How to be informative without coming off offensive?

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Hi everyone,
Happy Holidays!

First off, I apologize that this post is long - it should be a simple question but to get to the point has taken a few more lines that I thought. I had to cut it into 2 parts (this has never happened with any of my posts before!)
Here’s part 1:

A bit of a background before I explain the situation I’m facing:
My parents and I currently live in a Muslim populated neighborhood, there are only 2 other Christian families near by, both have been a part of this neighborhood for years and years. We just moved to this city a couple years ago - moving from a Christian populated city to a heavily Muslim populated city, we’ve had many reservations and are cautious in our interactions with neighbors while staying charitable and continuing to practice our faith daily. We don’t take to the stereotype, but at the same time experiences’ of friends and acquaintances have proven that prudence is very important. I live in Indonesia, and just to make clear, it is not a Muslim country, not governed by Shariah law, but it is heavily Muslim populated.

Now, onto the situation:
Every morning, for the past month or so in my neighborhood there has been this free (donations encouraged) checkup-meeting involving traditional medicine. Neither my parents nor I have ever gone to it even though our neighbors have invited us to join them. My mom has become friends with a few of the neighborhood ladies (she’s even a workout buddy with one of them), so they like to hang out on someone’s porch had just talk. Some of these ladies have gone to the check up-meetings pretty much every morning and then they would talk to my mom (and sometimes to me) about it, like what kind of treatment the people are giving, what illnesses they treat, and the medicines they distribute.

I call the event a checkup-meeting, because it is much of like a meeting, gathering or assembly. People gather at the community courtyard and sit down under an open walled tent. The event starts with a prayer, followed by the leader conducting a health talk+sermon where he would relate the teachings of their religion to the healing practice that he does. Finally, one by one the attendees would go to the leader, tell them their illness to which he would give an herbal medicine (a powder mixture which you’d drink by adding warm water).

Now, if it were just to the point where they talk, give health tips, even with the herbal medicine, I wouldn’t feel like I should say anything. Even though some of what they’ve said are just plain misinforming people. For example, something that I heard directly (since they use a loud speaker, and it’s an open yard, and it’s just around the corner from where I live I can sometimes hear the sermons), they discourage people from seeking professional medical assistance if they are afflicted with Leprosy, because the leader says, going to a doctor would cost them $500-$600 while if they just drink the herbal medicine he gives to them for whatever donation they’re willing to give they’d be healed just the same and be healthier. The reality is the government actually has a program specifically for anyone with Leprosy to be able to receive treatment for free since the government’s recognized how dangerously this disease can spread.

It’s the part where they actually perform treatments/procedures right then and there, in the middle of an open yard, it is this that concerns me the most. One of the neighbors mentioned that they performed an “operation” to “eliminate” one woman’s myoma, and another woman’s nasal polyp. The operation was done with needles according to the lady who had her polyp removed (she is friends with my mom and was also there when they performed the myoma procedure). While the woman who had her myoma removed, a cloth was used to cover her legs so people weren’t able to see what exactly it was that they were doing to her.
My mom warned the lady who had her polyp removed to make sure she take antibiotics because she was very concerned with how the procedure was conducted: in plain sight, dust and all, with instruments that are questionable, by a person who has no knowledge/education/training in medicine.

I don’t want to judge the motives of the people conducting this event, for all I know they might actually believe that what they are doing is helping people. But 2 reasons still have me doubting this and after hearing about the operations, both my mom and I feel like we need to say something to the ladies who still continue to go to this meeting, so they’re better informed and understand the dangers they might not know they’re putting themselves in.

First of all, this neighborhood/community that I live in is a poor, lower income family neighborhood. The average highest education level in this neighborhood is high school, and that is with the current young generation. while for their parents - the people who attend the checkup-meeting, it’s more between kindergarten to junior high. Some of these woman can’t even read and write.
People should already know the dangers of having unsterilised objects inserted into their bodies, but I believe because these woman are so under-educated, this fact doesn’t even cross their mind.

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The second reason I believe these woman just blindly trust everything being taught in the event is because it is taught by an Ustad, a person regarded as a teacher of the Muslim religion. To note, no formal education is necessary to be an Ustad, one must however be educated on the religion. The person could say the most ridiculous thing, which if you’re using common sense or try to question it and find out about it yourself you could figure out, but their followers would still believe.

An example of this is with something else that was taught. The leader said that if someone happens to fall, like say slipped and fell in the bathroom, don’t try to help the person up right away. Which I agree, you should asses his or her condition to make sure no bones are broken or major injuries sustained, to be sure you don’t make their condition worse, especially with elder people. But that’s not the reason they were taught, they were taught that you shouldn’t move a person right away, but instead ask them who they are, where they think they are, who their spouse is, do they have children and if so what are their names. They need to establish that all their questions are first answered correctly before helping the person to get up, because if they just suddenly help the person up, his soul might still be out of his body so when they lift the person up and be like “Are you okay” the shock of the fall and the surprise of being lifted up would confuse the person and his mind might get messed up, or worse his spirit might leave immediately.

The lady who told me this, spoke with complete belief on the matter, as if every word that she heard from the leader were pure wisdom and words to live by. The whole time I was listening, I felt the urge to say something but no matter how I put the words together in my head, I couldn’t get it to sound not offensive or belittling her beliefs. My mom was also there when the lady spoke about this and she told me later on that she was biting her tongue the whole time because all of the remarks she had in her head were not very charitable. She said she was really upset hearing how the lady believed it so much, even though it’s more likely that their religious teachers are taking advantage of followers for any penny they can get.

Any suggestions on how we can help inform/educate our neighbors, without accidentally offending them in their beliefs?

On a side note, well educated Muslims, such as one of my mom’s close friend, mostly don’t listen to/believe what many Ustad’s say - she herself, a devout Muslim whom never misses the required fasting for Ramadhan regardless of her really bad diabetes, calls them “full of baloney”.

Thank you for any suggestions you may have!

~Theresia
 
Because this is a cultural as well as a religious nature, I would be careful how you approach this. This is ingrained for them on two important levels.
For non-serious matters, I would leave them be. Some illnesses are mind over matter, so the cures can be helpful.

For non-sterilized implements-can you give them alcohol? For serious illnesses, have a card with the local doctor’s contact. You can say that where you come from this is how they cure this. Not picking someone else when the fall right awayl is helpful as you stated, so leave them alone with this belief as to why.

If you had a team of missionaries with you, it would be different. But they will not accept this coming from I or 2 people from a different culture and religion.
 
I would not give advice on this issue. People who are led to believe in this supposed healing won’t believe you and certainly won’t thank you, even seeing it as an affront to their religion.
You live in a religiously hostile environment and prudence should be your by-word.
We in Australia know how many million Muslims live in Indonesia and have defense plans in place for this very reason.
 
I am not sure there is anything much you can say about the events in general. Certainly you can talk about the free government program for leprosy. I’d follow the lead of your mother’s friend. Ask her the best way to approach your neighbors. if she, as a Muslim, does have a helpful approach, then I doubt you will be able to change anyone’s mind. Please don’t make trouble for yourself over this.
 
Paseo,

What a really terrible situation.

On the bright side, your mom sounds like a really smart cookie, so you’ve got that going for you.

Can you contact the official government health people and tell them what’s going on? The leprosy people would probably be particularly interested. You could collect any questionable brochures, maybe take a picture of any particularly dangerous advice on posters, etc if you have a phone with a camera, etc. Of course, I take it that the worst advice was given orally, so you don’t have a record of it. Nonetheless, I think the leprosy people will want to know this. Of course, if Muslim friends speak to you privately, feel free to express skepticism, but based on what you’ve described, I wouldn’t speak publicly.

I’m a big fan of a Christian Indian doctor who works in rural India and blogs here (jeevankuruvilla.blogspot.com), and from reading his blog, it sounds like they have very similar frustrations. For instance, when a rural Indian gets bitten by a venomous snake, his family will often first visit traditional healers, while the venom is destroying the victim’s body. The actual hospital is the family’s last stop, when everything else has failed. Likewise with the care of pregnant women–by the time relatives bring a laboring woman to the hospital, it is often too late to save the baby, and sometimes too late to save the mother. Little problems turn into huge problems because of neglect.

If you have any friends in health care, you might want to encourage them to do a free conventional health fair in exactly the same location as the previous “traditional” one.

Best wishes!
 
If somebody you are less close talks about the health fair stuff, you can say something like, “If it were me, I think I’d ask a doctor about that.” And then be ready with information about a free or inexpensive clinic if they say, I don’t have the money, I don’t have a doctor, etc.

Best wishes!
 
Thank you all for the responses!

mommyK,
That’s very true - my mom and I have even tried to put our heads together and still nothing we come up with seems to be good to say.
I’m not sure how we’d be able to give alcohol for the non-sterilized equipment since it would probably mean we’d have to give it to the organizers of the event - which might come off as offensive as well sigh
But having doctors’ contact info is definitely doable! I’ll make sure to look in on that.

Petaro,
Yeah, I understand what you’re saying but it just feels so frustrating. And I guess I feel angry for them, most of them don’t have a lot and survive on very little, and yet they’re being taken advantage of by people who are supposed to be the people they could trust.
And I had no idea Australia has particular defense plans because of it’s proximity to Indonesia :eek: but then again that makes complete sense.

Mrs Sally,
That’s a good idea, I’ll try that and see if my mom’s friend has any suggestions.

Xantippe,
I passed by the event on my way home from church this last Sunday (it’s always conducted in the mornings till around noon and since I go to early morning mass it’d still be going on when I get home) - I don’t remember seeing any posters, I doubt that they have any or even brochures. But, your mention of brochures gave me an idea! What if maybe I hand out any brochures/pamphlets or other information sources the government might have on free medical check-ups/treatments - does anyone think this is a good idea?
Oh, I checked out the blog of the doctor you mentioned, how inspiring! And yes, it is a similar situation here as to what the doctor talks about in his blog 😦

Again, thank you all for your suggestions! I’ll be sure to follow up with anything that might/or might not happen.

An update on the lady who had her polyp removed: she’s recently contracted some kind of infection. This happened a few days after her procedure. My mom is going to see her later, to see how she’s doing and if she needs anything. Hopefully it’s not a serious infection.

~Theresia
 
paseo said:

“What if maybe I hand out any brochures/pamphlets or other information sources the government might have on free medical check-ups/treatments - does anyone think this is a good idea?”

If it’s somebody you know, I think it is a good idea. Presumably, part of the appeal of the traditional medicine is that it’s regarded as being less expensive than conventional medicine.

I wonder whether these people are in violation of any of your local laws. Here in the US, there is a law against practicing medicine without a license, but people seem to get away with a lot.

Best wishes in this very complicated situation.
 
paseo said:

“What if maybe I hand out any brochures/pamphlets or other information sources the government might have on free medical check-ups/treatments - does anyone think this is a good idea?”

If it’s somebody you know, I think it is a good idea. Presumably, part of the appeal of the traditional medicine is that it’s regarded as being less expensive than conventional medicine.

I wonder whether these people are in violation of any of your local laws. Here in the US, there is a law against practicing medicine without a license, but people seem to get away with a lot.

Best wishes in this very complicated situation.
I’ll definitely try to follow up with the brochures then!
I’m not sure about the local laws, but seeing that they are practicing “traditional” medicine, I don’t think they need a particular license, and they also have the religion card going on for them. But I will try to find out. Thanks for the suggestions!
 
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