medical Student was incompatible and had a very dim view of ‘believers’ as he called anyone with a faith. This was the period when I started buying Apologetic books and my Muslim friend (also a Medical student) and I would engage and challenge him on what he thought ‘faith’ was and we befriended him. He is still my friend, not a ‘believer’ but has admitted that he believes that no-one can say ‘we know that God does or does not exist’.

Call him on it. Let him know that you want to have a serious discussion about his behaviour. Ask him if he says these things about your faith to get a reaction out of you or does he want honest dialogue or is he just being obnoxious. Take a deep breath and face it calmly.

If this is a regular occurrence and he gets enjoyment out of your discomfort then it sounds like maybe HE is the one with ‘issues’.
 
If it is weighing on you this heavily then I would confess it. I would also pray for more patience with him and guidance from the Holy Spirit on how to respond in the future.
God Bless

PS… Abstinence is more than 99% effective, it would be 99.99999999999999999etc.% It would only be 99% if one out of a hundred women got pregnant that way 😃
 
If it is weighing on you this heavily then I would confess it. I would also pray for more patience with him and guidance from the Holy Spirit on how to respond in the future.
God Bless

PS… Abstinence is more than 99% effective, it would be 99.99999999999999999etc.% It would only be 99% if one out of a hundred women got pregnant that way 😃
It’s not really ‘weighing’ on me, I just realise now that I probably shouldn’t have said it. Would it most likely be a venial or mortal sin?

Is evangelisation meant to be hard to accomplish?
 
Basically this guy in my class is always critical of religion. Anyway I sorta exploded today as he was talking about God being jealous because he wants no other god to be worshipped. He said that in another religion the god doesn’t mind if other gods are worshipped. I lost it and said ‘well (that particular religion) isn’t right’.

Do you think it was wrong that I said that? I’m sick of this guy and his comments. I know we should be respectful towards other religions, but to what extent? Are we allowed to say or think that other religions are ‘wrong’?
If other religions aren’t wrong, why be a Christian? If other religions aren’t wrong, Christian orthodoxy is wrong. This does not mean we should be rude or imprudent. Obviously there is a way that we should go about saying things, but it is not wrong of you to say other religions are wrong. Maybe your tone, the way you said it, or the spirit you said it in, but what you said was most certainly not.

As for your friend, tell him every religion has the right to interpret their holy book the way they believe it should be interpreted. Since he is not a Christian, perhaps he should ask an informed Christian what Christians believe about certain passages in the Bible, instead of interpreting it for them and espousing what he says they believe or what he believes the book intends to say. Your friend does not want to understand, he wants to ridicule. Because he wants to ridicule, he will intentionally look for things he can deem ridiculous. If he is not a theologian or a Bible scholar, he is not qualified to make informed interpretation on Scripture. In any case, I wish you well.
 
It’s not really ‘weighing’ on me, I just realise now that I probably shouldn’t have said it. Would it most likely be a venial or mortal sin?

Is evangelisation meant to be hard to accomplish?
In this case most likely a venial sin… you could just directly apologize to him for losing your cool. 🤷

I feel I’m horrible at evangelization, thus why I recommend praying to the Holy Spirit:)
I care so much, I tend to get obstinent (sp?)… Or I run into questions I don’t know much about. The other day I had someone tell me that they are a Christian but don’t believe in original sin! :eek: I didn’t remember ever learning about this possibility (although I must have as I was a religious studies major in college?) It really made my mind stop for a second. I responded “OH, well my faith teaches we all have original sin” and left it there.
 
I mean, what can I do when he puts me into difficult situations?
Educate yourself about your faith. Look into the questions or points he brings up. Bring the question to the Google search engine. Come to this forum. Ask an apologist, a priest, etc. Just because you might not know the answer to all of the difficult situations he puts you in does not mean you have to let it stay that way. You can do it. In the meantime, pray for him and for yourself.
 
In this case most likely a venial sin… you could just directly apologize to him for losing your cool. 🤷

I feel I’m horrible at evangelization, thus why I recommend praying to the Holy Spirit:)
I care so much, I tend to get obstinent (sp?)… Or I run into questions I don’t know much about. The other day I had someone tell me that they are a Christian but don’t believe in original sin! :eek: I didn’t remember ever learning about this possibility (although I must have as I was a religious studies major in college?) It really made my mind stop for a second. I responded “OH, well my faith teaches we all have original sin” and left it there.
Haha it seems all too often we are asked more questions about Catholicism than we have answers. I have a good friend who’s a priest. I’m constantly asking him questions and I have no idea how he answers them so well!
 
The next time he brings up religion, even if it is just to make fun of it, tell him that you believe that’s the Holy Spirit working in him, gently getting him to question and probe and slowly open up to the Truth.

Then every time he brings it up again (if he does), quietly say a prayer to the Holy Spirit, thanking Him for working on your friend’s heart.

If he is only bringing up religion to get a rise out of you, he will be appalled and most likely not want to keep bringing up the subject. If he IS truly being called by the Holy Spirit (which, as a convert to the Faith from being a non-practicing Jew is what I truly believe is happening in most of such cases), you will be bringing in the big guns. Also that little prayer, each time he questions your faith will help to calm you so you don’t lose your cool.

And yes, you do need to apologize for losing your cool. We lose our cool when we briefly put too much stock in our own ability to evangelize instead of recognizing that its the Holy Spirit who really does the heavy lifting.

The most powerful evangelizing is done when people see the peace and joy that comes with our faith in the Lord.
 
Eman resu, certainly always show respect for other religious beliefs, hard though that can be. Also learn as much as you can of the things we Catholics often take for granted that others can use to attempt to “catch us out with”. Catholicism for Dummies is a goo resource for putting our beliefs into language that is easily conveyed to non-Catholics.

Another useful technique would be to turn his statements into questions that you want him to answer for you, or ask him how he drew the conclusion that he did. That should force him to give you some specifics to correct, or time for your quick prayer for the right words to use to be answered.

Often we feel that a question must be answered immediately when taking a few moments to ponder then answer is better.
 
I’m happy to answer his questions. In fact, I told him today that I was. It’s just that he doesn’t actually ‘ask’ questions, he gives me these difficult rhetorical questions or statements. It’s so frustrating. I feel really sorry for him though. It’s really saddening that some people have missed out on the exposure to religion and what it really means to be a Catholic.
Whatever: just be patient with him.
Another tip: just remember that when someone talks, there are several menaings in his statement.
If I say, “Go to Hell !”, I may say

  1. *]superficially, that I am sending you to Hell;
    *]deeply, that my wife beat me and I am angry with her and I am throwing my anger at you:

    So, if you answer to my “Go to hell!” saying “Just forgive your wife!” or “why did you wife beat you?” you will produce better results. The question is to discover the hidden meanings.
 
The next time he brings up religion, even if it is just to make fun of it, tell him that you believe that’s the Holy Spirit working in him, gently getting him to question and probe and slowly open up to the Truth.

Then every time he brings it up again (if he does), quietly say a prayer to the Holy Spirit, thanking Him for working on your friend’s heart.

If he is only bringing up religion to get a rise out of you, he will be appalled and most likely not want to keep bringing up the subject. If he IS truly being called by the Holy Spirit (which, as a convert to the Faith from being a non-practicing Jew is what I truly believe is happening in most of such cases), you will be bringing in the big guns. Also that little prayer, each time he questions your faith will help to calm you so you don’t lose your cool.

And yes, you do need to apologize for losing your cool. We lose our cool when we briefly put too much stock in our own ability to evangelize instead of recognizing that its the Holy Spirit who really does the heavy lifting.

The most powerful evangelizing is done when people see the peace and joy that comes with our faith in the Lord.
I didn’t yell at him or anything. We came to an agreement that he would stop criticising my faith. I don’t think there is any need for an apology. If I had’ve mentioned that particular religion being wrong in front of someone who believed in that religion, I would certainly apologise to them.

What I don’t understand is: Why do teenagers and people my age (I’m 18) look at religion as something to make fun of? It seems to me to be that pepple are more critical of Catholicism than other religions… What’s with that? Is it because they are scared of the curiousity they have for it?
 
Eman resu;10021711For example the other day he said that abstinence was only 99% effective because Mary got pregnant anyway. said:
You have to admit, coming from the “right” person… i.e. a comedian, that statement could be funny. Actually I laughed. I don’t know how old this guy is but it sounds like he hasn’t been out of high school long. It also sounds like he’s the type of person who enjoys getting under peoples skin.

I know people who are good at “picking” on people just to adjutate. The key is not to fuel the fire. Don’t give him what he wants. I know it’s hard but no to take it personally. He has the full right to think what he wants and he has the full right to be wrong. My guess is that while there may be some belief in his statements, he’s just saying them to get to people or to crack them up. I’m still chuckling at that statement… I’m sure he’s saying things that are preposterous, don’t let him get to you. If he really needs to annoy someone he will find someone else if you don’t give in.

I would have looked at him when he made the statement , chuckled, said “that’s a good one”, and moved on. It sound like this is a person you should not discuss your beliefs with.

You said you considered him a friend you could also tell him you’ve chosen not to discuss your beliefs with him anymore because he’s not being considerate of your feeling.
 
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