How to believe?

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Hi’ya. I was born and raised Catholic. Went to Catholic college, married Catholic and have kids learning about Catholicism.
Here’s the kicker…I don’t know how to believe in God, Jesus, Holy Spirit any of it. I attend weekly, read the Bible, devotionals, attempt to pray, etc.
Lately, I’ve been drawn to going into the church when it’s empty to sit. I don’t feel anything. I still can’t bring myself to believe. I just don’t get it beyond being culture and tradition.
I so want to believe and be subservient to something holy. I just feel empty, concrete or aloof. I don’t know how to break though.
 
When you sit in that empty church, start a conversation with Jesus. Imagine that he is sitting next to you, for example. Just start a dialog. Tell him what you just told us. Complain to him. Ask questions.

And then listen to what he says.
 
Hi “Unique”, there are some major topics that most folks have issues with, overall, it’s something like, 1. there is a God. 2. God loves you. 3. God has a plan for you

There’s more, but we can just start with these.

for concept 1, let’s employ the idea of non-contradiction. There is a God or there is not, there is no maybe. Thus, it’s pretty easy to fall on one side or the other. In simplicity, there is a ton of evidence for the existence of God.

for concept 2, you’ve had children from your initial discussion. With any one or all of your children, in the few moments after giving birth, did you ever hold your infant to your heart and think to yourself, “This is my baby, my baby, nobody else’s, and this one I love”. Imagine the magnitude of the love you have for each of your children, multiply that by 7 billion billions and that’s how much God loves you!

for concept 3, patience! God’s call to you might be a whisper right now, shoot, might even be just shadows. Having the response to keep going to Mass, keep the faith, keep your children in the church, keeping your sacraments … all of that adds graces to your soul. The best part is, you probably don’t even know it but God is filling your soul each and every time you respond and strengthening your resolve to get to know God even more.

So what, you don’t know that much about God now, there’s tomorrow and the day after that to learn a little bit more.

Being a Catholic, you’ve a bunch of advantages that others (non-catholics) may not even realize. Strip away everything you’ve ever thought or thought you knew about God, scratch it all, start with a clear mental mind, and step into Adoration. Take one thing, understand that the Eucharist on display is the true presence of Christ in body, blood, soul, and divinity. Suspend your disbelief and believe just that one thing, that white little bread-circle sitting inside that pretty and precious monstrance (the big gold display thing that holds the consecrated host). Sit in silence, let your experiences of your entire life flow through your thoughts and consciousness and pick up on the ones that relate to your relation to God. Let your mind wander to the wonders of what could be wonderful. I’d suggest to clear your mind, but I’ve never been able to clear my mind in any way. To silence my mind so I can listen to what I may receive from God, I usually just end up signing. Grab a song book, open it randomly, pick a good song, and just sing it! It’ll clear your mind.
 
And, at the end, just realize that you may need help in believing, look at the dad in Mark 9:23-24 … he so wanted healing for his child, doesn’t know much about Jesus but knows that he is to believe … Lord, help my unbelief.

The Spirit is in you and is moving your heart, fact. If He wasn’t, you wouldn’t be posting on this forum asking for advice on how to see the Spirit. If He wasn’t, you wouldn’t be going to Mass even if you understand it or not, you’re still going, you’re still there for God. If He wasn’t, you wouldn’t even care if your kids got baptized or attended faith formation. If He wasn’t, you wouldn’t even want to pick up the bible.

Last set: cut yourself some slack, give yourself some time, give God some time, in your prayers, there is one prayer that has a 100% guarantee to be answered, every time, without question, ask for Wisdom to understand God … James 1:5

May the Lord Bless you today and each and every day to come.

-Kevin
 
Hi, Unique!

…I was on my way out and your questioned jumped at me… I thought, ‘can be someone young or a confused atheist…’

Wow!

Here’s what I can tell you.

We all believe.

It is anthropological.

How and what we believe is shaped by both our mind and the environment.

God Calls us to Believe; society calls us to believe; our mind and heart compel us to believe.

Our spiritual being is just like everything else: it responds to nourishment or lack thereof.

Your situation is not unique. Einstein swore by a high being till he died (deism) but he refused to accept Yahweh God as his God.

So this has nothing to do with intellect or knowledge.

Here’s the biggest secret: you don’t need to “know” how to believe.

Your mind is compelling you; your spirit is thirsting; your heart is aching:
Lately, I’ve been drawn to going into the church when it’s empty to sit.
Do you see it?

But you reason it out:
I don’t feel anything. I still can’t bring myself to believe. I just don’t get it beyond being culture and tradition.
When I watch programs (movies/shows) I am the worst viewer because I am critical and analytical… I have to force myself to simply watch for entertainment purpose… it is super hard.

I think that that could be your problem.

Next time you get that impulse to visit your local parish sit at the front… be quiet; expect nothing; the Holy Spirit knows of your struggle… just humble yourself to God and He will Lift you up!

Maran atha!

Angel
 
Lately, I’ve been drawn to going into the church when it’s empty to sit. I don’t feel anything. I still can’t bring myself to believe. I just don’t get it beyond being culture and tradition.

I so want to believe and be subservient to something holy. I just feel empty, concrete or aloof. I don’t know how to break though.
You’re being “drawn to going into the church”, even if it’s just to sit. God’s calling your name.

Just keep listening. Pray for the grace to break through. It might take a while. Keep praying.
 
Many have had arid periods of faith, as you already know, and have experienced this in many different ways.

Perhaps reading about this will guide you, and the good news is that God is calling you to spend time with him.

Edited to add this morning…
Dear op, I had to put my little one to bed, so I was cut short in my reply…
Tis Bearself outlined some very good points…and when reading about spiritual desolation, it will give you more things to do to lift this veil of unbelief. This is not saying it that you are experiencing this, just that the strategies may help you.
 
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@Rozellelilly If I may, what keeps you attending Mass and searching for it, instead of just giving up?
 
I was unsure about God’s existence until I was in my early 20s when, in answer to a desperate prayer for help, God also gave me the gift of faith. At the time, I prayed, simply but sincerely, “God, if you exist, please help me.”

Aside from regularly and sincerely asking God to give you the gift of faith, I would recommend you continue to live according to Catholic moral teachings. You might also want to study the reasonable arguments for the existence of God, Jesus, etc.
 
Regardless of how you feel, to believe is to pray. You have indicated that you had an appetite to pray. In some way, you do exhibit faith.

There is an order in the bestowal of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. The primordial gift of the Holy Spirit: the fear of the Lord. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom”, says the wisdom books. A soul needs a director to nurture a desire for one thing - to be never separated from the Lord. When this desire is singular, it indicates a mature fear of the Lord.

The Catechism speaks of the “gift of prayer”, it says:

“Prayer is the raising of one’s mind and heart to God or the requesting of good things from God.” But when we pray, do we speak from the height of our pride and will, or “out of the depths” of a humble and contrite heart? He who humbles himself will be exalted; humility is the foundation of prayer, Only when we humbly acknowledge that “we do not know how to pray as we ought,” are we ready to receive freely the gift of prayer. “Man is a beggar before God.” (CCC 2559)
 
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