How to Address Other Children saying "OMG" around My Children?

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As one with atheistic leanings, I’m not especially offended.

I suspect that 99 percent of the people who use this expression are giving no thought to God when they utter it. It’s much more likely that they’re thinking about the toe they just stubbed or the thumb they just smashed with their hammer.
Well, that’s the whole point.
People don’t realize that one of the commandments is to not take the Lord’s name in vain.
You don’t have to be cursing…but throwing around His name indiscriminately.

I made the mistake of using the phrase omg in print one day on this forum a couple of years ago.
All you know what broke loose, and I was “read” by legions of CAF followers about how badly I had sinned. ''When I asked my priest about it, he agreed.
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I’m surprised by this too. I see some traditional Catholics and other devout religious people including orthodox Jews who say OMG (the whole thing) or Oh my L_ . I’m unsure, but I thought that was considered to be using God’s name in vain??🤷
Yep. It refers to taking the Lord’s name in vain. It says nothing about anger, resentment, callousness, or anything else. Do not take it in vain - which of course applies to all the emotions just listed, but certainly isn’t limited to them. If we are not truly conversing with the Lord, or praying (which could be the same thing), we do not utter his name, unless as some explanatory statement of fact as the subject or object of a sentence (“God loves us, sweetie.” “Jesus died for our sins.” “Jesus had a sweet beard, no?”.

OMG is akin to saying “Jesus Christ!” when something doesn’t go your way. For my family, that’s not allowed. I’ve had to detach (and still do…) myself from coarse language due to years in sports, a fraternity and the Air Force (not exactly bastions of décor…) but I could never kid myself that the language was acceptable.

Regardless, it is the OPs house, and her rules. If the child was dropping profane expletives every time they dropped their blocks, it would be no different, to me.
 
Their are people who constantly say… Jesus Christ this,… and Jesus Christ that… I don’t put OMG in the same category, but that’s just me.
 
Well, that’s the whole point.
People don’t realize that one of the commandments is to not take the Lord’s name in vain.
You don’t have to be cursing…but throwing around His name indiscriminately.

I made the mistake of using the phrase omg in print one day on this forum a couple of years ago.
All you know what broke loose, and I was “read” by legions of CAF followers about how badly I had sinned. ''When I asked my priest about it, he agreed.
😊
I remember that thread! (And partly because of that, I’m surprised so many people have said it’s no big deal.)

Oh, CAF, you will never fail to amaze me…😃

We’ll see what happens today. I am going to try and be chill about it. Though yesterday the 8 year old asked me why we didn’t watch more TV, and I said, “Oh, we just don’t watch it very much,” and he instantly started in on the wonders of television. I don’t know that he’d have much to say about the “merits” of a phrase I dislike. (Plus he learned that he’s entitled to his opinions, but I don’t have to be swayed by them. :p)
 
It’s your call what you allow in your home and what you don’t. We try not to even say “shut up” in our home and I know other people that do the same so whether it’s a sin or not is really not of consequence it’s your house, your rules.

Since your brought it up thought, when I have asked I was always told it’s not a sin. Here on the Ask An Apologist Forum here is what Fr. Vincent Serpa said in response to is it a sin to say “Oh My God” cut-and-paste below here: hope this helps a little.
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Unfortunately, the holy name of “Jesus” is used in disrespectful ways. But
phrases like “Oh, my God!” and “Oh, God!” and “Lord, have mercy!” and “Jesus, Mary and Joseph!” are never used to blaspheme. Simply because we may blurt out one of these phrases without the full awareness of their significance, does not render them disrespectful. In fact, they can help us to be aware of our need for divine help at such times.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P***.
Since the commandment refers to “in vain”, i.e., uselessness or futility, it would seem intent to blaspheme, while certainly not allowed, is not specifically what the commandment is aimed at. It takes an opposition to an even softer utterance, doing so in vain. of course, there are more than simply the commandments to guide us in these matters, in either case.

Regardless, sin or no, as mentioned, it is your house and your rules. All sin must be avoided. Not all things we choose to avoid have to be sins.
 
Since the commandment refers to “in vain”, i.e., uselessness or futility, it would seem intent to blaspheme, while certainly not allowed, is not specifically what the commandment is aimed at. It takes an opposition to an even softer utterance, doing so in vain. of course, there are more than simply the commandments to guide us in these matters, in either case.

Regardless, sin or no, as mentioned, it is your house and your rules. All sin must be avoided. Not all things we choose to avoid have to be sins.
That’s a big part of my take also. In another thread here there was a discussion regarding someone retorting angrily to their spouse who’d asked where something was “It’s up your arse!” I was shocked that most CAFers didn’t think this was too terrible. I think if a way of speaking doesn’t fit with the tone of your own family you have a right to discourage it in your own household without too much explanation.
 
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Unfortunately, the holy name of “Jesus” is used in disrespectful ways. But
phrases like “Oh, my God!” and “Oh, God!” and “Lord, have mercy!” and “Jesus, Mary and Joseph!” are never used to blaspheme. Simply because we may blurt out one of these phrases without the full awareness of their significance, does not render them disrespectful. In fact, they can help us to be aware of our need for divine help at such times.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P***.
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Thank you very much, if you read further in what Fr. Vincent Serpa wrote he didn’t just say that saying “Oh my God” wasn’t blasphemous, he said blurting them out did not render them disrespectful. I think he was cleat that saying these things was rather benign and could even help people be mindful of God.
Right, people say OMG… because they’re shocked by something, not because they want to blaspheme God.
 
That’s a big part of my take also. In another thread here there was a discussion regarding someone retorting angrily to their spouse who’d asked where something was “It’s up your arse!” I was shocked that most CAFers didn’t think this was too terrible. I think if a way of speaking doesn’t fit with the tone of your own family you have a right to discourage it in your own household without too much explanation.
Just to clarify: that was in the context of whether that particular incident demonstrated a need for anger management intervention. I don’t think anyone thought is was a constructive way to express a complaint or the kind of talk that ought to go on between spouses. Rather, it was within the boundaries of *bad *behavior that people with typical self-control fall into when they are very angry.
 
Thank you very much, if you read further in what Fr. Vincent Serpa wrote he didn’t just say that saying “Oh my God” wasn’t blasphemous, he said blurting them out did not render them disrespectful. I think he was cleat that saying these things was rather benign and could even help people be mindful of God.
Fair enough, and I like what Fr. Serpa has to say. I am not comfortable with it myself, but I see what he is saying.

As I said, folks are free to use or not use language as their sensibilities dictate, short of that which is clearly sinful. In a case like this, we are free to lower the threshold even further from “it is of a sinful nature” to “I just don’t like hearing that in my house.”

I always go back to the somewhat trite “WWJD” and see if I feel like he’s utter what I was thinking of. Very basic, but keeps me honest.
 
Just Curious, but what you all think if you heard people saying… OH MY ALLAH ?
 
Right, people say OMG… because they’re shocked by something, not because they want to blaspheme God.
People also say GD because their hand hurts from the hammer blow, they aren’t consciously intending to blaspheme God.

Not telling you what to say of course, just that most expletives aren’t done with any intent other than to express hurt or frustration.
 
Just Curious, but what you all think if you heard people saying… OH MY ALLAH ?
The same thing I’d think if I heard them say OMG in farsi. Probably wouldn’t register to me, culturally.

Sin or not, all that matters is Pensmama’s (go Caps) house rules and respect for them. My family has rules, and I am not here to tell others what to say beyond what the Church already has. As with everyone’s families, your mileage may vary.
 
People also say GD because their hand hurts from the hammer blow, they aren’t consciously intending to blaspheme God.

Not telling you what to say of course, just that most expletives aren’t done with any intent other than to express hurt or frustration.
I say somthing worse when that happens. :o
 
I think personally I’ll still lean towards my gut feeling that we should be sensitive to the uses of Gods name. Pretty much everyday of my life I’ve prayed “Hallowed be thy name” and when I hear the curse “Jesus Christ!!” or “Christ almighty!!” I can’t help to feel some little horror for the Jesus who saved us.
 
I think personally I’ll still lean towards my gut feeling that we should be sensitive to the uses of Gods name. Pretty much everyday of my life I’ve prayed “Hallowed be thy name” and when I hear the curse “Jesus Christ!!” or “Christ almighty!!” I can’t help to feel some little horror for the Jesus who saved us.
Basically what you are doing when you say “Jesus Christ” for something is you are try to give force to that statement, but I don’t think it rises to blasphemy.
 
Basically what you are doing when you say “Jesus Christ” for something is you are try to give force to that statement, but I don’t think it rises to blasphemy.
No I accept that Fr Sherpa says it isn’t blasphemy but I’m still of the generation that regards it as a cultural curse. It’s a much more secular culture now.
 
No I accept that Fr Sherpa says it isn’t blasphemy but I’m still of the generation that regards it as a cultural curse. It’s a much more secular culture now.
I agree, but i think saying “Jesus Christ” is more of a “cultural curse” than saying OMG.
 
Just Curious, but what you all think if you heard people saying… OH MY ALLAH ?
Actually, from someone who works with a majority Muslim population, I hear “Wallah!” on a daily basis (meaning, “I swear to God.”). Sometimes, the person who says this phrase will say it several times in the same sentence. 🙂
 
Thank you very much, if you read further in what Fr. Vincent Serpa wrote he didn’t just say that saying “Oh my God” wasn’t blasphemous, he said blurting them out did not render them disrespectful. I think he was cleat that saying these things was rather benign and could even help people be mindful of God.
There are separate neuropathways for thought-out speech and for expletives or blurted-out statements. This can be seen in stroke patients who cannot say what they intend to say except when they blurt something out without thinking. Imagine the frustration of finding it impossible to express yourself no matter how much labor you put into it, only to find yourself speaking with total clarity as you swear in frustration! :o

Still, when we “blurt something out,” we do what we have practiced to the point of thoughtlessness. The formation of that habit is where any culpability comes, and not so much in the blurting out.

It is better to avoid the habit of using any name of God or the names of any of the holy saints or places except for a real purpose. That will help keep us from blurting out these things at the worst possible time or in the worst possible way. Still, we also say what we hear. If we are around that, there is a chance we’ll find ourselves saying things we never said in our lives. It happens. Oh, well, such is human frailty. This is why we should not judge others, but just do our best to do our own best.
 
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