How to make friends? Why cant I make friends?

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If you are not the extroverted type, start with task related activities.You can volunteer at things you enjoy perhaps, at your parish. You can also find friends at your job. You can regrow relationships with those you already know too.

The more you are out and around people the better, and you will find yourself with many aquaintances that may develop into friendships.

If it is true what your parents are telling you, don’t do that anymore. Never drop your friends when you get into a relationship, if that what happened. Make time for them too.
 
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People typically make friends through proximity and similar interest. So, join some clubs related to things that you’re interested in. When I moved last year, I got involved in a weekly gaming group and a few other interest groups that had regular meetings. That turned into going out with other group members after the meetings to grab some food, which turned into weekend outings, etc. It’s easier to talk to people when you already know you have something in common.

In regard to being a good friend, just keep in mind that boundaries are important. If someone tells you something, unless they’ve specifically told you it’s okay, don’t tell it to other people, gossip, or bring it up in conversation when other people are around. Be respectful of space. Not every friendship develops into an intimate relationship, and it’s not something you can force. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, that’s okay, too. Try to have a peer relationship and relate on equal terms. If the friendship is more about your needs or their needs, it’s not going to work out well. Even if you feel like you’re clearly better at something or more “right” or knowledgeable, try to be graceful about it. You don’t have to agree with everything to be friendly and enjoy someone’s company. Focus on the things that work well in the relationship rather than the things that don’t.

Good luck! It’s hard to make new friends sometimes, especially if you’re shy or have social anxiety, but it’s worth it.
 
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