JustSomeGuy:
as far as variation from diocese to diocese, you will find that sometimes the wifes of deacons are given undue, excessive attention. it is almost like the wife is going to be ordained also. while the wife must be involved with the husband and agree to the ordination, you may see the wife treated almost like a partner in the ministry, like a ‘co-deacon’ so to speak. it is another sign of the liberal attack on the Sacrament of Holy Orders, IMO.
I’m not too sure what ‘undue’ attention would be. As mentioned above, I am in formation to the Diaconate in Detroit.
Here in Detroit, the wives are encouraged, almost expected to take the theology courses we do. They don’t take things like the various liturgical practica.
It is very much a ministry for both, and Ordination for one.
Having the wives involved is by no means a liberal attack. It’s a very traditional part of married Holy Orders.
The fact remains that the wife of the deacon, by definition, has a ministerial role. In many cases, women of the parish will seek the wife out for advice or to request assistance, specifically because she is the wife of the deacon. For good or ill, they are just plain expected to be able to answer questions on Church teachings and theology based entirely on who their husband is.
A woman who has questions on NFP, or might be considering an abortion or maybe found out her husband is cheating often seeks out the deacon’s wife. She is female, obviously married and is veiwed as part of “The Church”. The wife needs the training to be able to handle this.
In the Eastern Catholic Churches, which have always had married Priests and Deacons, this roles are actually even solidfied. The wife of the priest is the
Presbytera and the wife of the Deacon is the
Pina (Russian) or
Diakonia (Greek).
The Roman church lost those traditions and is in the process of regaining them. That is hardly ‘liberal’