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The Mass
sine dialogo sustained and nourished at least a millennium and a half’s worth of saints, martyrs, and doctors of the Church, so I think I can get by without. Besides, most of the time I assist at the OF anyway, so I get my fill of congregational responses.
And no one’s talking, I don’t think, about being “admonished” for saying the responses along with the sacred ministers, just that it’s not done. You couldn’t hear them in the first place, so it’d be pretty tough to try. But maybe this is more popular in other parts of the country or something, I don’t know.
It’s definitely true that some traditional Catholics would prefer the Mass to be prayed the way it was for centuries, and other Catholics think it should be updated and modernized to give to the laity more and more of the functions that used to be reserved to the clergy. Whatever floats your boat, I guess, these days!