How to bring peace to my family?

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I would appreciate any advice on this… my parents are always fighting, I mean always. They are fighting right now. I am kind of at the end of my rope here. Is there nothing I could do, except pray? Does anyone else have a similar situation?

God bless
 
Monica4316 said:
I would appreciate any advice on this… my parents are always fighting, I mean always. They are fighting right now. I am kind of at the end of my rope here. Is there nothing I could do, except pray? Does anyone else have a similar situation?

God bless
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Yes, pray for them but when
they fight, you should walk away.

Even leave the house if you can.
 
My parents were like that, fought most of the time. Even when they didn’t there was tension between them and living at home was impossible. They split up in the end.

Because of my experience I agree with the above: leave the house. Don’t let them involve you in their figts. Another thing that you should understand is that you can’t bring peace here. This is their marriage and their responsibility. Often people want to involve their adult children into their mess thinking they can act as a go-between or a marriage councellor. Please, don’t let that happen to you. You can’t fix this.

What you can and are obviously already doing, is pray. Turn this hurt to God and ask him to take care of your parents. Ask him to lift this burden off your shouldres because it is not your burden to carry.

:console:
 
Monica4316 said:
I would appreciate any advice on this… my parents are always fighting, I mean always. They are fighting right now. I am kind of at the end of my rope here. Is there nothing I could do, except pray? Does anyone else have a similar situation?

God bless
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Aside from prayer? Suggest counseling. Talk to your priest and ask about options that are affordable to your family. I have to agree with the other two posters: the first thing you need to realize is that this is not your problem to fix, and you aren’t responsible for it…
 
Contra_Mundum said:
My parents were like that, fought most of the time. Even when they didn’t there was tension between them and living at home was impossible. They split up in the end.

Because of my experience I agree with the above: leave the house. Don’t let them involve you in their figts. Another thing that you should understand is that you can’t bring peace here. This is their marriage and their responsibility. Often people want to involve their adult children into their mess thinking they can act as a go-between or a marriage councellor. Please, don’t let that happen to you. You can’t fix this.

What you can and are obviously already doing, is pray. Turn this hurt to God and ask him to take care of your parents. Ask him to lift this burden off your shouldres because it is not your burden to carry.

:console:
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Yes -
and at times it’s helpful to deprive fighters of an audience.
Imagine a boxing match with no paying spectators.

As above poster stated: their problems are NOT your problems!
Remember that.
 
Thank you for the replies 🙂 when I was younger I did involve myself in their fights, trying to make them stop fighting etc, but I agree that doesn’t work at all, so now I just stay upstairs if they’re downstairs etc. I think it’s a good idea to leave the house, but in my family that doesn’t really work cause for some reason the fight escalates if I do that.

My parents have almost divorced several times… now my dad is talking about moving out.

I’m soo tired… but mostly I’m worried about my family. I’m afraid of there being unforgiveness. I guess all I could do now is just pray.
 
Monica4316 said:
Thank you for the replies 🙂 when I was younger I did involve myself in their fights, trying to make them stop fighting etc, but I agree that doesn’t work at all, so now I just stay upstairs if they’re downstairs etc. I think it’s a good idea to leave the house, but in my family that doesn’t really work cause for some reason the fight escalates if I do that.

My parents have almost divorced several times… now my dad is talking about moving out.

I’m soo tired… but mostly I’m worried about my family. I’m afraid of there being unforgiveness. I guess all I could do now is just pray.
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… and KNOW that is a tremendous gift to your parents and other family members.
 
If you can’t leave the house put in some ear buds and drown them out. I grew up with loud fighting especially in my teen years -I’m nearly 40 and long married and they still do it. My mom still tries to drag me into it. Do not try to fix something that is not your job to fix. Just know when your out of the house and on your own you can chose to behave differently in the family you create. My best parenting moment was when my daughter said “You and daddy don’t fight like grandma and grandpa. Actually you really don’t fight at all.” We do have disagreements, most definitely -but we deal with them without yelling, screaming and name calling. And we don’t fight over things like who put the bread on the wrong shelf. :rolleyes:

It’s tough. But continue to pray -and leave it to God.
 
You may check out this program for healing hurting relationships. It’s Catholic-based, but not actually run by the church. It is run by volunteers all over the world who have been thru the program themselves. It is not expensive, but the value is priceless. The logo is the cross with a lifesaver, and it literally saved our marriage: helpourmarriage.com/
 
Colorfulgirl said:
You may check out this program for healing hurting relationships. It’s Catholic-based, but not actually run by the church. It is run by volunteers all over the world who have been thru the program themselves. It is not expensive, but the value is priceless. The logo is the cross with a lifesaver, and it literally saved our marriage: helpourmarriage.com/
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That is a great program but this daughter is NOT RESPONSIBLE for her parents’ marriage problems. If they want help, they will find counseling or go to Retrouvaille themselves.
 
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