How to act around my gay friend

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You know, this is tough to answer without more detailed information. For instance, it’s been my long experience that many gay men are VERY overt about it. They wear earrings, buttons, rainbows, purple stuff, mince about and lisp.

So this is annoying behavior to me, and I just don’t like to be around it. It’s like they’re “cruising” in my company.

I don’t know if this is the case with the OP. But I do think at some point you should (OP) be clear that you’re with the Catholic teachings. I think this can be a valuable witness even if his initial response is negative; gives him food for thought.
 
I’m scratching my head as to why you scratched his head. If you need to know how to react, I suggest you rent the movie “Planes, Trains and Automobiles” with Steve Martin & John Candy.
 
My best guy friend scratches my head on occasion. Nothing sexual at all. Just his way of showing that he cares about me, as a brother cares for his sister. He usually does it though if I’m going through a hard time.
 
wynnejj said:
I’m scratching my head as to why you scratched his head. If you need to know how to react, I suggest you rent the movie “Planes, Trains and Automobiles” with Steve Martin & John Candy.
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“Those aren’t pillows!” :bigyikes: :rotfl:
 
It sounds as though he’s making advances, however slight. Politely tell him to stop. You might have to break off the relationship. I had a friendship with a female co-worker I had to abandon because of her constant efforts to be romantic.
 
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I have a friend who is gay. He knows I believe sex belongs in marriage between a man and a woman. Sometimes he’ll hug me, or rest his head on my shoulder, and I’ve scratched his head before. Once he came up behind me while I was on the computer and put his head on my should and his hands around me and hugged me. I just said, “Hey buddy!” Is it wrong for me to get very close to him because he is attracted to men? How should I act? Thanks.
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Treat him as you would treat anyone else regardless of their gender preferences.
 
If any friend makes you feel uncomfortable, then you’ve got a problem. Other than that, just be a friend. 🙂

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I doubt he’s “hitting on you” or anything; some people are just intimate like that. I’d say that you should just explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable the next time he does it; if he gets offended, explain that its nothing against him personally, but that you’re just more reserved than that.

As to how to act around him: just treat him like a normal human being deserving of compassion and charity. We’re all sinners, after all.
 
Most gay people would never hit on a straight friend. That’s just awkward. Just like most straight people wouldn’t hit on a gay friend.
 
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