How to avoid anger

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what are some scripture passages or quotes from the saints/ the church that teach how to avoid being quick to anger. i have a short temper and it has caused a lot of sufferings i am mending those fences but want to avoid it in the future thanks for any help may god bless you all.
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For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you (Matthew 6:14).

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9).

My husband has anger issues and sometimes just saying “Jesus” to himself helps calme him down.

The above scriptures may help also.

Taylor, I have Adoration Chapel tonight and I’ll add you to the prayer basket.

Hugs to you 🙂
 
For a long term solution with great promise of bringing you almost unbelievably close to God, you might consider contemplative prayer. ( CCC 2700-2724 – especially take note of the word “should” in 2708 )

The guy who runs contemplative prayer meeting is the most mellow man I can think of. Tell him anything horrible and to him it is all according the the Holy Spirit. So it’s all about trust.

Anyway his temper, before he started the prayer, was so bad that once he was at a stoplight yelling so angrily that a cop parked two ahead of him at the light came back and gave him a ticket for disturbing the peace.

It has done wonders for me. I had severe bipolar disorder and had incredible mood swings and some serious passive-aggressive issues and this kind of prayer was one of several major components in healing. Other components were a great psychiatrist, and a wonderful, loving wife who was patient as a saint. The struggle for me was over in 11 years. Oh yeah. Also there is the love of the children, and since it cost my career, that gave me the luxury of time to spend seeking healing and staying home with them. If you have kids, that is an amazing source of healing love, as well.

Alan
 
There are two aspects to this as I’m sure you realize. There is the external and the internal.
The internal is the much more difficult one to overcome.
The external is the one that causes the most hurt to others.

So the first thing is to try to develop the habit of not “acting out” in anger. St Bernard of Clairvoux advised his brother monks to “Let anger die where it was born, inside of you”.
Prayer, spiritual counseling, frequent confession might help you to recognize triggers and to identify ways to cut that fuse before it explodes. Of course that only deals with the “external component”. The internal still needs attention.

This requires more careful consideration of why you react in the way that you do. In other words, the root cause issues that set you on the path to anger.
For myself, I discovered a few years back that I have deep seated issues with pride, and lust. They manifested themselves in different ways, in different sins, but these were the "Root causes’ of many/most of my sins. Of course - most all of these things are in one way or another, manifestations of selfishness. Something that I struggle with daily.

Anyway - not sure if any of the above is of help…I hope that it is…

Peace
James
 
This is a quotation taken from the writings of Venerable Louis of Granada (Summa of the Christian Life, Volume 2 pg 28, translated by Fr Jordan Aumann published by Tan Publications):

The gift of knowledge represses anger which is usually accompanied by folly, as it is written: "Be not quickly angry, for anger resteth in the bosom of a fool."1 He who has the gift of knowledge understands that he must not be angry at those who have unjustly offended him, but must treat them as one treats children, the sick, or those who are mentally ill. Thus, parents, friends, and doctors are the objects of much abuse and recrimination, but they suffer it all with patience, and will even endure much more until the sick have regained their health or the demented have been restored to sanity.

1.Eccles 7:10

Obviously this helps one to take a compassionate/patient view of the sinner’s faults and failings (rather than condemning the sinner).

I would also highly recommend the book The Hidden Power of Kindness written by Lawrence Lovasik which helps one to realise that the faults of others are due more to probable ignorance than intentional malice.

God Bless
 
How to avoid anger is one subject. What to do with it is another.

One idea of avoidance is to analylize.
Are there certain people? Uncle Harry, that neighbor next door.
Particular places? The golf course, highway.
Particular events? Holidays, “honey do” list.

Go over your life, not in a critical sense, but just to determine the circumstances so you know in advance what to expect and can get ready to apply controls where needed.
For example, Uncle Harry who can be very obnoxious and insulting. He is loud and vain. How will you handle this in your next meeting? Apply a solution and go over it in your mind. Practise and envision what you will say and do in that situation. You can do this.

What to do with it when you find yourself about ready to behave like 6 tons of dynomite.

Distract yourself immediately in your mind. Your mind is a powerful thing, you can do with it what you want. Just think of something like a hobby or sport, something you like to think about. Maybe just think of the color blue, like a blue line. Anything to defuse yourself.
This tends to lesson the anger for the moment.

Another way is to move on if you can do this, or make an excuse to do this. This will help to remove the source of anger and then when away, handle it.

One thing to remember, God will always bless us no matter what situation arrives as long as we understand that he allows us to be tried to prove to him that we love him. This is a chance to make up for our sins and to offer this up as a sin offering for others. It is an opportunity for good if done in that fashion.

Just a thought.
 
TominAdelaide said:
He who has the gift of knowledge understands that he must not be angry at those who have unjustly offended him, but must treat them as one treats children, the sick, or those who are mentally ill.
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Yes, this is very true, and helpful.
 
Say out loud, “In the name of Jesus I renounce the spirit of anger and pride and command it to leave right now.” Then invite the Holy Spirit to replace it with humility, peace, compassion, understanding. :knight1:
 
When I am angry, I cannot pray. My desire for prayer many times overcomes my desire to be angry. The prayer starts out very weak. My closeness to God is not evident. Then little by little, I discover that God is moving close to me. The closer He comes, the stronger my prayer. Sometimes it gets to where I´m like the Apostles John, James and Peter on the mountain of the Transfiguration. Then I don´t want to come down, like Peter. Then I hear His sweet voice telling me that I must live in this world, but not be a part of it. My anger is gone. My grandmother always repeated, and this too will pass, when she was in a spiritual crises. It does pass. I can recall the many times that I was angry, but can´t quite remember the reason. Prayer is very powerful. More powerful than most people know. God bless:thumbsup:👍👍
 
taylormcbee said:
what are some scripture passages or quotes from the saints/ the church that teach how to avoid being quick to anger.
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I’ve heard priests on EWTN describe how the faithful can combat any capital sin by embracing its opposite capital virtue.

Humility for pride.
Liberality for greed.
Chastity for lust.
Meekness for unjust anger.
Temperance for gluttony.
Kindness for envy.
Diligence for sloth.

aquinasandmore.com/catholic-articles/the-seven-capital-virtues/article/247
 
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