How to avoid porn when you can always have it?

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What can one who is trying to be pure do when he is surrounded by porn everywhere. I mean think about it. We can get hours of it on end off the internet for free. We can download apps, games, and even things like social media can contain porn too. So as a person living in todays society, what do I do?
 
Don’t search for it. Get software that will block the sites. Don’t use social media or download games with it on.
 
There’s self control app for macs. There’s cold turkey for windows. There’s also a porn blocker for google chrome. For your iPhone there’s the restrictions passcode which can block adult sites. Just come up with a code that you won’t remember so you wont be tempted to put it in.

Also the fortify program by fight the new drug is a good tracker to help you keep on track to avoid porn.

I’m 15 days porn free.
 
I was free of impure images since 2014, or so I thought. Lets just say I was VERY spiritually slothful for eons. I didn’t really care much about faith, but I followed all the Church taught. I always wanted to grow in faith but I basically worshiped YouTube/video games/internet as an idol. I fell into looking at actual impure images in September, but I rebounded and my faith is now stronger than ever.

The reason my faith is now stronger than ever is, simply put, because I pretty much don’t view any mainstream secular media nowadays. The secular media only plants the seeds of unfaithfulness, sin, spiritual sloth, and many other problems. I only really watch music videos on YouTube now, and I really don’t play video games anymore. Thanks to God, I now read the Bible usually for at least 30 minutes every day. If you are seeking something to do that isn’t prayer, read the Bible, and offer it up as a prayer. After all, any thoughts against praying or reading the Bible are from the evil one.

Ask God to help you stop doing this stuff. Ask Him to grant you the hatred of sin, and the grace to love Him above everything. Stop viewing secular media, offer up any negative feelings from stopping up as a prayer.
 
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There’s always a way around a boundary if a person has lust in the heart. In my life I’ve skirted boundaries many times. It’s good to use tools like apps when as they are available but there is no substitute for virtue.

Virtue is the practice of the attribute. Purity is the practice of purity.
Virtue is hard work and requires perseverance, sweat, patience, prayer, sacraments.
There is no substitute for the time and hard work that virtue requires.
And virtue is always relational. It doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It asks for accountability to God and others. Purity is not a virtue for our own benefit, like a badge to be worn. It is for the good of others, and at the same time for our own good.
I started to make serious progress against lust when I began to serve others instead of hide away in shame. Stepping out of one’s self for others is toxic to lust.
 
You have free will, exercise it. :weight_lifting_man:

All good suggestions above.

Avoid “the near occasions of sin,” just stay away from it, replacing your time with something as far from it as possible.
 
Yes. “Just say no” is not a tired catchphrase, it’s a practical strategy firmed up by practice.
 
You’re surrounded by tons of other stuff too, that isn’t porn. If you spend all day doing things that aren’t porn then you have no time for the things that are.
 
Psh. This is a struggle I have and many men have. Go to confession. Pray. Go to adoration. Submit to Christ. Try putting a blocker on your phone or computer. Have friends you can call when you feel the temptation. It is when we are alone when we are the most vulnerable. When you feel the urge and the passions seem to overcome your conscience read Galatians chapter 5. Trust me man this is a very real struggle for many men in today’s world. There are also resources to combat it. I believe this site has a sister site called chastity.com that helps with ways to overcome it. Goodluck.
 
You can still use YouTube to watch a lot of Catholic related stuff - coming home, mother Angelina and lots of films about God and the saints etc.
 
Don’t look it up.

Same as smoking, stop shoving it in your mouth.
 
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… what do I do?
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There are a lot of great suggestions so far, to which I will add:

To quit porn, you have to want to quit. It sounds like you have started on this. You want to quit but it still is a temptation. How can you motivate yourself?

Try making a list of reasons to quit, reasons that make sense to you. It’s not hard to think of negative reasons, like the harm porn does. You need to also come up with some positive reasons. What do you really want? How would porn-avoidance help you reach your goals and dreams?

Later on I may contribute some negative and positive reasons, but they will be ones that make sense to me, and might not make perfect sense to you. Asking for advice is fine, it can be very helpful, but you need to start the process yourself. Get to work on those lists.
 
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^This.

OP, to paraphrase a preacher: If you do the do’s you won’t have time to do the don’ts (referring to the bible). Don’t try to quit something or get rid of something without filling in with something else. Nature abhors a vacuum. Burn off energy with exercise. Find a few things to keep your mind busy with. Learn a new language. If necessary, stay off the computer. And pray. 3 hail Mary’s for purity. Ask for the intercession of St. Joseph.

One of the reasons sports were introduced in high schools is to keep young people, first boys then girls busy so they wouldn’t have time to get into trouble. They still do but at the elite level it is a real deterrent. Be elite. You are in training for a healthy, happy marriage, for a life that is full and not empty because of porn. Porn is the emptiest thing. It degrades women and degrades men. And remember: The women you see are probably trafficked. It’s not just porn, it’s rape. That woman or minor child is being raped so you can get off on the fantasy she wants you. I hope that makes you sick.
 
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everything is available 24/7 in todays world: food, drugs, candy, cigarettes , booze…

over thinking and developing scruples doesnt help the matter for one. All anyone can do is avoid temptation for as long as they can. Everything else and or the duration of avoiding temptation is up to God.
 
Keep yourself occupied. Exercise, read, don’t be idle. It’s true what they say: the devil makes work for idle hands.

Pray for a stronger will and discipline yourself in small matters.
 
One underlying assumption about lust is as follows:
Lust is a quick and easy way to happiness and satisfaction.

When a person addicted to lust experiences negative consequences, we look for relief in the same lustful way: quick and easy. When magic bullets don’t provide quick results, frustration and shame set in, and more lust is an attractive option to a prolonged struggle. It’s a vicious cycle.

Gird yourself for a long struggle, because Satan does not give up easily. There is no easy way out when habits become ingrained. Struggle is unavoidable. Make up your mind that you will be persistent in seeking the Lord and serving others, especially when you fail.
The struggle is worth it though, because the joy of a virtuous life with Christ is the pearl without price.
 
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Remember that entering any of those sites could leave you loaded with viruses and or malware. On that ground alone I avoid the stuff!
 
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