How to explain why women cover their chests

[Smber2c]

A local school district recently redid their Prom dress guidelines to say that “girls can not show excessive cleavage”. While discussing this story with my father, he commented that as a doctor he sees chests all the time. He said that we just made up this standard and whoever wants to drop it should.

I tried to explain that people are temped by certain types of dress and that this would certainly be magnified by women being topless.

He said too bad, people in Africa do it, what if you went there?

So, I’ve got a question but not the obvious one. My question is, how do you talk to your own father about morality? He really doesn’t care at times and it hurts the morality of our whole family.

For that matter, what’s a good method for telling him that the movies he watches are raunchy? RIght now when the movies gets bad my mom, my brother, and I get up and go in another room. I think he’s kinda caught on as he’s watching more westerns and we stay through those, but how do I broach this with my dad.

(to aid in suggestions, I’m 23 living in a very small home with my parents and 2 of my brothers: 21, 19)

 

[Liberanosamalo]

Snuggle up to him on the couch and say this:

“Daddy, I love you. Soon I will be looking for a husband. I will need to know how to pick out a good one. I need for you to show me what a good man is, what a good man watches on tv. What a good man reads. How a good man talks. How a good man prays. When I find someone like you show me, I will marry that man. So I will be watching you carefully to learn. My happiness in life will depend on the lesson you teach me.”

Give him a kiss and a hug. And let him sit and think about that.

I bet his behavior changes quickly.

 

[Smber2c]

Snuggle up to him on the couch and say this:
"Daddy, I love you. Soon I will be looking for a husband. I will need to know how to pick out a good one. I need for you to show me what a good man is,QUOTE]

That is hilarious…cause I’m a guy

Thought telling him I’m be looking for a husband soon probably would shake things up.

 

[dulcissima]

Liberanosamalo;2316686:

Snuggle up to him on the couch and say this:
"Daddy, I love you. Soon I will be looking for a husband. I will need to know how to pick out a good one. I need for you to show me what a good man is,QUOTE]

That is hilarious…cause I’m a guy

Thought telling him I’m be looking for a husband soon probably would shake things up.

That’s funny because I read back over your post trying to figure out where it indicated you were a woman, since I had always assumed you were a guy. It is hard to know when you are just reading a few paragraphs though.

 

[puzzleannie]

yes and will that liberal dad be the one to yell at his daugher, you’re not going out of the house dressed like that, when she bares it all?

 

[Verisimilitude]

(to aid in suggestions, I’m 23 living in a very small home with my parents and 2 of my brothers: 21, 19)

Move out.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

Move out.

Short, sweet and to the point, I like it!

I second this…of course if you can afford to…again if you are 23 what are you waiting for?

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

That is hilarious…cause I’m a guy

Thought telling him I’m be looking for a husband soon probably would shake things up.

:bigyikes:



I can just picture you cuddling up with your dad, holding your teddy bear and talking about women’s breasts

Oh I have to stop!!!

 

[Smber2c]

Move out.

Yeah, I know I really should be getting to that. I’m in one of the areas that Katrina destroyed, so housing is pricey at the moment. My older brother just bought a small place down here and they took him to the cleaners. Just renting is marked way up and I’ve not much a bank roll.

I was a Catholic missionary for a year in Montana, which doesn’t exactly pay to hot (as in I raised my salary). Then following that I came back to the south in January and started trying to find my place back in my home town.

But, I think there is alot of truth that it’s lazy to come back and just move in with mom and dad.

 

[baltobetsy]

But, I think there is alot of truth that it’s lazy to come back and just move in with mom and dad.

All the more reason not to lecture your father on morality. If it comes up in conversation again, give your opinion respectfully, perhaps pointing out how the difference in circumstances affects how one views a female chest.

As for his TV habits, what you’re doing is working. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

Betsy

 

[CCM08]

I’ve never understood why Americans are so obessed with moving out the day you turn 18. Sure in times past at that age you entered the work force, got married not long after and what not. With university and such independence is coming later and living away from home is just a strain on parents, child, and resources.

 

[jamannor]

Here Here! I’m 24 and although I’m about to move in with my future wife in September, we held to our beliefs and have waited to marriage. We both lived on our own during college and I paid for it all myself, but after college it only made sense to move in with my parents until the marriage.

I’ve never understood why Americans are so obessed with moving out the day you turn 18. Sure in times past at that age you entered the work force, got married not long after and what not. With university and such independence is coming later and living away from home is just a strain on parents, child, and resources.

 

[ddeluna]

Liberanosamalo;2316686:

Snuggle up to him on the couch and say this:
"Daddy, I love you. Soon I will be looking for a husband. I will need to know how to pick out a good one. I need for you to show me what a good man is,QUOTE]

That is hilarious…cause I’m a guy

Thought telling him I’m be looking for a husband soon probably would shake things up.

:extrahappy: :extrahappy: :extrahappy: :extrahappy: :extrahappy:
I’m still laughing as I type this. Way too funny!!! The best entertainment I’ve had all week!! Ha!

David

 

[Sr_Sally]

All the more reason not to lecture your father on morality. If it comes up in conversation again, give your opinion respectfully, perhaps pointing out how the difference in circumstances affects how one views a female chest.

As for his TV habits, what you’re doing is working. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

Betsy

 

[Sr_Sally]

Dress standards do have a lot to do with culture and location. Sure, native tribes in Africa and other places often don’t wear as much as we do, but the girls going to prom aren’t in Africa! They also aren’t likely to want to go around topless after a few children and breastfeeding like the African women do either!

Your dad is a grown man and so you don’t get to have a lot of say on what he thinks. You can continue to set a good example by your words and deeds, and turn away from his raunchy TV and talk.

On another note, I don’t think you need to move out immediately. It isn’t lazy to live with your parents as long as you are pulling your weight with household chores and contributing to expenses as you are able. Throughout the world and history, families lived together beyond children turning 18, so you’ve got precidence on your side.

 

[Cari]

Throughout the world and history, families lived together beyond children turning 18, so you’ve got precidence on your side.

Very true. However, raunchy TV viewed in front of women and children hasn’t been around nearly as long. With morals decaying at the rate they are, it’s a sticky line to walk- balancing respect for one’s parents with respect for human sexuality.

Try finding a roommate. I’m sure there’s other people suffering from post-Katrina housing sticker-shock. Just make sure it’s not a woman who shares your father’s “topless is terrific” theory.

 

[Liberanosamalo]

Gosh. Now I’m laughing. Partly because it’s not always obvious the gender of the poster, and partly because of y’all’s answers.

And good for you for not being like so many sons who would join right in to dad’s objectionable habits.

Okay, amending the answer:

Snuggle up to him on the couch (or sit in a chair opposite him) and say this:

“Dad, I love you. I hope someday to make some woman a good husband. You’re not always setting a good example. I can’t lecture you about your tv habits. But it embarrasses me. So I’m moving out.”

Much different dynamics going on here. Because you’re a son. And your dad will probably resent a lecture. And he’ll invite you to leave if you don’t like it. So best to leave first.

Sorry to have misinterpreted your first post. But glad I provided humor for everyone.

 

[Riley259]

A local school district recently redid their Prom dress guidelines to say that “girls can not show excessive cleavage”. While discussing this story with my father, he commented that as a doctor he sees chests all the time. He said that we just made up this standard and whoever wants to drop it should.

I tried to explain that people are temped by certain types of dress and that this would certainly be magnified by women being topless.

He said too bad, people in Africa do it, what if you went there?

So, I’ve got a question but not the obvious one. My question is, how do you talk to your own father about morality? He really doesn’t care at times and it hurts the morality of our whole family.

For that matter, what’s a good method for telling him that the movies he watches are raunchy? RIght now when the movies gets bad my mom, my brother, and I get up and go in another room. I think he’s kinda caught on as he’s watching more westerns and we stay through those, but how do I broach this with my dad.

(to aid in suggestions, I’m 23 living in a very small home with my parents and 2 of my brothers: 21, 19)

Pope JP II said it well in Theology of the Body: Men and women cover up because of shame and protection from disordered lust.