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StarMapp
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A deliberate insult is intent to harm. Your concern was valid.
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Brendea
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Sometimes there can be a fine line and everyone has there own opinion and limits but always do what feels right to you while keeping yourself safe. I had an incident a week ago today while getting into my car. Fortunately I was out the back of st Vincent de paul so I took the guy in there for food and a bus ticket ( guy wasn’t from our area and was quite far from home the way he grabbed me and approached me scared me I still haven’t slept properly since it’s 2.20 am here to give you an idea)
Always put yourself and your safety first sometimes these people need help
Sometimes they are drunk or high on something sometimes they have mental problems
And sometimes they Need someone To talk to sometimes they will hurt you and sometimes they are so messed up they don’t know what they are doing
Always put yourself and your safety first sometimes these people need help
Sometimes they are drunk or high on something sometimes they have mental problems
And sometimes they Need someone To talk to sometimes they will hurt you and sometimes they are so messed up they don’t know what they are doing
blackforest
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Read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It should be required reading for all women and girls.
We females have been conditioned to people-please. Your Number One priority is listening to and then following your intuition. De Becker argues that when it comes to our intuition, all bets are off; we’re under no obligation to be polite.
Another approach would be to give him a puzzled look and continue speaking to your sister in your native language. I’m sure your confessor would understand . . .
I’m not normally a callous person and even have a reputation as the resident Annoying SJW Bleeding Heart on CAF. But I do make an exception for these circumstances. You can perform Corporal Works of Mercy without jeopardizing your personal boundaries or safety.
We females have been conditioned to people-please. Your Number One priority is listening to and then following your intuition. De Becker argues that when it comes to our intuition, all bets are off; we’re under no obligation to be polite.
Another approach would be to give him a puzzled look and continue speaking to your sister in your native language. I’m sure your confessor would understand . . .
I’m not normally a callous person and even have a reputation as the resident Annoying SJW Bleeding Heart on CAF. But I do make an exception for these circumstances. You can perform Corporal Works of Mercy without jeopardizing your personal boundaries or safety.
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Rozellelily
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I was thinking at the time to do that.
The strange thing was even when I did say a few sentences in our language about going to the toilet (and hoping he would get the message that we were “overseas tourists”) on his face he didn’t even seem to register that I was speaking another language like people normally would register.
I don’t know if it was because I wasn’t speaking it long enough or because he was so affected by drugs that it’s made him oblivious to “the obvious”…
Do you think doing this would work if a situation like this comes up again?
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Rozellelily
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That’s my problem that I don’t always have the judgement when to listen or help vs when they could do something dangerous.
Your situation sounds scary-the guy literally put his hands on you?
Your situation sounds scary-the guy literally put his hands on you?
blackforest
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Where this guy was mentally unstable, I don’t think anything would “work” necessarily accept to remove yourself from the scene promptly.
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Erikaspirit16
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A couple years ago a guy stopped his car on a city street in the town where I live. There was a woman with an infant in her arms next to a car with the hood up. It was 2 AM. As soon as he stopped she pulled a gun and robbed him.
Lesson: Treat everyone as if they are robbers, thieves, and murderers. If you want to help the poor, give to an organized charity. If you give money to someone on the street it just encourages them to keep begging. There is no reason for anyone to beg in the US–there are plenty of organizations that will help them. This is not being uncharitable, it is being realistic.
Lesson: Treat everyone as if they are robbers, thieves, and murderers. If you want to help the poor, give to an organized charity. If you give money to someone on the street it just encourages them to keep begging. There is no reason for anyone to beg in the US–there are plenty of organizations that will help them. This is not being uncharitable, it is being realistic.
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Rozellelily
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Wow 
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Is there no low that some people will sink to?
The bible teaches us to be good Samaritans but it is hard is this day and age when you don’t always know who is genuine and who is “shady”.
Many people seeing a woman with a baby out at 2 am would be concerned for her-not expecting to be robbed by her.
.Is there no low that some people will sink to?
The bible teaches us to be good Samaritans but it is hard is this day and age when you don’t always know who is genuine and who is “shady”.
Many people seeing a woman with a baby out at 2 am would be concerned for her-not expecting to be robbed by her.
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ShrodingersCat
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This one time, I was on my way into a train station alone at night in a city and 2 guys were outside. One of them asked me if I had a light. I said “No, sorry mate” and he replied “You f—ing sl-t”.
Not that it matters, but I was dressed in a buttoned up loose shirt and jeans. Needless to say, I didn’t react and continued into the station.
My point being, his insult might not have been brought on by your actions, but even if it was, it is evidence that you did the right thing because he was volatile.
Don’t put yourself in danger.
It can be difficult for men to comprehend the constant low-level fear women have of strange men at night.
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Erikaspirit16
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Also if you’ve ever been to New Orleans, you’ll be aware of all the scams on the street. Same with San Antonio, at least near their convention center. A favorite is “I ran out of gas. Just give me $5 to buy some gas…” But they can get pretty creative. In one city where I worked, I counted the beggars between my subway stop and the door of my office every day. I had to wade through 19-20 beggars a day. And I think it was CBS who did an hour-long report on street beggars a few years ago. It turns out NONE of them were homeless or poor. One actually lived in a very nice apartment and made hundreds of dollars a day from begging. Beats work.
The only time I gave a street beggar money was in San Francisco. We were staying at a fancy hotel (expense account!) and we came back fairly late. This fairly well dressed guy waited until we were about 10 feet away, spread his arms wide and said, “Where were you guys? I’ve been waiting for you all night!” He made us laugh. The laugh was worth $1.
The only time I gave a street beggar money was in San Francisco. We were staying at a fancy hotel (expense account!) and we came back fairly late. This fairly well dressed guy waited until we were about 10 feet away, spread his arms wide and said, “Where were you guys? I’ve been waiting for you all night!” He made us laugh. The laugh was worth $1.
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Erikaspirit16
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Of course that was the point! If you see someone like that, tell the police, don’t try to help yourself. I’ve been told by relatives in Australia that this is a fairly common scam on lightly travelled roads in the Outback. Fake breakdown, then robbery.
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Sarcelle
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My brother often travels to China for business.
He told me that when someone approaches you on the street speaking English, try not to engage. Most likely, it’s a scammer.
He told me that when someone approaches you on the street speaking English, try not to engage. Most likely, it’s a scammer.
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Bluebright
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I’d pray for guidance from the Holy Spirit at the time. It’s really a good habit to get into especially when confused about how to behave in any situation as the Spirit works best in our confusion. I agree you aren’t bound to speak to strangers but sometimes God calls you too so its nice no to miss the call. If he wants you to speak to someone he will protect you if not likewise, but we do need to be listening. Sounds like you were. If someone else is with us we have to care for them too. In my opinion. God bless
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