How to get the most of the mass when can't participate in Communion?

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It’s just occured to me. What can we do to get the most of the mass when for various reasons we can’t go to Communion?

If the reason is, let’s say, a mortal sin(s), do we have to repent, say to God that we’re sorry, pray for his mercy and long for Him?

Yes, I know the answer - go to confession as soon as possible 🙂 But what can we do to avail ourselves of our presence at the mass when we can’t go and receive the Eucharist once we’re already there?

What do you do?
 
Since the Lord makes Himself present at the Mass in such a special way, you can sincerely pray to Him and acknowledge His infinite love for you. Just talk to the Lord as you would to a very good friend…and He is more than that.
 
It’s just occured to me. What can we do to get the most of the mass when for various reasons we can’t go to Communion?

If the reason is, let’s say, a mortal sin(s), do we have to repent, say to God that we’re sorry, pray for his mercy and long for Him?

Yes, I know the answer - go to confession as soon as possible 🙂 But what can we do to avail ourselves of our presence at the mass when we can’t go and receive the Eucharist once we’re already there?

What do you do?
I think that everyone should learn how to make a Spiritual Act of Holy Communion. It’s the first thing I teach my RCIA Inquirers. 🙂

***My Jesus,
I believe that You are present in the Most Holy Sacrament.

I love You above all things, and I desire to receive You into my soul.

Since I cannot at this moment receive You sacramentally, come at least spiritually into my heart. I embrace You as if You were already there and unite myself wholly to You. Never permit me to be separated from You.

Amen.***
 
You can also approach the Altar, with arms crossed over your chest, and recieve a blessing. The fullness of the Mass comes in it’s context as a celebration of the Eucharist. It’s even more of a blessing when you can recieve Our Lord in the Eucharist.
 
I think that everyone should learn how to make a Spiritual Act of Holy Communion. It’s the first thing I teach my RCIA Inquirers. 🙂

***My Jesus,
I believe that You are present in the Most Holy Sacrament.

I love You above all things, and I desire to receive You into my soul.

Since I cannot at this moment receive You sacramentally, come at least spiritually into my heart. I embrace You as if You were already there and unite myself wholly to You. Never permit me to be separated from You.

Amen.***
Thank you. I always pray something like that when I can’t receive the sacrament.

Where’s that prayer btw from? Where do we have it from? thx
 
You can also approach the Altar, with arms crossed over your chest, and recieve a blessing. The fullness of the Mass comes in it’s context as a celebration of the Eucharist. It’s even more of a blessing when you can recieve Our Lord in the Eucharist.
Mm, yes, of course I knew about receiving the blessing but not about arms crossed over one’s chest.

As I’m thinking over it, I think adults never go and receive the blessing. At least I think I haven’t seen anyone… Only the small children go who can’t receive the communion yet.

What about you? Do you see adults going to receive the blessing sometimes?
 
Do you see adults going to receive the blessing sometimes?
Only members of the RCIA. Adults who have already received their First Holy Communion don’t go up for the blessing.
 
Only members of the RCIA. Adults who have already received their First Holy Communion don’t go up for the blessing.
Yes, I understand. But why is it so? I didn’t realize this much before. Is it just something engrained in us like: “Well, I’m an adult, I have already received First Holy Communion so I’ve got no need anymore to go there for the blessing when actually I can go to confession and then receive the Eucharist” Why is it so? Mm… I wonder 🙂
 
Yes, I understand. But why is it so? I didn’t realize this much before. Is it just something engrained in us like: “Well, I’m an adult, I have already received First Holy Communion so I’ve got no need anymore to go there for the blessing when actually I can go to confession and then receive the Eucharist” Why is it so? Mm… I wonder 🙂
That’s probably it, actually. I don’t really know.

I guess part of it too is that the person will receive a personal blessing from the priest when he goes to Confession, so he is not in need of an “extra” blessing - and he can probably get the priest to hear his Confession directly after Mass, under most circumstances, so he’s not really in the same situation as someone who’s waiting several months for First Holy Communion.
 
It’s just occured to me. What can we do to get the most of the mass when for various reasons we can’t go to Communion?

If the reason is, let’s say, a mortal sin(s), do we have to repent, say to God that we’re sorry, pray for his mercy and long for Him?

Yes, I know the answer - go to confession as soon as possible 🙂 But what can we do to avail ourselves of our presence at the mass when we can’t go and receive the Eucharist once we’re already there?

What do you do?
Pray. The Mass itself is considered to be a prayer. Just pray, make a good act of contrition and get to confession as soon as possible so that you can once again receive Holy Communion. You might also ask for spiritual communion as well. I often have to go that particular route.
 
Thank you all for your postings.

Gee, the Mass feels sooo different when one can’t go and receive the Communion.😊
 
In addition to sincerely and devoutly making a spiritual Communion, why not recite the chaplet of Divine Mercy during Communion time while others are receiving? 🙂
 
In addition to sincerely and devoutly making a spiritual Communion, why not recite the chaplet of Divine Mercy during Communion time while others are receiving? 🙂
 
You can also approach the Altar, with arms crossed over your chest, and recieve a blessing. .
only if your pastor allows this, which is not part of the communion rite, and is in fact redundant, since the entire congregation is blessed at the dismissal. Please consider the classic answer to your question, spiritual communion, for which the traditional prayer has bee posted above. Just your presence at Mass and intent for spiritual communion can help you benefit from God’s grace to persist in contrition and make it to confession. The grace of the sacrament benefits all who are present indeed, the whole Church, and is healing grace as well.
 
In addition to sincerely and devoutly making a spiritual Communion, why not recite the chaplet of Divine Mercy during Communion time while others are receiving? 🙂
That seems like a very good idea.

When you can’t receive the Communion are you used to kneeling while praying?
 
Can you be a devout Catholic without receiving communion?

On the surface, yes. A fellow I know can’t get a divorce from his wife who lives in a different country, but apparently did manage to get legally married to someone in this country…I guess that’s bigamy, but I won’t tell if you don’t tell. Unlike millions of others, he recognizes that the Church does not permit his receiving of the sacrament, so he doesn’t receive, and very solemnly and prayerfully witnesses the liturgy of the Eucharist.

He is, in one sense, making the most of his situation. In another sense, he should be doing everything in his power to get his marital situation fixed, but without knowing all the details, I think he’s accepted his situation as his lot in life. He may never receive communion for the rest of his life, but he respects the Real Presence.

I’d say he “receives” communion in a truer sense than those who receive communion in a literal/physical sense but don’t respect the entirety of the sacrament.
 
Can you be a devout Catholic without receiving communion?

On the surface, yes. A fellow I know can’t get a divorce from his wife who lives in a different country, but apparently did manage to get legally married to someone in this country…I guess that’s bigamy, but I won’t tell if you don’t tell. Unlike millions of others, he recognizes that the Church does not permit his receiving of the sacrament, so he doesn’t receive, and very solemnly and prayerfully witnesses the liturgy of the Eucharist.

He is, in one sense, making the most of his situation. In another sense, he should be doing everything in his power to get his marital situation fixed, but without knowing all the details, I think he’s accepted his situation as his lot in life. He may never receive communion for the rest of his life, but he respects the Real Presence.

I’d say he “receives” communion in a truer sense than those who receive communion in a literal/physical sense but don’t respect the entirety of the sacrament.
Mm, you know what? I think there’s one “catch” in this all. People like your friend (and it applies to me and everyone else) though they are really sincere and they believe in the Real Presence fall short of one thing: the Paschal Lamb in Ex 12 representing Jesus must have been also eaten…

It didn’t matter how sincere the Israelites were, how well they prepared the lamb - it had to be also eaten. This way God promised to fulfil what he said. The same applies for Jesus in the Eucharist. If we are to receive his life, His promises in the fullest possible way, believing in the Real Presence is not enough. Unless we eat His flesh and drink His blood we’ll have no life. BTW, these are not my words (Jn 6,53)🙂 Moreover, even the demons surely believe in the Real Presence…

Just a thought 🙂
 
Mm, you know what? I think there’s one “catch” in this all. People like your friend (and it applies to me and everyone else) though they are really sincere and they believe in the Real Presence fall short of one thing: the Paschal Lamb in Ex 12 representing Jesus must have been also eaten…

It didn’t matter how sincere the Israelites were, how well they prepared the lamb - it had to be also eaten. This way God promised to fulfil what he said. The same applies for Jesus in the Eucharist. If we are to receive his life, His promises in the fullest possible way, believing in the Real Presence is not enough. Unless we eat His flesh and drink His blood we’ll have no life. BTW, these are not my words (Jn 6,53)🙂 Moreover, even the demons surely believe in the Real Presence…

Just a thought 🙂
Good point with the demons there. 😉

I of course agree that you ought to believe and consume, that is the standard, anything short of that is substandard.

If I was trying to make a point, it’s that it’s better to believe and not consume than to consume and not believe.

Kind of like a 7 year old who believes and never receives and dies…you don’t receive Christ in the fullest possible sense, but you have received Christ.

But the thief who steals dozens of ciboriums and consumes without believing in the real presence has not received Christ. You have to receive Christ in your heart before you receive him in your stomach.
 
It’s just occured to me. What can we do to get the most of the mass when for various reasons we can’t go to Communion?

If the reason is, let’s say, a mortal sin(s), do we have to repent, say to God that we’re sorry, pray for his mercy and long for Him?

Yes, I know the answer - go to confession as soon as possible 🙂 But what can we do to avail ourselves of our presence at the mass when we can’t go and receive the Eucharist once we’re already there?

What do you do?
Laudatur Iesus Christus.

To a certain extent “[how] to get the most [out] of the [M]ass” is the wrong question. The Mass is primarily a sacrifice. It is something Christ Jesus gives to the Father. We join with Christ and offer ourselves with Christ to the Father in the Spirit.

The proper question might rather be “how do I ***give ***more completely in the Mass?”

One important step in worshiping more fully is to pay close attention to what is actually happening at the Mass.

We purify ourselves as best we can, so that we are worthy to offer sacrifice. As we enter, we wash away our venial sins with Holy Water, renewing our Baptismal vows with the Sign of the Cross. This is the beginning of our re-commitment to God, our self-donation to the Trinity. We make an act of contrition and ask the Church, both those members present and those in Heaven, to pray for our forgiveness, that we might be worthy to offer ourselves as acceptable gifts to God.

During the Liturgy of the Word, we participate in a dialogue with God; He speaks to us through the texts of the Scriptures; we then respond by professing our Faith through the Creed, which distils the truths that the Scripture has made known to us. We then are bold enough to ask God for things; however, only things that are “in Christ’s name” can be asked. In other words, we display our understanding of the message God has given us, by asking him for and committing ourselves to seek the things that Jesus would deem worthy for us to desire and work for.

We then begin the sacrifice proper. We prepare ourselves mentally to commit ourselves to God and to the pursuit of holiness. We “sacrifice” ourselves, by setting ourselves apart for God’s use; we offer ourselves, our lives, our intentions to the Holy Trinity. This is done by identifying with the grains of wheat that are gathered by human labor and baked into the bread offering, by identifying ourselves with the countless grapes that are gathered by human hands and made into the offering of wine. We also show our willingness to offer ourselves and our labor by giving some portion of the money we have made so that it can be committed to God’s use in and through the Church.

However, these offerings of ourselves and of our labors are not sufficient as a participation in the Mass. At best they represent our human efforts to live the Gospel message as we have grasped it and to give God what we have to offer. Even though this is all that we have – and frankly we rarely even rise to that level of giving, we tend to hold back some of what we have – but even if we by a supernatural grace were able to fully offer all that we have, as some Great Saints have done, this would be a poor offering to God. On our own we are unworthy to be God’s friends.

Jesus saves us from this shortcoming. As in the Temple sacrifice of old, our offering is made to suffer what the worshiper should suffer. The bread and wine representing all of the members of the Church are placed upon the Altar and they are totally changed. As bread and wine their natures are absolutely destroyed. They cease to be what they were and they become absolutely and completely the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Christ Jesus. (This is what we hope for, for ourselves. In our will and our actions, our hearts and our minds, by participating in this miracle, by allowing ourselves to be offered in that bread and wine, we re-commit ourselves to our conversion to become “the New Man.” We seek to become Christ completely and to have all imperfections burned away from us, so that we can enter into communion with the Trinity.)

Continued . . .
 
Continued . . .

With this act of destruction and Transubstantiation, we are able to act in Christ. The offering on the Altar is no longer our offering of ourselves and our actions, our bread and our wine, it has become the Flesh and Blood of the one and perfect sacrifice made by Jesus Christ on the Cross at Calvary. Just as in the ancient Temple in Jerusalem, the Flesh and Blood of the Victim is brought from the place where He was killed and is placed upon the Altar to be offered to God the Father. This offering of the Flesh and Blood is the Eucharistic Prayer. It is the high point of the Mass, the point at which we through Christ, our High Priest, offer both ourselves and Christ Jesus to the Father in the Perfect Sacrifice, which is the acceptable expression of complete love for God.

The Holy Trinity then responds to this offering of Christ and His Church by recognizing us as children of God, worthy of membership in His intimate family. We recall Christ’s permission to call God “Our Father” and we pray as Jesus taught us, accepting God’s invitation to participate in the exchange of Love which is the Peace of Christ.

Then, again as in the ancient Temple, the Sacrifice comes to a close as the Priest – Christ in the person of the presiding Priest – eats a portion of the offering. Those members of the family who are able to discern the Lord in the Host and Sacred Blood are also called to participate in this “companionship” with the Trinity. (“Companion” is from the Latin roots “co-” meaning “with” and “panis” meaning bread. At its root “companionship” is the love of those who eat together.)

If one is not in a state of Grace allowing him to safely join in Holy Communion – and to eat the Body or drink the Blood unworthily is mortal to the soul – the first question to ask is “Why would one allow this to happen?” Why would a member of the Church of Christ come to this Liturgy offered by the Son to the Father, in the Spirit, without making himself clean of all declared enmity against the Trinity? – which is the essence of mortal sin. By sinning mortally, one makes a conscious and intentional decision to reject God’s invitation to be a member of His family. What inconsistency or lack of integrity would prompt one to come to the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass without first declaring contrition for rejecting God’s offered love and friendship?

But, setting that important question aside, what is one to do at Mass when in such a state? One should strive with all of one’s mind, heart, soul, and strength to make the sacrifice of one’s self in the Holy Mass true. One should give oneself as completely as one is able to the Trinity and join as completely as one is able with Christ Jesus in offering the Flesh and Blood, Soul and Divinity of the Son to God the Father, in the Holy Spirit. When I strive for this full, conscious, and actual participation in the Holy Sacrifice, the question of ‘what will I get out of it’ never enters my mind.

Pax Christi vobiscum.

John Hiner
 
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