How to live like the Desert Fathers?

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Lately I have struggled with loneliness. Through prayer and conversation with my close friends over the phone, I have come to realize that I am not lonely, but in solitude.

I was recommended to look into the lives of the Desert Fathers. How do I live this lifestyle in the modernistic society we live in? Does anyone live this type of lifestyle outside of the monastery? When speaking of daily prayer, what is the norm of this lifestyle?
 
I seem to remember reading about urban hermits a few years ago.
I’m sorry I don’t have any links, but it is a thing.
 
Was your pastor or confessor the one who recommended that you look into the lives of the desert fathers?

Did the person who recommended this suggest that you read about the desert fathers, or live like the desert fathers?
 
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I know of a person who tried pursuing the hermit path under the Diocesan banner, but it’s very difficult, depending on where you live. If you want to be a priest, that’s great; if you want to be any other kind of consecrated religious, they think you need to go off and be a Benedictine/Franciscan/Dominican/whatever in a group setting, because they know how to handle the group— but they don’t really want to get involved with a single person vocation towards the eremetic life, let alone really be involved in their support/maintenance/etc. So it’s all about how the Diocese feels about Canon 603— if you’re out of luck, it’s a very tough row to hoe, and can be years or decades of frustration. Usually, people in those situations seem to end up living in the world-- working a quiet job, living humbly and in relative solitude in the midst of the bustle of their town or city, and spending their remaining non-work hours in prayer.

The person I know wrote their own Rule. I don’t know if they had the discipline to keep to it-- that’s important. Just like being self-employed means your success or failure is directly tied to you, and not other people; being a hermit means that you don’t have other people’s strengths to lean on. So some people are good at being self-motivated, and others aren’t.

Depending on where you’re located, you might check with your local chancery for hermits who currently live under 603, and visit with them. See the diversity of their approaches.

Otherwise, you might check out websites like the Carmelite Hermits out of Oklahoma, or the Hermit Sisters of Mary out of Idaho, where groups of hermits have come together to pool their efforts in a communal way, but still maintain their solitude and seclusion.

Good luck with your path! 💙
 
The path to an officially recognized eremetical life under Canon 603 seems very complicated to me. But there’s nothing wrong with solitude, or living a semi-eremetical life or even a fully eremetical life as a lay person, circumstances permitting. One doesn’t need any special diocesan permission to do so, either. If you want to emulate the desert fathers in your spiritual life and lifestyle, be blessed!
Thomas a Kempis had much to say about the company of others, versus the company of Christ. The cure for loneliness is prayer.
 
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