How to help my mom with her feelings of loneliness

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Ever since my mom left my dad (he was very abusive. both physically and mentally) she’s been feeling lonely. She lived with me for a little while and things were better but now that I have my own place, she’s very, very lonely. I took her out for christmas eve and christmas day. We went to both masses together. She has friends and is invited out to christmas dinners but she doesn’t go because she’s depressed with all the families she sees. I guess because we only have each other she’s sad.

I don’t know what to do for her
 
Has she talked to a Priest? She was brave to leave and to stay gone. But that was a life she knew, though it was not healthy. It may take some time for her to adjust. Pray and take her to Mass. GOD BLESS!
 
Has she considered going to a Dr for an evaluation for depression? Perhaps that might be an option if she is open to it since she is closing herself off from her friends.
 
I take her to mass. She talked to a priest once after she left but that priest left that church and she doesn’t wanna talk to anyone else.
 
she doesn’t want to talk to a doctor about her depression because she doesn’t want to think about her past she said
 
J,

I think the best you can do for her at this point would be to continue encouraging her. Any loss, even leaving an abusive situation, is emotionally traumatic. She may be feeling ashamed that she had to leave your father.

Survivors of abuse carry guilt and shame which is difficult to heal from, hence your mother’s shunning professional help (which I believe would be beneficial for her). Just love her. Keep encouraging her. Help her rebuild her self-esteem.

Your support is vital.

I wish you both well,

Stuart
 
How long ago did they split?
How long ago did you get your own place?
Did she seem to be doing better at one time, but now has a relapse?

:pray:t2::pray:t2::pray:t2: for your dear mother
 
They split several years ago and I got my own place last month. I’d say she used to be worse but she’s very lonely now. Before she had a lot of anxiety and depression. Now I think it’s just depression
 
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Was there ever a point where she was doing better emotionally (but now she’s readjusting to a life change because you moved out), or has she downward-spiraled ever since your folks split?
 
I would just say she’s been the same. I don’t think it’s been a downward spiral. Maybe slightly better
 
Depression is real and needs treatment. Talking about it is not the same as dwelling on it.
Maybe she could spend some time at Adoration reflecting on how OUr Lady dealt with the execution of her DIvine Son. Ask her gently to see the priest. There are many helpful avenues for her. But first, she has to stand up and acknowledge that she needs help. She has spent a lifetime defining herself as a spouse or a mom. SHe is a woman, with special gifts of her own that are not tied to other people. Counseling can help her discern what those gifts are so that she can share and enjoy them.
God bless you, I wish my mom was still with me, It’s clear how much you love her.
 
Talking to a counselor would not be amiss at this point.
She’s had a rough road and you shouldn’t be her main confidant because you’re still her kiddo.
:pray:t2::pray:t2::pray:t2:
 
That’s unfortunate to hear; I assume her past was not so great. I will pray for your mother for relief from depression.
 
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