How to encourage co cohabiting couple with children

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to get married.

It is impossible for me to say where their heart is with God for only he knows.

but there are two little babies now. I pray very much for them to be inspired not only to

get married, but for the conversion of souls.

I believe praying often, letting it be understood my feelings on the matter gently, is the best way to encourage . really…just praying daily. often.

another family member has become condemning of one of them and is planting bad seeds
to the other saying…" find someone who will appreciate you" and that is putting it lightly. there is increasing anger and condemning.

now, I look at the couple…the children need their father and mother. condemning is not from God.

any thoughts from anyone? maybe something I am not seeing?
 
My advice – tread carefully. I’m sure they already know that the traditional expectation is marriage.

I think Miss Manners said once that family can gently ask a couple if they plan to marry about once every ten years. Any more than that, and you risk damaging your relationship with your child and his/her partner, as well as access to the grandchildren. If they don’t care about the religious reasons for marriage, maybe you could gently point out the tax and other government benefits that come with being married. I think that’s the most you can do.
 
mafh said:
If they don’t care about the religious reasons for marriage, maybe you could gently point out the tax and other government benefits that come with being married. I think that’s the most you can do.
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Depending on their income potential future income that argument can backfire given the obvious risks and sought penalties at certain incomes. Perhaps benefits to the children should one of them expire might help.
 
mafh said:
My advice – tread carefully. I’m sure they already know that the traditional expectation is marriage.

I think Miss Manners said once that family can gently ask a couple if they plan to marry about once every ten years. Any more than that, and you risk damaging your relationship with your child and his/her partner, as well as access to the grandchildren. If they don’t care about the religious reasons for marriage, maybe you could gently point out the tax and other government benefits that come with being married. I think that’s the most you can do.
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In Canada, common law relationships (which depending on the Province “kick in” automatically after cohabiting for several months to a year) have the exact same privileges and benefits as marriage. Is that not the case in most US states?
 
twf said:
In Canada, common law relationships (which depending on the Province “kick in” automatically after cohabiting for several months to a year) have the exact same privileges and benefits as marriage. Is that not the case in most US states?
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Depends on the state. I think it is about 12 of 50 states do common law marriage. Also, common law typically requires the couple to intend to live as married, something that seems a bit hard to define.
 
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