How to increase trust in God?

[Bataar]

I was talking with my mom the other day about my life situation and we came to the conclusion that I don’t really trust God. I mean, why would I? From my perspective (I’m not trying to be selfish, but this is the only perspective I have and know) God has not given me a reason to. My life is going nowhere and no matter how much I ask for guidance, help, understanding, etc, my prayers seem to be ignored. I’m not asking for miraculous things to happen like winning the lottery, just simple things to help me find my path.

I have a hard time believing that I’m on the right path or that this is God’s will for me as it’s not leading me anywhere. My life is pretty much empty. I have no hopes (I’m referring to worldly hopes such has having a good career, a family, friends, etc), dreams, passions or goals. I’m not suicidal but honestly, life seems pointless. Having Aspergers makes it very hard to interact with people or change/grow interests so it feels like I’m in a rut with no way out. How do you work around the fact that I hate being lonely (it’s miserable) but you hate the process of meeting new people. It drives me nuts.

Going to church and even praying anymore makes me feel like more of a hypocrite than anything because I don’t believe God will help me. I mean, why start now? I can honestly say that the only reason I still go to Mass is because it’s a mortal sin not to. It adds nothing positive to my life (that I can notice) and in fact, makes me feel worse as I’m aware God exists, but is not helping or comforting at all.

I used to have a really good friend I was close with. Over time, he started hanging out with another group of people and it became harder and harder to interact with. Eventually, it got to the point where I’d call him, leave a message and never hear back. After a while of going through that, I just stopped calling. That’s what prayer seems like to me. Leaving messages for God and never getting a response or even an acknowledgement that you called.

 

[fred_conty]

Sounds to me like the problem is more social than anything else. You are lonely and maybe scared to try to make friends.

One way to meet people in a natural setting is sports. Try to get active in a sport or school activity of some kind. This is a very natural way to get to know people and make friends.

And when you do meet someone, be interested in what they say and what they think. This doesn’t mean you agree with them but that you share in their feelings and plans. Try to do for them what you would like for someone to do for you…thoughtfulness. That is what Jesus asks us to do…to consider others. Then eventually you will begin to hear your phone ring. It really isn’t hard to do.

And don’t be afraid to get interested in something new to you that they like. It will help you to broaden your knowledge and allow you to experience the excitement of something new to share with others.

If someone says something you disagree with, you don’t have to express this if it is just about an opinion. Just let it go and save a friend. After all a friend is worth more than an unimportant opinion. Learn their likes and dislikes and avoid the latter. Try to make them comfortable around you. The more you empty yourself the more you will be full.

 

[captainrick]

God “helped” you by giving you free will, so you must use it to find the right path. It won’t be easy - life can be a struggle! I’ll pray for you…