Hi,
I would like to share with you some tips/advice that have helped me greatly regarding chastity/purity if you don’t mind.
Id like to start by quoting a small piece from C.S. Lewis
C.S. Lewis:
For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back; sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides.
And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman.
For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no woman can rival.
Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover; no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity.
In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself…After all, almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison.”
I would also like to share with you these motivational tips which I believe will help you greatly in overcoming this, remember to overcome this is within your power, don’t let the evil one deceive you by telling you otherwise.
Motivational Tips to Help You Quit -
Keep the following 3 Ds in mind when you have a craving
Delay: remember that the worst cravings last for only a few minutes and will become even less frequent the longer you have quit.
**Deep breath: **this should help you relax and focus your mind on something else.
Do something else: you could listen to music or pray (pray is usually the best). Find something that keeps your mind busy and distracted and focus on it, don’t allow your thoughts to go into temptation, when tempted, do not give give the temptation any attention, instead give it your back.
**1) **A slip up doesn’t mean you’ve failed. What’s important is to work out how you can stop a slip up from happening next time.
2) Don’t say
“this is my last time” say
“I’m not going to give in today” and take one day at a time.
3) Each craving only lasts a few minutes. Don’t let this be the day that you blow it.
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4)** Once you have quit for a while, the desires to give in will be much less intense and frequent and remember, the worst cravings only last a few minutes, so remember the 3 D’s above (Delay, Deep Breathe, Do something else).
**5) **It’s important that it’s your decision to quit. That you want to quit and that you feel confident you can succeed.
**6) **Be clear about your reason to quit. It will motivate you to keep going.
7) The most dangerous thought you can have is. I will just give in this one time.
**8) **You may feel as if you have just lost a friend, but really you have just lost your worst enemy.
**9) **Remember the sooner you quit. The sooner you will reap the benefits.
**10) **The more times you try to quit. The better you will get at it until you quit for good.
11) Immediately get rid of any provocative magazines/images etc anything that reminds you of giving in (Otherwise It’s like those who say* “I’m going on a diet”* yet fill their cupboard with junk food, it isn’t going to work, you can’t rely on will power when it comes to these things, you need to set your environment up so that it pulls for your success).
12) Practise saying to yourself
“No thanks, I’m chaste/pure”
13) Avoid challenging occasions where there may be provocative images.
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14)** If you are feeling tense Exercise, lift some weights, take a walk or go for a jog.
15) The most common quitting method for most people is to stop suddenly Go cold turkey.
16) When you quit you might feel some different withdrawal symptoms This is because your body is re-adjusting to being without, it will pass.
When it comes to such desires, I believe they are addictive in nature much the same as things like smoking are, so if you view it as an addiction like smoking, I believe there are dozens of very, very affective resources out there to help you quit. Remember the worst cravings only last a few minutes and they become less intense and frequent the longer you have quit and do not fear you will lose your sex drive, that is a lie, this is why motivational tip number** 7** is
“The most dangerous thought you can have is. I will just give in this one time.”
Take one day at a time and tell yourself
“don’t let this be the day that you blow it.”
I believe this site is also helpful -
chastity.org/
Never Give up Giving Up -
quit.org.au/keep-quitting/
Please continue to next post -
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(I would say a lot more), but feel free me to PM if you want to exchange ideas or support in your fight.