How to get closer to God

[rusty_boi]

Ok here the background

Basically since high school i never attended church unless it was with school. Now for the last 3 years ive had trouble approaching girls and consequently that was when my last gf was. Anyway so about 3 months ago i had a dream and i cant remember what happend in it in detail but basically i woke up and i had a great desire to go to church and it was only through this that god would be with me on finding a girlfriend.

Anyway so i attended church every sunday unless i was at my sisters house who lives and hour away and listened intently to the homily every week and i learned alot. E.g. before i would see a girl and expect god to get them to approach me. I learned that god gives you oppurtunites and you have to take them. So i kept going to church and with this in mind approached girls. For the whole 3 months i got shot down. And about 3 weeks ago came to the realisation God was not going to be there for me. Now im not angry or resentful towards him because he does do so many other things for me in life and i make sure i appreciate that. Bypraying to him every night. But lately my nightly prayers have been a chore not out of want and im not feeling close to him mainly because im hurt by not only the fact he didnt help me but ive had a false sense of hope. Ive been shot down pretty hard but alot of girls these last 3 months.

Now its important to note that i did not go to church just so i can get a gf. Because at one stage a girl came up to me and we were talking and i got her number, she later blew me off. But this whole time i thought she was interested i still went to church. I would like to know if there are anyways i can feel close to god again, ive accepted he is not going help me in the gf department, which still feels strange because the bible says that he helps in all fascets of life no matter what.

Any one have any opinions on how i can get close to him again?? Or any other opinions/critisisms on my situation good or bad i would like to here it because i feel lost.

 

[Tietjen]

First, welcome to the forms!

How to draw closer to God… I think that depends on you. Some people absolutely love to pray. They feel closer to God when they do this. Others find that they move closer to God while listening to good Christian music. Some people have felt God near them when they seclude themselves from others while other people feel close to God when they are participating in group-discussions, forums, or volunteering at a soup kitchen. I, personally, feel close to God during all these times, but I feel closest to Him during the Mass.

I’d also not give up on the idea of God helping you find a girlfriend. You said that after 3 months you felt as though He wasn’t helping. Please remember that God does things in His time and that does not always coincide with our desired schedule. God bless.

 

[water]

Hello and welcome to the CAF rusty_boi! I am happy that you’ve come and I am glad that you have a desire to want to get closer to God.

On your post, you mentioned about the dream and when you woke up you had a desire to go to church. That is a blessing.

Just few minutes ago, I too had a dream while taking a short nap. In the dream, I was visiting a very small church. I didn’t know understand much about this dream of mine, but hopefully, it could mean something to you.

In my dream, I saw a lady still kneeling and praying inside the church after most people had left. I came to recognize she was someone I really met person in this morning at a nursing home. The person I met indeed on a wheel chair in real life, but in the dream she was fine.

This morning, I went to visit some folks at a local nursing home. She was one of them; and she asked me to take her to my church, unfortuanately I didn’t have a mean to take her and permission to do that yet.

So, here we were together in my dream at a church. She was all happy and smiling and healing.

Perhaps, you may ask your parish and see if you can go along with some folks who visit the Nursing home. There, you may find the desire to want to church as the old folks who want to but cannot go.

As the lady in my dream who did use the wheelchair in real life but was all happy and healed in my dream, your desire and your going to church may allow God to heal you spiritually and to give you strength and courage to love Him so that you will live your life according to His Will.

I remember you in my prayer.
God bless.

 

[fhansen]

I think one thing God is telling you is that you need to stop telling Him what to do. To decide beforehand what you need and then challenge God to meet those demands is not the way it works. Have patience. Learn to let Him be the boss first. Church is not a meat market. He’ll take care of you and your needs as they come. He’ll bring the right girl into your life when you need her. Be patient. Pray. Seek God first and the other stuff will fall into place.

 

[rusty_boi]

Thankyou all for your help, ive realised to accept god and all good things will follow.