Hello, everyone!
As of late, I’ve become burdened by the fact that I would not know how to tell someone the faults in same-sex marriage. Unfortunately, some Catholics/Christians conduct themselves very poorly when it comes to rejecting homosexuality. Picket signs that depict slander and hatred towards them is definitely not the right way to do it… The Catechism clearly states that homosexuals are beautiful souls of God and they are meant to profess God’s word just as we are. We should treat them with as much love and respect as someone who is not homosexual.
So, my question is: How do I tell someone (homosexual, non-Catholic/Christian) that same-sex marriage is wrong? How do I get past the whole “financial and state benefits” of it all? That seems to be the only thing they are after.
Thank you for your responses! God Bless!
I think you are misinformed, there aren’t any Catholic-advocated groups picketing or displaying hateful slogans. Andy groups doing so and claiming to be Catholic are no better than the politicians who claim to be Catholic and advocate for abortion and same-sex "marriage. We pray for your homosexual brothers and sisters, and we offer them advice and acceptance. It is not the person we detest, but the sin they commit.
You are completely correct in what you take form the Catechism, and I have never seen an informed and practicing Catholic acting contrary to that teaching.
As for telling them it’s wrong, it’s simple.
A man and a man cannot naturally conceive a child, nor can a woman and a woman. As such, they are violating the most basic principles of nature which have allowed our species, and every species, to continue their existence since the first advanced life developed out of the primordial ooze.
If they attempt to counter by saying that homosexuality happens in nature, so it has to be okay, ask them is eating your own child, or any fellow human, is okay; because that also happens in nature. As does murder, mind control, etc. (there’s a species insect that literally mind-controls and ant to it’s death… it’s frightening). When they say that those examples don’t apply ask them why not? You are justifying an unnatural act by saying it happens in nature, the same as them. When they say those things are just wrong, tell them that they know those actions are wrong because they violate a truth they cannot put to words, just as homosexuality violates a truth that cannot easily be put to words.
They likely won’t listen to you, but your job is not to force them from their ways, but rather to teach them. They now know the truth, it’s up to them to decide what to do with it.
As for the benefits argument, it’s a load of hogwash. Married couples receive benefits because they contribute to society in the from of offspring to continue and add to that society. As stated, homosexual couplings are incapable of this. They do no add to the society, so why should the receive the same benefits as those who do? You will probably get two responses to this:
#1: What about people who get married but don’t have kids? The answer is, they should also not receive benefits, for the exact same reason. Government just chooses not distinguish, which is a mistake.
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#2: What about couple who CAN’T have kids? Should they be denied benefits as well? The answer to this is definitively no. There is a distinct difference between making a decision not to have children and being unable to do so through no fault of your own. These people should not be denied benefits because it isn’t their fault they can’t conceive. They didn’t make the choice, it was forced on them. Free will was not engaged in any sort of decision, so they cannot be faulted for it. It’s similar to the distinction between someone who CANNOT work, and someone who CHOOSES not to. Someone who cannot should get help and aide fro the government, someone who chooses not to should be cut off.
If benefits are the only thing they’re after, tell them that as soon as mother nature decides they can have kids, and as soon as the two of them together are capable of providing for the psychological needs of a child to have a mother AND a father, then they can have benefits. (note, I make the distinction of mother nature, because humanity, in it’s infinite hubris and desire to cut off ties with God completely, is currently trying devise abhorrent technologies which will allow men to bear children… It’s disgusting really…)
I hope this helps, and remember, true Catholics do not spout hate, we only try to help. People who do such things do not understand the church they claim to be a part of.
