How to dress for Mass

[severus68]

I think the issue that we are missing is that it’s not a sense of “fashion” but the possibility of leading our brothers and sister into sinning. Most women in this country know exactly what type of clothing to use to attract attention. Most men know when they are not even putting an effort when they are dressing up. It goes both ways.

Most women in the US know how to look attractive? Great.

 

[Deo_Gratias42]

On Sundays I dress the same as I do when I have to go to court. Pumps, tights, skirt, blouse, and blazer. If I can dress up for the judge, then I can dress up for the Just Judge too.

 

[Annabelle_Marie]

On Sundays I dress the same as I do when I have to go to court. Pumps, tights, skirt, blouse, and blazer. If I can dress up for the judge, then I can dress up for the Just Judge too.

Yes…but then you own those things because you need them for work. But for other people-Dockers may be their best…and still for others…jeans might be their best…

 

[LilHomemaker]

Quote:
Originally Posted by archangel04
I think the issue that we are missing is that it’s not a sense of “fashion” but the possibility of leading our brothers and sister into sinning. Most women in this country know exactly what type of clothing to use to attract attention. Most men know when they are not even putting an effort when they are dressing up. It goes both ways.

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Most women in the US know how to look attractive? Great.

She didn’t say attractive, she said attract attention. Big difference.

Sue

 

[zab]

Yes…but then you own those things because you need them for work. But for other people-Dockers may be their best…and still for others…jeans might be their best…

Don’t think too much into this as if everyone is judging you for what you wear. Each person should be questioning themselves if they are dressing appropriately for Mass. We dress to show respect for God not to worry about what everyone else is wearing or whether or not they are judging us for what we wear.

 

[Bearontherun]

Don’t think too much into this as if everyone is judging you for what you wear. Each person should be questioning themselves if they are dressing appropriately for Mass. We dress to show respect for God not to worry about what everyone else is wearing or whether or not they are judging us for what we wear.

 

[Deo_Gratias42]

Yes…but then you own those things because you need them for work. But for other people-Dockers may be their best…and still for others…jeans might be their best…

I’m an unemployed student doing an internship. I’m poor, and made sacrifices in my spending so that I could come up with enough money to buy myself something to wear because not having something wasn’t an option for me.

If what you have is honestly the best you can do, then fine. But don’t think you can fool God with this “it’s what’s in my heart that counts” baloney and then go out and spend your money on something frivolous. It’s all about prioritizing people.

 

[LilyM]

On Sundays I dress the same as I do when I have to go to court. Pumps, tights, skirt, blouse, and blazer. If I can dress up for the judge, then I can dress up for the Just Judge too.

Point being a human judges judge as a human does, and are susceptible as frail humans to mistake appearance for reality. To dress nicely for a judge, prince or President is a concession to human weakness, nothing more.

God doesn’t make those sort of mistakes, and doesn’t have that human propensity to judge by externals.

 

[kmuestwin]

As long as a person is clean and covered, who’s business is it to say what they should wear?

 

[Nelka]

As long as a person is clean and covered, who’s business is it to say what they should wear?

I had a woman sit next to me on Maundy Thursday wearing a low cut top and no bra underneath.

Why?

It’s not a nightclub!

Last week a boy of around 11 or 12 received communion wearing a fashionable wooly hat and his mother was right behind him. It was warm inside not cold.

 

[domandcarols]

Once again, this one has it`s use.

God bless him.

 

[severus68]

On Sundays I dress the same as I do when I have to go to court. Pumps, tights, skirt, blouse, and blazer. If I can dress up for the judge, then I can dress up for the Just Judge too.

We dress up for certain places because they make us do so, not because it makes us better lawyers etc or persons. In certain jobs, we have to dress in a certain way, for example no long hair and flowing bits of clothing around machinery.

 

[severus68]

Point being a human judges judge as a human does, and are susceptible as frail humans to mistake appearance for reality. To dress nicely for a judge, prince or President is a concession to human weakness, nothing more.

God doesn’t make those sort of mistakes, and doesn’t have that human propensity to judge by externals.

So very well said.

 

[severus68]

Quote:
Originally Posted by archangel04
I think the issue that we are missing is that it’s not a sense of “fashion” but the possibility of leading our brothers and sister into sinning. Most women in this country know exactly what type of clothing to use to attract attention. Most men know when they are not even putting an effort when they are dressing up. It goes both ways.

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She didn’t say attractive, she said attract attention. Big difference.

Sue

I know. Most people dress for themselves. Much too many people judge.

 

[Not_Sure_1]

Yes…but then you own those things because you need them for work. But for other people-Dockers may be their best…and still for others…jeans might be their best…

In some areas, it is the poor who dresses the best to things like Mass. MOst of the people who dress immodestly to mass, have plenty of money to get more decent clothes. Sometimes these people are wearing designer jeans and t-shirts, when more modest (or appropriate clothing) can be gotten for less.
Is a collared shirt (or button down) and a nice pair of pants, too much to ask for men?
Is a modest dress or skirt, too much to ask from a woman?

This is the saviour of the world you are coming to honour.
He is the king of kings.

 

[severus68]

In some areas, it is the poor who dresses the best to things like Mass. MOst of the people who dress immodestly to mass, have plenty of money to get more decent clothes. Sometimes these people are wearing designer jeans and t-shirts, when more modest (or appropriate clothing) can be gotten for less.
Is a collared shirt (or button down) and a nice pair of pants, too much to ask for men?
Is a modest dress or skirt, too much to ask from a woman?

This is the saviour of the world you are coming to honour.
He is the king of kings.

You are imposing your views. Now jeans and a tshirt are immodest?

 

[MartyrForJesus]

These arguments are silly. A constant repetitive circle.

Person A says to wear good clothes because you are going to honour the King of Kings

Person B says that we love our parents, and we don’t dress up to see them, therefore implying we don’t need to dress in Sundays Best.

Repeat.

 

[LightBound]

In some areas, it is the poor who dresses the best to things like Mass. MOst of the people who dress immodestly to mass, have plenty of money to get more decent clothes. Sometimes these people are wearing designer jeans and t-shirts, when more modest (or appropriate clothing) can be gotten for less.
Is a collared shirt (or button down) and a nice pair of pants, too much to ask for men?
Is a modest dress or skirt, too much to ask from a woman?

This is the saviour of the world you are coming to honour.
He is the king of kings.

We attend Mass in an inner-city parish that has a lot of truly poor people who stretch our SVDP team to its limits at times. That means a lot of these folks don’t always have running water or electricity/gas in their homes, so unless someone is wearing a t-shirt with something really offensive or a pair of “really short” shorts, no one pays too much attention to what they have on. I always think “there but for the grace of God…” when I see those in that situation.

When I have read through old threads, I began to realize that many folks here at CAF have never really seen a true “urban ghetto” area or encountered a homeless shelter, so when they post “anyone can go to Goodwill and get a suit or dress” (as they have done on threads now closed or removed for lack of charity), I see that they don’t understand or cannot comprehend that there are actually people in the US who really cannot afford that suit or dress from Goodwill, since often they don’t have food in their home or heat to cook a meal (or even a working stove), let alone regular access to a washer and/or money & transportation to the dry cleaners to deal with that suit or a dress. When I’ve been on SVDP home visits, it always humbles me to see that this exists in America. Here. Now. In all of our states.

That being said, I try not judge others wearing a t-shirt and jeans…whether they wonder where their next meal is coming from or if their next meal is the steak dinner from Outback they’ll be enjoying when they leave Mass.

 

[LightBound]

These arguments are silly. A constant repetitive circle.

Person A says to wear good clothes because you are going to honour the King of Kings

Person B says that we love our parents, and we don’t dress up to see them, therefore implying we don’t need to dress in Sundays Best.

Repeat.

Welcome to the modesty/apparel threads of CAF! It’s a circular debate each time

 

[zab]

We attend Mass in an inner-city parish that has a lot of truly poor people who stretch our SVDP team to its limits at times. That means a lot of these folks don’t always have running water or electricity/gas in their homes, so unless someone is wearing a t-shirt with something really offensive or a pair of “really short” shorts, no one pays too much attention to what they have on. I always think “there but for the grace of God…” when I see those in that situation.

When I have read through old threads, I began to realize that many folks here at CAF have never really seen a true “urban ghetto” area or encountered a homeless shelter, so when they post “anyone can go to Goodwill and get a suit or dress” (as they have done on threads now closed or removed for lack of charity), I see that they don’t understand or cannot comprehend that there are actually people in the US who really cannot afford that suit or dress from Goodwill, since often they don’t have food in their home or heat to cook a meal (or even a working stove), let alone regular access to a washer and/or money & transportation to the dry cleaners to deal with that suit or a dress. When I’ve been on SVDP home visits, it always humbles me to see that this exists in America. Here. Now. In all of our states.

That being said, I try not judge others wearing a t-shirt and jeans…whether they wonder where their next meal is coming from or if their next meal is the steak dinner from Outback they’ll be enjoying when they leave Mass.

Excuses that even poor people would find insulting for one to think that they are incapable of dressing as appropriately as they can for Mass. I grew up very poorly, not in the ghetto but in rural Missouri. Most of our clothing was given to us by generous, caring people from our parish and other friends of my parents. We ran around barefooted and dirty most of the time at home in the country. But come Sunday, my momma saw to it that we were dressed properly as well as for school or any other place we went.