How to Address Other Children saying "OMG" around My Children?

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I have to say… I’m a little surprised at the responses here. Especially since I’ve been guilty of taking God’s name in vain a lot, and still slip up to this day. But I’m working on it, to take the phrase (when used in vain) out of my vocabulary. I can see what Fr. Serpa is saying though. If for instance, someone tells me that their aunt got in a car accident, or someone is suffering from a horrible disease, then I could see “Oh my God” being permissible to say; perhaps it could be offered up as a prayer as in, “Oh my God, have mercy on that person.”

However, I think I disagree with him for the most part. It would appear other men who have been Here’s a few articles where the same question is asked to three other priests, who give a contrary answer. it’s not all as cut and dry as this thread seems to make the issue of taking God’s holy name in vain:

osv.com/Article/TabId/493/ArtMID/13569/ArticleID/16298/Lord%E2%80%99s-Name-in-Vain.aspx

catholic.org/homily/yearoffaith/story.php?id=51378

ewtn.com/v/experts/showmessage.asp?number=386807

I think the second commandment is pretty clear, we shouldn’t take our Lord’s name in vain. So yes, Fr. Sepa is right, we’re not blaspheming His name, and maybe sometimes uttering it can help us be aware of the need for divine help… however it’s quite clear that taking God’s name in vain in situations other than these instances is contrary to keeping the Lord’s name holy. The CCC says:

"The gift of a name belongs to the order of trust and intimacy. “The Lord’s name is holy.” For this reason man must not abuse it. He must keep it in mind in silent, loving adoration. He will not introduce it into his own speech except to bless, praise, and glorify it.

Respect for his name is an expression of the respect owed to the mystery of God himself and to the whole sacred reality it evokes. The sense of the sacred is part of the virtue of religion" (CCC 2143-2144)

I fail to see how mindlessly blurting out our Lord’s name, especially if we’re Christian, shows respect to the mystery of God. Whenever one of my younger cousins or another child I know says “Oh my God”, I ask them to please not say that; that we should have respect for God’s name and not use it so carelessly without thought.

As for saying Jesus’ name in vain, this was a really good article that shows how holy His name is:

peterkreeft.com/topics-more/jesus-prayer.htm

There was a discussion at work one time at lunch that it was “ridiculous” for a friend of mine to tell another co-worker that saying God or Jesus’ name in vain was wrong. The one co-worker couldn’t wrap his head around what my friend had said. The co-worker said, “What’s the differenc eif you say ‘Christ!’ or ‘Gadzooks!’”. I interjected and told him “One is God’s name; the other is not.” I also mentioned how Jesus’ very name is a prayer, going back to the desert fathers. Of course the Jesus prayer is typically spelled out as, “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner.” However, it’s sufficent to just say “Jesus”. As the CCC says,

“The divine name may not be spoken by human lips, but by assuming our humanity The Word of God hands it over to us and we can invoke it: “Jesus,” “YHWH saves.” The name “Jesus” contains all: God and man and the whole economy of creation and salvation. To pray “Jesus” is to invoke him and to call him within us. His name is the only one that contains the presence it signifies. Jesus is the Risen One, and whoever invokes the name of Jesus is welcoming the Son of God who loved him and who gave himself up for him.” (CCC 2666)

Was my lapsed Christian co-worker welcoming the Son of God by taking Jesus’ name in vain? Vain is defined as by Webster’s dictionary: “without effect or avail; to no purpose.” IWhat I’m asking is, should we be saying God’s name for no purpose? Again, I am guilty of this and am doing better in stopping myself from saying God’s name in vain. Now if Jesus’ name is a prayer, and “Oh my God” can be used as a prayer… I think we can conclude from the links and selections from the CCC I’ve posted we should take more care in just blurting out the name of God. Even if it isn’t outright blasphemy, it’s still being done in vain.
 
Tell them it means oh my gosh. That’s what my parents did for me I think. It also makes sense when you look at it and I think a kid would understand.
 
What I can’t handle is kids, adults, anyone who uses the phrase without any thought. There was a priest at my folks church who would always let out a loud “oh, my Gaaaaaaaaaad” when hearing a joke or story. It sounds awful and very disrespectful of our Lord’s most holy and precious Name.

Hearing the careless way some folks use His Name is terrible. Hubby and I are camp hosts with the DNR and are in contact with people all day. I will and do say something when God’s name is tossed around.
 
What I can’t handle is kids, adults, anyone who uses the phrase without any thought. There was a priest at my folks church who would always let out a loud “oh, my Gaaaaaaaaaad” when hearing a joke or story. It sounds awful and very disrespectful of our Lord’s most holy and precious Name.

Hearing the careless way some folks use His Name is terrible. Hubby and I are camp hosts with the DNR and are in contact with people all day. I will and do say something when God’s name is tossed around.
Well that’s fine for you but what people say personally is not my business. If I got involved in that stuff I might start stressing over it and I do not need more stress in my life to be honest.
 
As of this week, I’m back in the babysitting game. So far it’s been going pretty well. The kids are a bit older so I only have them for a couple hours after school - two boys, 6 and 8. They are for the most part sweet, they listen well, and play nicely with my kids and are respectful.

They do have a habit of casually saying, “OMG” (the whole thing.) I don’t think my kids have ever even heard that phrase before. My boys have not repeated it. I didn’t say anything the first time because I was taken aback (for some reason I didn’t think kids that young would say it - I have no idea why I thought so, probably just being naive. At any rate, it’s probably uttered 1-2x per day by one or both of them while they’re here.) I know I need to say something and soon because I want it to stop ASAP.

Would you address it directly with them or with their parents, and how would you do so? The family are secular Jews. They know we are Catholic.

I would normally say, “We don’t use that word/phrase in our home,” but most of those would be things almost anyone would find offensive (or at least be unsurprised by). Maybe I’m overthinking it. I’m willing to be told so. 😛
IMO you are over thinking it.
 
IMO you are over thinking it.
Not if it:

A) offends you

B) worries you that other impressionable children may begin to think it is okay in your home (or anywhere else)

OMG aside, everyone has things they don’t accept being said in their home. That’s the crux of the discussion; not what is being said (though I agree in this case), but how to handle the situation.
 
Not if it:

A) offends you

B) worries you that other impressionable children may begin to think it is okay in your home (or anywhere else)

OMG aside, everyone has things they don’t accept being said in their home. That’s the crux of the discussion; not what is being said (though I agree in this case), but how to handle the situation.
Yes but even if something offends me I am not going to just make a random person stop saying it for my own comfort.
 
Yes but even if something offends me I am not going to just make a random person stop saying it for my own comfort.
It’s not a random person, it’s a child who spends 12 hours a week in my home playing with my children.

You’re right that I probably wouldn’t say anything to someone in the grocery line, because hey, in five minutes we’re unlikely to ever cross paths again, but if my kids were there and the guy or gal was dropping the “F bomb” all over the place, I’d say something. And yes, some very rude/socially clueless people do this, and then get mad at being reminded that we live in a society.
 
As of this week, I’m back in the babysitting game. So far it’s been going pretty well. The kids are a bit older so I only have them for a couple hours after school - two boys, 6 and 8. They are for the most part sweet, they listen well, and play nicely with my kids and are respectful.

They do have a habit of casually saying, “OMG” (the whole thing.) I don’t think my kids have ever even heard that phrase before. My boys have not repeated it. I didn’t say anything the first time because I was taken aback (for some reason I didn’t think kids that young would say it - I have no idea why I thought so, probably just being naive. At any rate, it’s probably uttered 1-2x per day by one or both of them while they’re here.) I know I need to say something and soon because I want it to stop ASAP.

Would you address it directly with them or with their parents, and how would you do so? The family are secular Jews. They know we are Catholic.

I would normally say, “We don’t use that word/phrase in our home,” but most of those would be things almost anyone would find offensive (or at least be unsurprised by). Maybe I’m overthinking it. I’m willing to be told so. 😛
Two of my nieces started habitually saying it. They are in the 2nd and 4th grade, respectively. My 7 year old niece (almost eight) said it once, and told me “mommy lets us say it”. So, since all my nieces and nephews are theists (though my brother is atheist) and their mother has no problem with me talking religion to them, when the 7 year old niece said it, I said to her that using God’s name in vain is using it for no reason, and I asked her "Allessa, how would you like it if God said ‘Allessa’! And you said “Yes, sir”, and then God responded “nothing”. ? She said “that would be weird”. So I explained to her that invoking God’s name for no reason is not a good idea. At any rate, they no longer say it (if they do, it is not around me). But you know, I am pretty much the only person in my family that has that moral belief. Which I find odd, but oh well. Our public colleges, I will tell you, are a place where if God’s name is mentioned, it is often abused. I have heard “g.d.” so many times…
 
By the way, if someone says OMG, what I (sadly) have fallen out of the habit of saying when this happens (or if they say g.d.), I would often say “Admirable is the name of God”. I feel like that is a good thing to say when something like this happens
 
It’s not a random person, it’s a child who spends 12 hours a week in my home playing with my children.

You’re right that I probably wouldn’t say anything to someone in the grocery line, because hey, in five minutes we’re unlikely to ever cross paths again, but if my kids were there and the guy or gal was dropping the “F bomb” all over the place, I’d say something. And yes, some very rude/socially clueless people do this, and then get mad at being reminded that we live in a society.
The F bomb is kind of far worse meaning wise then OMG. I think more heads turn at the F word then OMG. If its a kid saying it I want to know where they have heard it first.

Some will be surprised to know that it may come from within the house.
 
By the way, if someone says OMG, what I (sadly) have fallen out of the habit of saying when this happens (or if they say g.d.), I would often say “Admirable is the name of God”. I feel like that is a good thing to say when something like this happens
Is this in the house or outside? I personally do not care what people say outside of the house I am not their parent.
 
Is this in the house or outside? I personally do not care what people say outside of the house I am not their parent.
With all due respect that is a very rude thing to say I was just saying something in response to what the original poster said if you have a problem with it take it up with them not me and do not insult me when you respond to me
 
With all due respect that is a very rude thing to say I was just saying something in response to what the original poster said if you have a problem with it take it up with them not me and do not insult me when you respond to me
I am sorry if you got upset** I was not **trying to insult you in any way. I was asking if what you are talking about applies to what is said in the house or outside. What I said after that is what I do and why. I was not attacking you in any way. Again I am sorry if I offended you.
 
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